Ds had nightmare about his teacher shouting

[Gigglewiggle87]

Ds had a nightmare that MR X was shouting at him for not trying hard enough to do his work at school ( this has happend). Ds has autism has an ehcp.

Anyway DS had put MR X as his picture on his home screen. I asked him why and he said because I want to stare at him.

Its sad really that it's on his mind so much that he's had a bad dream over it. 😢

Oh my goodness i am so sorry.
I didnt realise you were so educated

Silly us, Me and @Gigglewiggle87 will be silenced by your academic record

How dare we disagree with you when you have certificates and everything

😂

You can be ‘educated’ in anything and hold a certificate in anything.
Does not mean you have ‘Real life’ experience in EVERY aspect of it

Just because you have two children and a brother with autism and you are ‘educated’ in it does not mean you know every trait and how every autistic brain works -

Ever heard of ‘Every child is different’

You're exhausting. Yes it's a spectrum. Yes every child is different.
No you shouldn't let your children do whatever they want because you can't be bothered to teach them it's inappropriate.

Purposely missing out the posters who have not said that . Hanging on to the ones that suit your agenda.

Why the fuck am I even replying to you when I know your talking shit

How about you stop then?

I have my old boss as a screen saver and stare at it. - weird.
I have my old boss as a screen saver and stare at it but I'm autistic- absolutely fine.

Carry on using autism as an excuse, it's going to end up your problem not mine.

Im exhausting?

Shouldnt you be ‘teaching’ or something

Do run along now

I honestly think this poster is on a wind up. People who are truly educated /trained in special needs/autism . Just do not act in that way

Its her goddamn post!!!

With ‘respect’ Fuck off

Same goes for you, @PoopedAndScooped ??

...you shouldn't let your children do whatever they want because you can't be bothered to teach them it's inappropriate

There you go again: "If you want your autistic child to stop having autistic behaviours, simply teach them not to"

Duh! Why did I never think of that?

I'm wondering if you're on a wind up, frankly.

Same goes for me what?

Yes staring at a screensaver of old teachers is an autism trait. Get a grip.

I would be teaching but it's the summer holidays.

Your ‘job’ suppose to be supporting ‘students’ and their families but here you are just causing distress to SEN parents

I really really hope you dont work with Autistic people

It's her post - doesn't mean she has to respond to every comment. Obviously if she doesn't want to respond why is she when she could just you know, stop.

Everyone is different but people with experience af autism just don't respond that way. Give me strength.

I really really do and I have supported hundreds of students and their families. They didn't use autism as an excuse to do whatever they wanted though and I still hear from parents and get updates about how well their children are doing which is lovely.

At the end of the day all of us with autistic children want them to grow up, be part of society, have some form of independence and be happy. For that to happen they need guidance, particularly on what isn't appropriate.

This is ONE issue.
That does not mean she is ‘letting’ him get away with anything

Your posts are offensive and uncalled for

Im so happy you are so loved, shame you cant show the same compassion here

Or is it easier to be disrespectful to someone asking for help in a area you are so ‘experienced’ in because you are behind a screen and noone can see the ‘real you’

you are aware that exposure therapy is a thing right? And that repeatedly exposing themselves to something that worries/scares them can help them move past it.

Same as i've used exposure therapy to help my son with his ARFID.. and yes. that did include putting photos of food stuffs that he could hardly bear to look at somewhere prominent, like his home page on his tablet where he couldn't avoid looking at it.

The teacher is causing the child anxiety and nightmares, he's found, naturally, something that helps him work through it. I'm sure the teacher won't stay there forever, he'll be there as long as the child needs him there to be able to move past the fear/anxiety of seeing him.

I'd rather my son stared at a photo of a staff member that scares them, than worry he might have a meltdown when seeing that teacher in school.

Are we reading the same thread? The screensaver isn't the issue in her opinion. Others pointed out that it's weird and her response was 'but he's autistic'

To be honest I'm a lot nicer in real life but that's because others are nicer to me in real life as well.

Hopefully he gets on well with his new teacher and there's no concerns in the upcoming year.
I will not be commenting further.

I refuse to engage with you anymore

You are here for the wind up!

Try reading posts properly. I never said it was an autistic trait; it's something he has chosen to do as a tool to calm his extreme anxiety.

Those of us with autistic children know that you have to pick your battles; otherwise you'd be correcting everything your child does, which would be counterproductive, cruel and more anxiety inducing. A step at a time, yes?

Hitting and breaking things? No way, no excuse. Looking at a picture if it helps to calm him make sense of his fears? One to let slide for now.

Exactly

Autism or not, it’s unacceptable and overstepping boundaries (which SEN or not need to be reinforced). Would you like it or feel comfortable if a child you don’t really know screenshotted a photo of you to use as their screensaver without permission, OP?

The photo had an intended purpose, which you and I both know was not for it to be used as a screensaver.

Yes, I have made the transition booklets with all the children that I have worked as a 1-1 with. We would walk around the school to fill it in and say hello to the new teacher. Sometimes I would take the photo and sometimes the child would.

We would also take pictures of things like where we will line up next year, where our coat hangs up or which locker would be ours. Then we would read the booklet as many times as the child wanted to and a copy sometimes went home too for over the long summer break. These things are brilliant for easing anxiety and smoothing the start of the next school year.

As someone with various neurodivergences, as it were, I can in all likelihood be certain that he’s not thinking that if he looks at his normal face he’d feel better. This is a very positive goal.

He’s probably either punishing himself by looking at something (someone) who scares him and shames him to relive the event of being shouted at.

or he’s trying to shame himself and remind himself of this traumatic event where he did ‘wrong’ (ie reinforcing how bad he is)

or he’s trying to “prevent” this happening again by keeping the guy in his line of sight (thinking something along the line of “if I keep him in my mind he won’t shout at me but if I move on then it will happen again” - similar to someone with ocd thinking if they keep thinking about a plane crashing then it won’t crash).

or a combination of these.