Ds had nightmare about his teacher shouting

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Ds had a nightmare that MR X was shouting at him for not trying hard enough to do his work at school ( this has happend). Ds has autism has an ehcp.

Anyway DS had put MR X as his picture on his home screen. I asked him why and he said because I want to stare at him.

Its sad really that it's on his mind so much that he's had a bad dream over it. 😢

How old is your DS. I don't think he should have a phone if he's taking photos of teachers with it

Why does he have a photo of his teacher? That is weird behaviour.

He's not he got it from the school website. He does not have a phone

How old is he? Why does he want to stare at the teacher? This seems like obsessive behaviour. Is he like this with any other adults?

In your op you say he's put his teachers face as his Home Screen. Then he hasn't got a phone. Is it on his computer?

He got it of the school website. But ds gets given a picture of his teacher every year. So it's not unusual for him to have a picture.

I'm not sure what he's thinking. Maybe it's his way of coping with his stress /upset I did say In my op he has autism

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It’s inappropriate for him to have his teacher as his homescreen picture so you should discourage that and guide him to choose something nicer. I would tell the school that your ds is developing a concerning obsession because it’s not surprising he’s dreaming about his teacher if he’s thinking about him so much.

I have told him to remove it and put happy things because it will make him feel happy to look at nice things .

But no he's not developing concerning obsession he's a little boy with autism who is worried about things and has been scared of this teacher because he shouts at him. Maybe ds thought if he looked at his normal face and not scary face he would feel better.

Speak to the school. Maybe he needs a different teacher if he's not coping.

Who gives it to him?!

He's getting a different teacher. I think he just needs reminding of that and his favorite 121/TA is going to be in hos class yo so i will keep reminding him of that

@KerryBlues I'd presume he gets it at the beginning of term to help with the transition of starting a new class?
Perhaps I'm wrong.
To handle it I'd probably insist that the screen saver is replaced and I'd also consider talking to the school to ask about the possibility of moving him classes.
My son is autistic and has had similar problems with a teacher (anxiety after shouting, not the screensaver thing) and we did ask if he could be moved class which they did do as it was affecting him hugely not wanting to go to school etc.
Fingers crossed he settles soon!

My son has autism too, I wouldn't post anywhere apart from the sen board as people often just don't get it! Weird behaviour being one answer... really nice attitude of that poster to a child with autism and probably anxiety over returning to school.
Just keep reassuring him op, which I am sure you are, hopefully he will settle into school with a new teacher- perhaps have a chat with school about it when he returns.

It's been the case since reception. Every year he gets a book that says there will be changes. With a pic of MR X saying Mr X will no longer be your teacher. Miss Z will now be your teacher. Miss B will no longer be your TA. Mr E will now be your TA you will use a different door and your lunch will be at 12.30. Some things will stay the same etc.

It's comes from the school through senco. All the children with autism/special needs get one

I would take the ipad away and engage him with other activities.

Developing obsessions can be a common symptom of autism and is often just something that needs to be managed. It’s not meant as a criticism and I apologise if my comment came across unkindly. I work with lots of children with autism and have known many of them to develop fixations on teachers or other students.

Assuming the teacher is just as regular teacher, he will not have wanted to scare your son. A teacher talking in a firm, stern voice could easily be overwhelming for an autistic child. It’s definitely worth talking to the school about all of this and between you both, hopefully you will be able to help your son understand that it is ok for teachers to use stern voices sometimes and it is something to take seriously but not be scared of.

Surely he’s not scared of him if he’s set a photo of him on his device and is sat staring at it? Sounds obsessive which fits with his special needs but depending on his age maybe he has a crush on him!

Either way it’s weird and the photo needs deleting and school website blocking asap!

Thank you. Yes I will I think I Need to keep talking him he now has a different teacher and TA he knows the TA well so unthink I may use that to reassure him

It’s not a way of coping. It’s obsessive behaviour that you need to put a stop to ASAP.

I don't know what to say

That sounds so much like something my autistic DS would do…until a different person annoyed/scared him and then he’d move on to them.

The more I fuss about it the more entrenched he becomes. The best I can hope for is distracting him.

I will stop replying for now I think seens most people want to call my son weird. And have no understanding of how he may think abd reasons behind stuff .

Nothing what so ever said about ds being so worried that he had a nightmare . Nope we will just say what a weirdo my child is