Ds had nightmare about his teacher shouting

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Ds had a nightmare that MR X was shouting at him for not trying hard enough to do his work at school ( this has happend). Ds has autism has an ehcp.

Anyway DS had put MR X as his picture on his home screen. I asked him why and he said because I want to stare at him.

Its sad really that it's on his mind so much that he's had a bad dream over it. 😢

You need to tell the school

Thank you. Ds has never done it before.sune he things if he sees his face he won't feel scared. I will try and get him to focus on the teacher he does have

I tried to talk to ds but he's a bit upset once he's asleep I will remove it and try to find something that's better for him.

Developing an unhealthy obsession with a teacher isn't going to help your DS. The teacher has a job to do and this will be impossible if the child has this sort of obsessive behaviour around him.

Speak to the school and ask for him to be moved classes. Speak to your DS and explain that staring at a picture of someone's face won't help anyone.

Well that's massive assumption.

Sorry your DS is having nightmares and feeling anxious about this teacher and the new school year. I hope you're able to reassure him and help him find ways of coping with his worries.

What's a massive assumption?

It seems that you're blaming the teacher and not addressing the unhealthy and worrying behaviour of your DS.

Thank you. I think some of it he won't understand till he's actually been. I think I will keep showing him a picture of the teacher/TA he is having and divert him from what's already been

Bless him, perhaps he thinks if he keeps looking at the photo, he'll be able to see kinder things about him to take away his fear?

It sounds tough.

How old is he OP?

Good god some of these replies are awful. 🙄

You think autism awareness is improving and then bam! Back to reality. 🙄 🤦

OP: I'd make it a rule that home screens, screen savers etc need to be something happy. Focus on positives and frame anything around the topic in a way that helps him focus on the good. Ignore posters being clueless and unkind around transition documents, tablet use, back to school anxiety etc.

Is Mr X his previous teacher or the new one? I'm hoping he's in the past.

I think your ignoring the fact he has special needs. And i have not said at any point he's obsessing over him in a class of people. You made that up on your own.

I saw the photo and he's smiling so maybe ds saw an angry face in his dream as he was shouting at him. and thought he was looking at a smiling face he might remember the smiling one in his mind instead.

He's 9 but has autism and younger his age

Setting his picture as his wallpaper and staring at him is obsessing.

Mr X is last years teacher he has a new one for September he does not know her so I guess he can't really get a good feeling yet . But he knows the TA and he's absolutely fantastic. Ds really likes him . Lasy year was a bad year for ds

Christ people are so mean

OP - I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND THIS BEHAVIOUR - THIS IS EXACTLY HOW MY AUTISTIC NEPHEW IS
IF I DIDNT KNOW BETTER, I WOULD THINK YOU WERE MY SISTER

Mumsnetters - There is no need for negative comments . Autism is very complexed and obsessive behaviours can be part of it. Autism traits & behaviours arent ‘set’ and every child is different
If you done abit of research, you would see this behaviour can and is very NORMAL for a autistic child

No its not . If its bedn going on over a long period possibly. But this is not the case

And how do you know what every child’s way of coping is?
Do you know how their brains work? No

Very rude

I think it might just be ds way of trying to see the happy face in the photo rather than the angry face he may have seen in his dream.

Its not - Its called Autism

Im sorry but you clearly know nothing about Autistic children -
So with all due respect please stop commenting, and being horrible when you clearly have no idea what it is like parenting a child with Autism

My nephew would have it on there so he could stare at him because his been ‘mean to him’ (In his eyes)
Thats how his mind works. His 6

Never feel like you have to explain your child’s way of thinking to people that havent got a single clue

Are you educated about autism at all? Because you really don’t sound like you are.

Setting a teacher's face as the computer wallpaper and staring at it is obsessive - whether the child is autistic or not.

This is a person trying to do their job. Is it was a member of your family, you'd be worried. It's a safeguarding issue.

Safeguarding? You know how crazy you actually sound

Thank you. My ds has not done that before but I do think it's almost like a healing thing for him .

If it helps your son cope - Its absolutely fine

Dont let anyone tell you its a safeguarding issue or obsessive

As another poster said, Maybe better to post on the SEN boards as you have alot more understanding mumsnetters over there