Friend very angry that I’m on Mounjaro

[Sawingwood]

My friend is tall and willowy, never has to watch what she eats. She prides herself on being slim and the ability wear whatever she likes (tight catsuits, very short skirts etc).
Im the opposite. Short and dumpy, size 18. Desperately needing to turn the hunger button off I’ve resorted to ordering Mounjaro after a lot of reading around the subject.
Friend has hit the roof! Says that it’s cheating and a quick fix and it won’t stay off. That I should eat healthier and exercise more and that’s why I’m fat. Yes, it probably is but I don’t have her genetics either. Says she thinks it’s disgusting that people are using this quick fix etc. On and on. I’m a bit shocked and sad to be honest.
I don’t want to think Ill of her but I wonder if she’s actually worried I’ll be slim myself one day so she won’t be the slim one of the two. Anyone else had this? Don’t know what to do going forward!

You do realise it’s just an aid and it doesn’t do all the work for you right? You still have to change your lifestyle.

She shouldn't be angry with you, it's none of her business. It could be genuine concern though, and it's such an emotive subject that if someone does raise concerns, they're immediately branded as jealous and insecure.
I am genuinely worried about my sister, who is on Mounjaro. She has documented MH problems, including severe EDs, and she has never been overweight, never mind obese. Since starting on Mounjaro, she has been frenzied in her joy at her weightloss, is on social media getting loads of likes and "you go girl" and all that, from people who don't know about her struggles. I have no idea how she's getting it, but she's good at photoshop...
I think it should be prescribed by a GP after testing to make sure that the patient actually needs it. I also have a history of ED and have been tempted, but I know that it would be a very bad idea for my MH.

Of course it is!

The how is irrelevant, the fact that they have lost weight, got healthier and vastly lowered their chances of stroke, diabetes, heart disease and certain cancers is to be congratulated. And as others have pointed out, it doesnt actually make you lose weight it simply makes the process more likely to be successful, diet and exercise are still required.

Would you say that someone who got massively fitter using a personal trainer doesnt deserve recognition over someone who didnt? Makes no sense!

im on these jabs through my gp as i hav e been really struggling with bionge eating /stress my diabetic levels were so bad,my gp knew i needed help. most people are having to pay for it, 8 weeks in, not wanted any cake or chocolate i have lost 18 lbs in weight, if you need it you need it,good luck#

Is the issue with the quick fix that it is allegedly easy to use a quick fix? Why does that concern you?

God! Some people are awful!

I'm short and a bit podgy but was slim enough in my younger days. I'm lucky that my genes are reasonably kind. Of course diet and exercise play a part - but so do genetics, I can't understand people who don't accept that. I'm 60 and have a friend who I've known since school - she was slim when we were kids but has struggled ever since and she eats far more heathily than I do, she walks her dog, she swims all year round, barely drinks - yet she is far bigger than lazy old me.

Another friend (30s) had her stomach stapled - I didn't know her before that but she says she was huge before the op - she looks great now! But her handsome teenage son is starting to fill out - despite running and keeping active. I do think genes play a big part in our weight and people can be very judgemental and unkind!

Your 'friend' sounds either jealous or just mean.

Often there us a "thin" one and a "fat" one who are friends .Your mate is pissed off because she wants to be the slim one . Ignore her she is not a real friend .Just dial it down and see less of her .

Why is it any of her business? I get heartily sick of effortlessly slim people passing judgement on those of us who have a weight problem and declaring it's 'cheating'' using appetite reducing injections. Oh sorry,I forgot. We have to pay the price for our 'sin' of being overweight,don't we? No quick fixes allowed.

Or it might be that she is genuinely concerned for your health. These medications don’t come without side effects and arnt a quick fix.
The safest way is always going to be healthy diet and exercise. I wouldn’t be so quick to accuse her of not wanting you to be skinny.

if she did indeed say these things and you are not putting your own spin on things, I don’t think she is much of a friend or has much empathy. She may feel people are being exploited and have concerns over side effects but being overweight has side effects. The battle is real and it’s not an easy thing to just eat less and move more.

Disagree with everyone here. Yes I get that being overweight is not good for mental health but taking unnecessary medication is just risking your health for vanity. If you insist on going down the drugs route - I would at least ask for something like Merformin which has been extensively safety tested before jumping to Mounjaro. However this is not medical advice - just to demonstrate that this is quite extreme action to take.

That's so weird! I've always been "the skinny one" but I'm very excited for my friends who are using ozempic etc.

Is she very focussed on appearance? I don't put much worth on my appearance (or the appearance of others) beyond being near and clean so I guess I don't feel competitive or worried that my friends will be better than me if they're skinny and prettier.

I don't understand this friend or people on this thread saying it's unfair because they have to work hard resisting food and people taking WL drugs don't. If you want the drugs, get them. Eat what you like, put on weight, and get them - if you think that would be easier than your current routine.

I think she is judgemental and yes probably worried you'll finally feel confident in your own skin.

Either way mounjaro isn't cheating. If used correctly it will help you to get much better eating habits and a relationship with food as it's not a long term fix.

Good luck to you.

Going from obese to overweight or healthy weight isn't motivated by vanity. Obesity has a myriad of health risks that when balanced against the potential health risks of Mounjaro may be considered worth the risk. Metformin doesn't have the same weight loss effects. It's really none of your business anyway whether people choose to take a medication that has been approved for weight loss and taking an approved medication that has passed the testing phase is hardly 'extreme'.

This is neither here nor there though.

I eat very restrictive to stay slim. And it annoys me when my friends tell me how lucky I am with my genetics and how I easily stay slim. Really? I just ate a side salad for our dinner while you ordered an entire pizza and finished half the kids fries 🤷🏻‍♀️

But it would never occur to me to put a friend down when they try to change their weight. I would be happy for them and supportive. I might ask if she has considered healthy diet instead because id be worried how it affects health etc. But calling it cheating etc.. That just sounds like she doesnt want her friend to be slim.

For health reasons I can't take injections or pills so I'm doing it the slow way, I could not care one bit if someone uses a quicker method. Good for them.

As you know, your friend isn't a true friend.

There is so much scaremongering and false information floating around about these injections. They aren't magic, they don't dissolve fat. You still have to do the work. You still need to reset your body weight in order to prevent it going back on. And the risks are still far less than remaining obese.

If you want support OP, take yourself over to the weighloss injections board. That is where I have been keeping abreast, from people using it and holding themselves accountable. And I think it is brilliant that they have this additional tool to help them on the journey

She’s completely overreacted. If it was about your wellbeing she would have said “oh that sounds great, have you checked all the side effects etc?”. Fundamentally some people take the view it’s cheating. I would think badly of someone who behaved like that towards someone who is trying to become healthier. If it was that easy everyone would be slim.

It doesn’t really concern me however what I see quite often is people having these injections and not putting in any effort to make themselves healthier or making any food changes and in that case when they stop the injections yes the weight will likely all go back on so what is the point? Waste of time and money.

Surely, as your friend, she would prefer you to be healthy (not obese) and happy. Im considering taking this myself, im seeing it more as a reset. I know it wont keep the weight off long term and that it will be up to me to change my eating habits/exercise. Hoping it will give me a kick start.

You are misunderstanding. The injections do not make you lose weight. They must be making food changes in order to lose weight.

If you didn't make food changes you wouldn't lose weight. What do you think these injections do?
Also where are you seeing people do this? On social media? In your mind? I assume you are a doctor or weight loss professional specialist to have intimate knowledge of who is using these drugs and what changes they are or aren't making??

Metformin is for diabetics and sometimes prescribed to people with PCOS, its not for 'weight loss' per se even though it supports that. A patient wouldnt be prescribed it for that reason

It has the same history and validation as a safe drug as the other drugs (which of course are also diabetes drugs)

My OH was years on metformin for diabetes, it was unforgiving in its attack in his digestive system, horrendous wind, upset stomach, unpredictability. Of course he managed the side effects because that was his prescribed medication at the time, he has now moved on to the same 'weight loss drugs' that everyone is so worried about (but not worried about them for diabetics).

I also was prescribed metformin decades ago for PCOS but couldnt get on with it due to the side effects on my digestion.

You really dont have a clue what you're talking about do you