How old were you when you stopped having sex.

[whatisforteamum]

I'm 57 and realised that I barely ever have sex now
Relationship issues and dh has had ED since a heart attack does have Viagra though.
I don't have much drive really tbh.
How old where you when you stopped having sex?

49. Divorced, a couple of FWB that dwindled. Most content now! (55)

Late 50s. The menopause destroyed my libido.

I am in my mid 40's and my last relationship was 4 years ago so that was the last time.
In those 4 years since, my health hasnt been great, and I have put on lots of weight so I doubt I will ever have sex again.

73 - 10 months ago. That is sex with a man - I still masturbate.

I'm 56 and still have a very high sex drive. Last time was last night, next time will be be in about 3 hrs. I don't want it to stop

I'm early 60s. No sex for about 15 years and couldn't be happier. It was always a chore and I have zero interest in ever having it again,

Not stopped yet (52), my libido isn’t what it was, but once I am in the action it’s fine. I’d hope not to stop..

This thread is brilliant! So many people try and pathologise people in their 50s 60s 70s not wanting sex. It's a perfectly natural stage of life for many if not most people. And nothing is wrong with that!
Good for you all you out and proud sex free people!

52 three years ago. Bloody peri and my fibroids mean there is no room for a tampon let alone anything else!

I last had a long term relationship over 20 years ago. Have had sex sporadically since but not much. I love sex but have noticed that since I have it less my drive has gone down. I would love to be having regular sex but can't see it happening. It's devastating.

To answer your question, about 10 years ago when I was in my early 40s.

I am 51 and still in perimenopause.

I used to have a high sex drive but it's reducing by the month now. Had sex with dh a few weeks ago, before that it was around 3 months.

I feel sad that I no longer desire sex and feel bad for dh but I can't go on hrt so probably will lose my sex drive forever over the next few years.

Even though I don't look or act old my loss of sex drives really makes me feel that way.

I split from my ex a decade ago and haven’t slept with anyone since.. so 31 ish I guess? I think about sex sometimes but not enough to do anything about it (no solo activity either). We didn’t have much intimacy the last couple of years of our marriage either to be honest.

By choice, but then I have never been that much into sex.

I haven’t stopped - almost 60 and with DH for over 28 years.

Are you on HRT, @whatisforteamum?

57 and still having sex with DH. It did decrease when menopause was at its worst but libido has returned. I feel better after sex and am happy with twice or three times a week, don’t want it to stop.

51
last week
personally i could live without it
but im married love my husband so like to keep him happy
But Generally 2-3 times a week

It's a young person's pastime. IMHO. I have no interest in it now. Absolute chore.

When I was 51(3 year's ago). I thought my lack of sex drive was due to lifes pressure but I'm now through the menopause. Just have no interest anymore not even for self service 😞

40 (apx 10 years ago). I've not been hugged/touched/kissed or been intimate since then. I miss it at times.

I always had a much higher sex drive than DH, he really wasn't bothered and preferred not to. I then had a total hysterectomy (aged apx 40) which did affect my libido for a few years - and some parts have changed shape, which I hadn't expected. On the plus side, self-satisfaction improved.

DH left 6 years ago. I would like intimacy again in some ways, in other ways life overall is better without.

Eldest DC (a young adult) has told me I'm not allowed sex in the house (when they are home) if I ever had a new life partner, as they think it's "disrespectful' as well as rather revolting. They do have LD and a MH illness, and obviously haven't worked out that must have happened at some point, or they'd be an only child 😆.

2017, cancer ruined that part of my life also.

29 and 39. Fixed via divorce and now hope me and DH (mid 50s) are shagging like rabbits into our 90s.

That is one of the saddest things I have read. So sorry you had a partner who made it into another chore. No wonder you are glad you don’t have sex anymore.

59

57, and still going strong here. It's not really about the act (although I like that too), but the close bond I still feel with my husband - 40 years since we met.