How old were you when you stopped having sex.

[whatisforteamum]

I'm 57 and realised that I barely ever have sex now
Relationship issues and dh has had ED since a heart attack does have Viagra though.
I don't have much drive really tbh.
How old where you when you stopped having sex?

We're both 68 and we haven't stopped yet.

51, post-hysterectomy, anti-depressants, redundancy, bereavement, financial problems, my Mum lives with us, 2 children, weight gain, relationship battered by regrets equals no sex. About 2 years so far and can't see it changing. Quite sad but don't have the energy to fix it. Nether regions for sitting on in big, ugly pants.

Depends on your definition of sex....
PIV 40... 20 years ago. Other pleasures not stopped.

Just had my 20th! Do I miss it? It was never that great and I never figured out whether it was that I never had the right partner or that I’m not very good at it/not that interested. I do feel I’ve missed out on something other people enjoy, but am resigned to that fact that’s it for me, and generally not that bothered these days.

51, with my ex (we split up 2 years ago) it was about once a month, been with DP for 18 months and its practically every night.

65 and husband 66, still going strong. No plans to cease!

My husband and I are 60 and 58.

We have sex about once a month.

Early 50s and I haven't. My libido did die with menopause, but I didn't want it to, no pressure from my husband, but I wanted our intimate life to carry on, I enjoy the sexual and intimate side of my marriage.

I got privately prescribed testosterone over and above my HRT and then masturbated myself back to life.

No problem with women that don't want to though. I get it. When I lost my sex drive I had a conversation with myself, was it something I wanted or not? My choice was definitely not predicated on my husband's desire. It was very much a question of whether I wanted to put that part of my life away.

I decided I didn't.

33 and I would happily never do it again. My medication saved my life but unfortunately killed off my libido. I think the last time was a few months ago and about a year before that time.

47 and sex drive is dwindling, think me and DH have had sex twice this year. Mentally I'm hoping for a resurgence in drive once things are less exhausting but physically honestly don't miss it much. So weird because I had such a high sex drive once 🤣

Honestly sounds like my ideal relationship at this stage 😭

I’m 35 and since having DD two years ago I just have so little interest in sex. Maybe it’ll come back in time, but rn I just couldn’t care less. It worries me, though, for DH’s sake.

It’s weird because I used to have such a high sex drive. With my ex I’d have sex multiple times a day. He literally thought I was a nymphomaniac. And now I just see it as something kinda cringey. Like, I don’t want to be subject to such crude and base instincts. I feel as though most humans just look so gross, too, and the thought of most people having sex is kind of revolting to me.

I don’t know how I could change so much.

62, when I lost my husband last year.

I am much more sad at losing other aspects of the relationship than sex.

I can’t envision sex being part of my future.

35 and delighted

18 years ago, when I was 33. My relationship broke down during pregnancy and cancer at 37 put me into early menopause, which may have affected my libido. I absolutely missed it for the first ten years, but I wasn't actively looking for a partner, what with being a single parent to a young child and dealing with cancer and subsequent related health issues/scares. An opportunity just never arose and clearly I wasn't bothered enough to make it a massive priority. I miss it less now although I wouldn't say no if the right person came along. I do worry that it would be painful though.
I masturbate regularly still.

@SerenityNowInsanityLater I could have written much of your post (apart from the fact I’m not single). I’m 53 my DH is 54. Sex has dwindled to nearly never over the last two years and I also feel this was entirely his decision. I would feel like I was sexually harassing him if I were to make any sexual overtures at all. Of course it is entirely his right to withdraw and I love him. We get on well in other parts of our life but I feel lonely, hideous and so sad.

Thank you for this thread @whatisforteamum, I really needed to tell someone that. I’m a very regular poster but I’ve NC as I’m so embarrassed.

I'm 57 and would love a sex life but have been single for 5 years and can't see that changing

I have to say @LumpyandBumps that if my husband died I don't think I'd ever bother with a man again.

Sorry about your husband.

You'll be ok though.

I lost interest after menopause, it used to be extremely important to me but now I'm not bothered.

TBH, I don't have much of a sex drive, and we have teenagers who stay up later than we do - so we'd have to be quiet!

43 here, DH closer to 50. We go away quite a few times a year, just the two of us, and always have sex then, but at home - nope, it's rare!

Thinking back to the first time I ever had sex I remember thinking "Is that it ?"...little has happened in the ensuing years to make me revise that opinion, sex with my ex was mundane to say the least, then late 2015 early 2016 when I developed rapid onset OA in both hips and needed two THRs it stopped altogether, afterwards as the relationship deteriorated so did the physical side, we parted two years ago but the sex dried up ling before...don't miss it at all and actually enjoy being in a situation where I'm not being made to feel there's something wrong with me because of that.

Can you use localised vaginal oestrogen even if you can't go on hrt?

I’m 38 and hipe I never think like this! Hubby lost his drive years ago but I am enjoying fwb of all ages, I’ll be an old woman on here posting asking for young studs one day lol