I just burst into tears in Tesco.

[Itsnotallsparkles]

NC as bit embarrassed. Just writing in solidarity to those struggling with stuff lately. I’m 30, recently dumped by my partner of 10 years and have been left in our flat covering all of the bills. £1200 rent instead of £600 each, you can imagine it’s tough. Stupidly the flat is in my name not his as I used to rent it before we met for £800, it’s gone up a lot in that time. He’s disappeared, blocked me and supposedly with someone else now.

Anyway, stood in the queue in Tesco. Had done a food shop of £40 delivered a few days ago but things only had a date of 1-2 days on them so needed a top up. isn’t it ridiculous how nothing has long lasting dates on it anymore? It’s a rip off.

Stood to pay and card gets declined, I’m not sure why as money is in there. I stand embarrassed with a queue forming as I check my app. No signal, stand to the side trying to join WiFi to check my online baking. Horrible man comes up next to me and says “thanks for holding up the queue’ well that was it, and I stupidly burst into tears. Left the shop.

Turns out my car insurance has taken a yearly amount from my bank rather than the monthly instalments I chose leaving me with nothing. I was sort of holding it together the past few weeks until that moment. Had a little cry/scream in my car😂

but anyway, I just wanted to write on here as I see a lot about darling husbands, massive houses, big holidays and weddings and I just wanted to reach out to those who are struggling whether that be with money, a relationship breakdown, illness, or a hard week. Mumsnet should be a place to support each other in solidarity sometimes. I see too much on here of people ripping each other apart.

@Itsnotallsparkles Sending you massive hugs.

While some of us have the lovely husbands now, a lot of us have been in the same place you're in now. After getting unceremoniously dumped at Christmas by my live-in partner several years ago, three months later I was alone in the latest Covid lockdown, wracked with depression, spending my last £20 on delivery wine rather than food because at least if I was drunk I wouldn't have to think about how miserable I was and how shit my life had turned out.

Things get better. Call your insurance company and explain the mistake. If the bellend has left anything at your place, get it on Ebay. Opt for long life options in bulk at Tesco - cartons of passata, frozen diced onion, pasta, frozen jacket potatoes etc so you always have something in and in-date.

You'll be absolutely fine. Meanwhile I hope his willy goes green and falls off.

He's a knob for treating you that way! Remember this is early days and you will get through this, speak to bank and get the DD refunded. You will get through this. Sending big hugs xx

I'm so sorry, OP, what a twat that man was! 😡
Hugs and 💐for you, I hope things get much better ❤️

PixiePirate I hope his next poo is a pinecone.
This really made me snort with laughter!

Sending solidarity. If I was behind and could afford I’d have paid for your top up shop. There was no need for that man to make such a shitty remark. I hope things get better for you soon OP.

Life has a habit of giving you a kick when you are down just to make sure you stay there! Don't worry about your reaction. Tears are very understandable in the circumstances. You sound very sweet too, thinking of everybody on here in a similar boat. Best wishes for sunnier times.

Solidarity!

pinecone hedgehog

I’m sorry to hear you’re having such a hard time, I can relate to this hugely. Being single parent is very tough indeed. I escaped a mentally abusive relationship, but have had a tough time juggling work and solo parent life. You’re not alone, times are tough and I know it’s sometimes hard to find happiness amongst it all with the financial worries and cruel people around. Don’t let them dull your sparkle. Have a cry or a manic laugh and just remember to breathe.
sending lots of love 🥰

Haha 🤣

Yeah, a pinecone on steroids!

I've been there in the past. It's horrific. Some beautiful woman paid for my nappies behind me in the queue. I'll never forget that absolute angel.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Sending hugs, this world is a horrible place sometimes 💐

Well said. If his willy does fall off ,it probably won't matter . I'm sure he doesn't get to use it much.

My thoughts exactly. I said to my DD the other day 'There's always someone ready to take advantage of your misfortune'.

I burst into tears in the garage today. I was 3 minutes late for my MoT appointment and they’d already put another customers car on the ramp (not sure how as I’d had to wait six days for the appointment and they told me I’d have to wait three more for another). Parent in hospital 300 miles away. Just about to move 400 miles in opposite direction by myself. No money for anything. Dog has cancer. Missing the MoT after six days of the bus was the final straw. Going to different garage tomorrow.

Sending love! I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Things will get better and the only way is up by the sounds of it. I will never understand people commenting when it’s just not needed! Esp men! Would they feel the same way if it was their mother, daughter, sister, partner?!? Huni you cry! As and when you need to! Let it out! I don’t think I would have been able to see you standing there crying I would have had to come over and ask if you was ok! Good luck in your new chapter what ever that may hold. X

Get onto insurance straight away, its their mistake they should refund money except for the month thats due. Some people are so rude no need if they can see theres a problem.

I hope his new partner has children of lego playing age and that he stands on it every single day for the rest of time. Knob.

We've all been there. Things will get better. You're doing better than you give yourself credit for x

That's so stressful for you, good to hear that you have a lovely mum. Are you getting all the benefits you are entitled to? For example, discount on council tax as the single adult? Might be worth going to citizens advice and just doing a check?

I've been there...it will get better

What a tit!
hope things improve soon xx

Hello I haven't read the full post so I apologize if this has already been mentioned.
When you do an online shop with Tesco if the products they are delivered are a shorter date than advertised always report it and it will be refunded as you can't be expected to use a week's shop in two days.

Hope the rude twat saw you upset and felt like the dick he is
It's blimmin hard keeping a house going as a single person.
Sometimes a cry is needed. Phone bank and see if can reverse dd as not amount agreed etc.
Have you checked if can get any help? As millions of benefits go unclaimed and you might be surprised.

I once burst into tears in the PDSA vet clinic. I had taken my cat who had what I thought was a growth in her ear which turned out to be a tick (I’d never seen one before so had no idea) I had no money and had emptied the contents of my purse onto the counter as my donation for treatment- 18p which was all I had in the world to my name and I had my hungry kids in tow all in clothes too small. The vet rudely made me feel like a complete idiot for mistaking a tick for something potentially serious and basically had a go at me for only giving 18p. At least her assistant had the decency to look embarrassed for her when I burst into tears and apologised that I had nothing more to offer as a donation and promptly left. That moment will stay with me I think as an example of how far I’ve come, one day you’ll look back and feel proud that you got through this.