Today I was told I have cancer. I'm sat alone at home to digest the news

[Scaredandworried98]

DH has gone out, it was planned. He asked if I minded him going. DC don't knowl and are doing own things. I messaged a friend to suggest a chat but she isn't picking up. I had told her today was diagnoses day but she's forgotten. We all have busy lives. I'm not going to tell friends over a message. Im purposely not googling it. I feel helpless waiting for the next hospital appt. Waiting to find out more.

Just wanted a hand hold

I won't sleep tonight. Any recommendations for Netflix/prime binge sets ?

I'm connected to the Bridgeton set builders, very pleased to hear the love.
I'm also on the two week pathway. You can ask me anything about bulky uterus, 12mm layer, adenomyosis...I've bloody googled the lot.
DH is not fussed and despite the whole sickness promise 25 years ago next Wednesday, he won't react until all the magic stops happening in the house
I've run out of fucks and can't find my grip. It's shit isn't it.

Goodness, we are with you sending hugs and virtual support. I've been there and it's an all encompassing feeling of dread. I really hope that there is a treatment plan for you , if so it may well be a will be a rough journey but you'll get there . One baby step at a time, take care and kick your husbands arse tomorrow and tell him what you need from him (whatever that might be).

Oh I’m so sorry, OP. Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders and Bridgerton are two I have enjoyed recently. They’re easy watching and nothing too in depth. Hoping your friends and family rally around you to support you x

A diagnosis sounds like the beginning of the end of the world, but often it's not. I'm still here, and well, several years later.

When you feel up to it, come join us on the thread no one wants to be on but in the meantime- Grace & Frankie or The Gilmore Girls 🌸
www.mumsnet.com/talk/general_health/5059016-cancer-support-thread-94-sweetness-and-light-the-two-noblest-of-things

Be kind to yourself OP. It’s ok not to be emotional superwoman.

Oh! If you have any interest in sport at all. Watch Quarterback and Receiver on Netflix: it’s genuinely amazing how these men train. And the outfits

Op if you don’t mind sharing, can I ask what type of cancer, what is the prognosis and have they clarified what the next steps are ?

I was diagnosed with stage 3 lobular breast cancer in April and am still trying to digest it all three months later. It’s such a strange, not to mention brutal experience to be sitting across the room from someone telling you you actually have cancer - I know one in two of us will be diagnosed with some form of it but I always thought of it as something that happens to someone else.

It’s very scary but I believe that knowledge is power, so you need to make sure you understand everything you’re being told and ask questions - I found it helpful to make a list in advance of each appointment. And there are support services out there - MacMillan are excellent and have nurses on hand to support and answer any questions, and they can direct you to other forms of support such as self help groups etc.

The shock will wear off and you will accept the diagnosis, and hopefully as a treatment plan emerges and you get more information, you’ll be reassured that they’re doing everything that needs to be done. Family support and that of friends is important though so don’t wait too long to confide in friends - talking is the best way to tackle it. And as another poster pointed out earlier - don’t google. Most of the information you’ll find out there won’t be specific to your case anyway, and you’ll scare yourself for nothing. I asked my consultant for useful websites for more information and he was more than happy to oblige, so you may want to do the same.

I wish you the very best, and if you want to PM me for a chat, please feel free. Happy to help however I can.

so sorry @Scaredandworried98 - that is awful news.

I echo PPs who have been in a similar situation. It seems impossible right now but you will shock yourself with your own strength and resilience. Not googling is a great move but on the off chance you do - ignore the numbers. They mean nothing to you specifically.

I am a fan of 80s sitcoms - I think it’s must be a childhood feeling. Only fools and horses, keeping up appearances, the golden girls. Pure silliness.

Best of luck.

OP, I’m so, so sorry. I have to say I think your OH should have stayed in with you tonight!! 😢

My husband goes in for a colonoscopy tmrw as he has shadows on his bowel. Something showed up in his marker tests hence the assessment.

I can’t imagine how you must be feeling. I’m so sorry that you don’t have anyone there with you xx

I'm sorry you are going through this. Your husband is a knob. Ted Lasso, for sure. Even if you have already seen it.

I'm happy for you to PM if you want a random handhold. Getting the news is the worst part of it, honestly.

So sorry to hear this. I have started High Country and it seems good!

Sending you and your DH as many good vibes as I can for tomorrow. I hope all will be well.

When I was on chemo a few years ago I watched Friday Night Dinner on loop. For stress relief I also recommend on Netflix currently: Motherland, Benidorm, Schitts Creek, Emily in Paris, Detectorists, and The Diplomat. Take care.

Thinking of you x. I’ve loved Acapulco on Apple TV recently - really sweet and uplifting. If you enjoy light reading I’ve just finished the last Elin Hildebrand book - have really loved being in a Nantucket world, I don’t think her books are such a big thing here but they are in the States. Make things cosy and gentle for yourself. Put yourself first too and be firm about that.

hang there next month is my one year since lung cancer surgery one more ct to find out if ok for now.i was alone too cleaned the house even the yard get the dog a bath .glued my self to the tv too.the chemo if need well be had but keep fighting
i read mn all along. bless you. do you have furries.if so let them know they understand you are scared
my cat smelled the cancer and i knew before the doc told me
.do not be so brave let some one help

errr hard

I'm so sorry, are you OK? What about game of thrones, house of the dragon, Ozark, stranger things all my faves xxx

Sending you a virtual hug op

@Scaredandworried98

I've just fiinished watching Dirty John on Netflix-there are two series-two different stories. They can keep you watching and there are 8 episodes to each story.

I had similar news in January and I wasn't able to read-something I thought I could always rely on. My husband went out and bought me loads of books but I couldn't begin any of them. I was too busy thinking what it would be like to be dead.
I couldn't concentrate on anything serious on the television-the news could have been that Nigel Farage and Angela Raynor had moved in together and were having a love child-I couldn't have cared less.

The only thing that helped was watching trashy TV. I don't know why but it stopped some of the worst thoughts creeping in.

Months on and I'm in a much better place mentally and I hope physically but it is frightening. On the day I was told, I didn't ever think I'd be tying that.

Praying helped me and I know it's not for everyone and I don't know if you follow any religion or none but I'll say a prayer tonight for you anyway.

I'm sorry that you are alone tonight, and don't know what will happen to you next.
It's the lack of exact information that will be hurting you, no matter who is with you...

How old are your children? Will they be able to cope?

Last year I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I have 5 siblings, I emailed them all. Of course I was closest to my sister, who I phoned. I then phoned my adult children. My daughter immediately made arrangements for both of them to stay with me while I had the operation

My point is, please contact those who you love and who love you. They will want to help and to talk with you.

I am emailed my best friends as well, and they phoned me.

Don't stay alone you aren't

My heart is with you, @Scaredandworried98

I second The Gilded Age. Really good. I’m waiting for the new season to come out.

I’d also watch comedies. I watch comedies every day just on general principle.
They’re funny.
They make me laugh.
They cheer me up.
They make me smile.
I think it has something to do with endorphins, but I’m not sure what endorphins are.

I'm sort of in shock for you, OP. Not just for your diagnosis - I'm so sorry for that - but the fact that you've been left on your own to deal with it. I feel a kind of burning rage on your behalf.

I’m so sorry you are going through this.
I enjoy mindless reality tv when stressed. One I love is MAFS Australia. Think it’ll be on channel 4 to download.