I just burst into tears in Tesco.

[Itsnotallsparkles]

NC as bit embarrassed. Just writing in solidarity to those struggling with stuff lately. I’m 30, recently dumped by my partner of 10 years and have been left in our flat covering all of the bills. £1200 rent instead of £600 each, you can imagine it’s tough. Stupidly the flat is in my name not his as I used to rent it before we met for £800, it’s gone up a lot in that time. He’s disappeared, blocked me and supposedly with someone else now.

Anyway, stood in the queue in Tesco. Had done a food shop of £40 delivered a few days ago but things only had a date of 1-2 days on them so needed a top up. isn’t it ridiculous how nothing has long lasting dates on it anymore? It’s a rip off.

Stood to pay and card gets declined, I’m not sure why as money is in there. I stand embarrassed with a queue forming as I check my app. No signal, stand to the side trying to join WiFi to check my online baking. Horrible man comes up next to me and says “thanks for holding up the queue’ well that was it, and I stupidly burst into tears. Left the shop.

Turns out my car insurance has taken a yearly amount from my bank rather than the monthly instalments I chose leaving me with nothing. I was sort of holding it together the past few weeks until that moment. Had a little cry/scream in my car😂

but anyway, I just wanted to write on here as I see a lot about darling husbands, massive houses, big holidays and weddings and I just wanted to reach out to those who are struggling whether that be with money, a relationship breakdown, illness, or a hard week. Mumsnet should be a place to support each other in solidarity sometimes. I see too much on here of people ripping each other apart.

Sorry you’re going through such a tough time. This too shall pass.

The guy behind you sounds like an absolute dick.

I was once going through a tough time and when I got to the checkout my card was declined, then I couldn’t remember the pin on my other card. Got myself into a right flap. The guy next to be in line paid for my shopping and wouldn’t give me his details so I could repay him. I was dumbfounded. I almost cried. I’ve never forgot it.

One day I’d like to pay it forward and do the same for someone else. It’s just rotten luck you were standing next to a twat.

I’ve had this happen. Phone the insurance people and they’ll refund and start you on a monthly payment plan. Happens all the time x

Hugs hugs and more hugs! People are so mean!

Big hugs. You are not alone. Take a breath. You can do this. And it will get easier. Xxx

So sorry to hear about your news, so refreshing to read messages of solidarity rather than contention, hoping this too will pass! Not right, fair or good for someone to live anyone in the lurch with bills, etc. Really should be more one can do, to go after those who do ruin peoples finances, not to mention lives! Hope things improve for u, that you meet someone nice when the time is right

Sorry your going through this tough shit, hope you've got family and friends that can support you. 🌺

I love this! 🤣

sending solidarity too xxxx

It sounds tough lucky you have your lovely Mum you help you out. Ignore that wanker in the queue if you only had a few bits and card declined a lot of people would have just paid it for you. I've done that with a lady buying nappies and card declined. She looked like she might cry so I bought them. Only a few quid but she looked so relieved and had obviously been having a bad day. We've all been there. 💐

Hope you are ok. I would have cried too!!

If it makes you feel any better after a break up in my late 20s I cried at the photo copier at work because it was out of toner then I shouted ‘you f piece of s**’ at it 👍🏼

Sending so much love, there’s light at the end of the tunnel x x x

Hope you're feeling a bit brighter today @Itsnotallsparkles x

You poor thing I know how it feels
and just want to say stay strong

I've been in your shoes op, treat yourself kindly and wait till this all passes as it surely will, although right now it doesn't feel.that way 💐💐

Ah I’d have probably cried then too!! Sending hugs.

Ive recently split from my partner, he was very toxic and the relationship really took a lot out of me. I’ve had to move back home with my DD and put stuff in storage to finish saving in the hope I can buy a property on my own.

coming back home in my 30’s was not part of the plan lol

Things will get better. Ignore the comments from the arse in the shop too.

I had to go on a debt relief order a few years back after exP messed things up then left.
I went food shopping with my new card as had to switch banks, forgot the pin and all the old biddys in the queue behind me kept tutting and commenting. I was trying to phone my teenage son who was at home to find the letter with the pin, completely forgetting you can get it from the app but you don't think straight in those situations.

Definitely complain about the online order too, they should be giving longer dates although I've found recently when going shopping even the fresh fruit and veg with longer dates is looking rather old.

I know that feeling of having nothing and everyone else seems to have it all. It has taken years and a lot of hard work and heartache but today things are a lot more comfortable. You are still very young and it may not seem that way when you're struggling but things do change. The boyfriend was clearly not for the long term and of course you will go on to better things. On the bright side because your home was in your name he could not leave you homeless. That man in the queue was a nasty piece of work.

I'm so sorry, OP. Hope things look up for you soon x

I haven't read through all the responses but sincerely hope you haven't had any snide replies, which seem to be a mainstay on this forum, as you say.

I totally get why you'd cry!

It sounds as if others may have offered this suggestion but my Tesco drivers usually give me the short life stuff for free. If you find any that you weren't notified of, you can contact them through WhatsApp for a refund.

Oh love, what a rotten time you're having. Yes, it'll pass, but it sucks.

I had my breakdown moment in work last year when trying to juggle too many demands for too long overtook me. In the middle of my department I became a huge sobbing mess. My manager very quickly whisked me into a booth whilst everyone else was very professional and studiously stared at their screens as if they couldn't hear me sobbing behind them 😆 Like you I went home, put a film on and cried it out.

I hope that man was immediately shat on by a seagull when he exited the store!

I'm sure that bloke felt like a shit when you cried. I hope he did.

This is now my go-to curse, thank you 😂
OP we’ve all been there. Sending hugs. And big throbbing piles to the nasty men xx

Oh my love,so sorry to hear you're going through this. I hope that man who was rude to you in the supermarket feels thoroughly ashamed of himself. Some people are just arseholes. Sending you 💐 and hope things get better for you soon.

If it makes you feel better, everyone would have thought that man was an absolute prick!

Why is the guy in the wrong, he left the relationship as obviously was not happy, you tell women to do that all the time when not happy, what the difference.