Ds had nightmare about his teacher shouting

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Ds had a nightmare that MR X was shouting at him for not trying hard enough to do his work at school ( this has happend). Ds has autism has an ehcp.

Anyway DS had put MR X as his picture on his home screen. I asked him why and he said because I want to stare at him.

Its sad really that it's on his mind so much that he's had a bad dream over it. 😢

But I genuinely think there IS a difference.

Having a paper copy of pictures of staff as part of a visual timetable is one thing.
Making that photo into the Home Screen on a tablet so you can stare at it is a different thing.

I think it’s because the picture is, at that point, being used out of context in a way in which it wasn’t intended or provided for.

Oh go and educate yourself

So many uneducated people on this thread.
Its disturbing really

What a strange post.

No he does not hold grudges but he does carry the worry with him for a long time. And the dream probably bought it back for him.

Yes the pictures are in the school website. So the whole word can see them and people were talking about safe guarding for the teacher.

Yes he has an EHCP

With respect having autism isnt a get out clause for any and all behaviour. His behaviour is odd and teachers do shout

His behaviour for a child with autism is not odd at all actually

Either educate yourself on autism or dont post comments on threads like these
Uneducated Posters like you and many others are simply making life harder for parents with sen children

And starting a post ‘With Respect’ does not mean you are being respectful, it actually means the opposite !

I have 2 autistic children and an autistic brother and having a screensaver of your old teacher to stare at is weird

100%

Similarly to ‘I’m not being funny but….’ and ‘I’m not being racist but…’

OK
'Withour respect. Stop using autism as an excuse for any and all behaviour. This is weird. Teach him it's not appropriate and change the screen saver to something that is'

Sorted.

Thank you . I was lost for words

I am a SENCO, albeit at Secondary & I have an autistic child myself. It sounds very much like your son is processing the transition from ‘holiday time’ to ‘school time’ and part of that is remembering teachers. As he doesn’t really know his new teacher yet he is hyper focussed on his previous teacher. Having the photo as a screensaver is no different to having a copy of a photo to look at and anyone who understands even a little bit about ASC will know that additional processing time is often necessary. I’d do lots of talking about school, maybe using this years preparation book to discuss new timetables, lunch times etc. Lots of luck to your son for the new school year & hopefully his new teacher is a little bit less shouty than his previous teacher.

You really lack in understanding autism you really do .

You're making a rod for your own back and letting him down by ignoring his odd behaviour. He will be an adult not scared of consequences because having autism is a get out clause. 'It's not my fault I have autism' autism is a reason for certain behaviours, it's not an excuse to do what you want.

I have a bachelors degree in special educated needs, a foundation degree in supporting children with autism and my own 2 children with autism and my brother.

The difference is, I TEACH my son and my students, I don't just ignore what they're doing.

I think he will be find. I think he will definitely have a better year . This year abd tes we will talk about the new things that will happen.

I don't believe that at all .

That's fine, it's you who is going to have to live with the fall out of not teaching your son how to cope in a situation without being inappropriate.

i have autism, 2 autistic kids, and autistic brother.. i also have 2 autistic neices/nephews, and worked as a TA with autistic teenagers.

It's not weird.

Or were we not playing autism top-trumps?

If something is weird unless you're autistic. It's still weird and you're using autism as an excuse.

If this is true, I'm glad my daughter has never had to encounter you.

You really cannot TEACH a child not to be autistic or have autistic traits.

No you cant teach a child to not be autistic BUT you can explain its not appropriate to have your teacher as a screen saver. You can redirect that anxiety to who the new teacher will be, talk about the new school year, what might he learn? Has he seen his new classroom yet? Is the new teacher male or female? Same ta will be there, friends will be there etc rather than just saying meh he's autistic so it doesn't matter.

No one has said that your just making it up as you go along . People educated in autism special needs would not post how you have. And someone like you should not be working with children who have autism. You are,way to narrow minded and judgemental to work with children who have autism. As I said don't believe a word you have said . Your just being silly.

You have said its not weird him having a photo of his old teacher as a screensaver because he's autistic.

Despite lots of people telling you it's weird you insist it's not because he's autistic.

Thankfully everyone I've worked with has been happy with me and their kids aren't the ones with their teachers as screensavers.