How old were you when you stopped having sex.

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I'm 57 and realised that I barely ever have sex now
Relationship issues and dh has had ED since a heart attack does have Viagra though.
I don't have much drive really tbh.
How old where you when you stopped having sex?

I’m 67 and after my first child, 40 years ago (tricky pregnancy & emergency C section) and deep grief for loss of a close relative, my libido started to drop off - menopause at 51, with no hrt as GP not helpful or sympathetic - so basically l’ve dried up and sex is so painful - DH has been incredibly understanding and for the past 8 years no sex at all - l miss the closeness - sometimes l feel we are more like housemates - sadly there is no physical connection at all these days.

This has been really eye opening. I'm 38 and love sex and frequently have sex with my husband (-4-5 times a week). The thought that could change in the next 10 years really upsets me 😕😔
I imagine still getting a feeling in my 80s 🤣🤣

I stopped enjoying sex at about 52 when the menopause started.
I stopped having sex at about 54 when it got worse and I just couldn't face it any more as it was so painful.
I started having sex again at 61 when I met a wonderful man and don't intend to stop again for years 😍
(note - oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone may also be helping but it's mainly the new man, he's amazing!)

And so many men bully their wives and partners over it too.

Nor me! I'm watching with interest as ours has definitely dwindled due to a number of factors, but I don't see it as sad at all. Being able to speak openly about it and not not feeling like some kind of freak for not wanting it is great.

Both 73. My libido dropped through the floor when I had to have a hysterectomy at age 38 (cancer) but my DH then developed diabetes so hi s libido was affected too. Now in our early 70 s and still have great sex when our urges coincide which is about once a week.

Me too!! Some of these people have stopped earlier than when my mom had her last baby. 🤯
I'm in my late 20s and didn't expect these answers. We have 3 young DC so we aren't doing it as much as when we were newlyweds. Sometimes I fall asleep with our newborn when breastfeeding and sometimes I find my husband asleep on the floor with our toddlers😂 so yeah we struggle to do it more than twice a week.
I was really looking forward to having more spontaneity and intimacy when the kids were our of the house though!
But now this thread is not telling me that..

It's sad imo though as I think physical intimacy is such a gift and a sort of physical manifestation of the love and respect between a couple.

I would die if my husband ever had to say some of these things. ' thank goodness I don't have to do that ' ' was such a chore' etc.

I'm so amazed. I thought sex was pretty much universally liked.

I love your story and your telling of it!

About 60 (I've forgotten). Ended my last relationship and have vaginal atrophy which makes EVERYTHING uncomfortable. The thought of anything going up there makes me shudder. I used to have a high sex drive but menopause put a total stop to that and while I have occasional flutterings of fancy, they make me wince rather than wanton.

I'm curious as to why some posters have chosen to ignore the very specific question posed by the OP?

I don't think this is a sad thread - it's just people being honest.

I'm very happy with my life and being intimate with a man wouldn't make it any better.

I used to think like you and hoped I'd still feel the same in my 90's! My libido definitely dipped with my menopause at 52, but I actually wanted sex to stay a part of my life and my DH did too. I can't take HRT but I am able to use a vaginal oestrogen (very low dose) which means I don't have discomfort. I still absolutely love sex with my DH (he was my first boyfriend) and whilst it might not be every night, it's at a frequency we're both happy with and I think that's the key. I hope the same is true for you in twenty years time.

I'm 61 and single and miss sex a lot. I find I'm dreaming about it more and more. TBF I'd like a relationship again but I have a disabled DD27 and also work full time so it's not likely 😞

A few weeks after I turned 48, and was diagnosed with cancer. Perversely, I did not lose my libido during chemo. If anything, it was more palpable. However, sex wasn't an option because I am single. Also, did not have the headspace to deal with trying to date while undergoing chemo/having no hair/no breasts etc etc.

Given I've had a double mastectomy with no reconstruction, I worry no-one will ever want to have sex with me again. This really upset me.

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DH died. It was a few years ago. I can’t imagine ever trusting anyone enough again. I do miss it.

I’m 46 with a low sex drive. Still do it and enjoy to some extent but if i was told I couldn’t do it again that would be just fine tbh

@Laughtillyoupee thank you! yes I find sex so much more than just 'sex'. It's so intimate and keeps the connection between me and husband. After I had our child it did dip for a couple of years and it certainly affected my husband as he thought I didn't want him anymore! We have finally made it back to us the way it was and we feel so much stronger in our marriage because of it. I expect it will dip again during menopause but I really hope we can find out way back after!

I'm 47 and still going with FWB. Glad to see so many women still enjoying it much later in life. Sex drive seems to a very personal and varying thing, so I can understand why some women aren't bothered but I have always loved it and still do. It worries me that I might lose my drive with the coming menopause. Sex is one of life's greatest natural pleasures. I don't want to lose interest in it, much as I wouldn't want to lose my appetite for food.
Yes, I can live without an appetite for either but good sex is like good food: a wonderful simple pleasure. I'd be sad to lose it.

Stopped at 46 when I fell out of love with XH, 10 year dry patch followed though I still masturbated. Post-divorce I had a frantic two years with various lovers, have now settled down with DP. At 62 I'm having excellent sex 2-3 times a week. I really hope we'll carry on giving each other affection and pleasure like this till we die.

We’ve been very fortunate - I’m 55 and DH 71 and we make love pretty much every day still. We choose not to use any blue pills, and only particular positions work with aches and pains but we love the connection. I didn’t find menopause reduced my libido but it did dry me out a wee bit, easily dealt with. I always say sex is the sprinkles, good but an extra, our cuddles are the icing and our love is the cake.

I had a decade without sex in a miserable relationship; we split up when I was 47.

Now 52 & had a relationship last year - it was so lovely having sex again, It's really important to me & I missed it so much when single. I'm post-menopausal now & still have a healthy drive.

I use vaginal HRT as was terrified of starting again, but it was a huge relief to discover all my bits still work.

Single again, with a good sex drive & hoping I will have a relationship with regular sex again.

More posters completely ignoring the original question. Perhaps you could go and start your own thread asking at what age you’re still having sex?

Ditto

Me too

That's why FWB wouldn't work for me and many others