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I’ve been set up: Ex husband text my partner from a fake number

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W987654321 · 21/07/2024 16:33

I went on a hen do this weekend. I had to tell my ex husband to ensure he was ok to standby on Friday afternoon, in the unlikely event the school called if the children were unwell and needed collecting. (As I wasn’t going to be in the area as I was travelling to the hen do)

My current partner received a text from a random number Saturday morning (see the screenshot) to “alert him” that I had been unfaithful that night.

I came home today with my partner very upset and confused who showed me the message.

I spent the entire hendo with my girlfriends and didn’t even look or speak to another man.

I have been set up. And the only person it could be, is my ex.

Reasons I believe it to be my ex:

-The phone has no trace on WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram etc which makes me think it’s a “throw away sim” he has bought for the purpose of sending this message.

-It does however link to Snapchat (with a username that suspiciously sounding user name- it’s the name of his dead dog).

-The phone is an android (ex only ever had android and hated apple)

-We called the number and it goes straight through to voicemail each time

-It’s Giffgaff. A network my ex used to use and encouraged me to use when we were together.

-The person hasn’t replied to his messages asking for more info.

Please help: is there anyway we can trace the numbers IP location or any other way I can prove it is my ex trying to set me up?

My partner believes me. But I still feel I want to give him some solid evidence.

I’ve been set up: Ex husband text my partner from a fake number
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CitizenZ · 21/07/2024 16:48

What a horrible thing for him to have done! I'm assuming you text with your ex regarding the children? Does he use the same sort of spelling and grammar as was sent in the text last night?

W987654321 · 21/07/2024 16:50

CitizenZ · 21/07/2024 16:48

What a horrible thing for him to have done! I'm assuming you text with your ex regarding the children? Does he use the same sort of spelling and grammar as was sent in the text last night?

Not at all. His grammar is fairly good. My partner and I discussed this. As he thought this made it seem more legitimate. But I wonder if this is a red herring my ex has done deliberately.

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FumingTRex · 21/07/2024 16:58

I would just send your ex a message saying you mite be late for changeover on Sunday nite. It can only have been him.

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CitizenZ · 21/07/2024 17:00

Bluff and tell him you know it's him as absolutely no other people knew you were going to the Hen Night other than you and the other 'Hens'

FakeMiddleton · 21/07/2024 17:05

The ex is an idiot. Nobody would go through a one night stand's phone number just to text a bf.

Also, is your bf's name saved as "bf" or just like "John"? That could help you.

W987654321 · 21/07/2024 17:05

CitizenZ · 21/07/2024 17:00

Bluff and tell him you know it's him as absolutely no other people knew you were going to the Hen Night other than you and the other 'Hens'

I think he wants me to know it’s him (hence the username of his dead dog)
and he’s done it as a way of control.

I feel like he’s trying to say ‘Even though we aren’t together, I can hurt you’

is there anyway to prove it?

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AlpiniPraline · 21/07/2024 17:06

FumingTRex · 21/07/2024 16:58

I would just send your ex a message saying you mite be late for changeover on Sunday nite. It can only have been him.

Good idea

AlpiniPraline · 21/07/2024 17:06

CitizenZ · 21/07/2024 17:00

Bluff and tell him you know it's him as absolutely no other people knew you were going to the Hen Night other than you and the other 'Hens'

Good idea

CornishTeaTime · 21/07/2024 17:06

Dont let on.
Set him up.
Give him some juicy info and wait...

W987654321 · 21/07/2024 17:08

CornishTeaTime · 21/07/2024 17:06

Dont let on.
Set him up.
Give him some juicy info and wait...

What kind of juice info could I give him? I’m open for ideas

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frozendaisy · 21/07/2024 17:09

Text ex and say you have broken up

See his response?

Sparrowball · 21/07/2024 17:11

He's looking for drama and a reaction, you'll annoy him more by pretending it didn't happen. What a sad bastard.

frozendaisy · 21/07/2024 17:11

If he tries to ask questions just say
"Oh you know things had run their course"

Then when he finds out you haven't broken up just laugh and say
"Of course we didn't even after you utterly bizarre she's cheated from an anonymous number text, we were howling after that by the way"

frozendaisy · 21/07/2024 17:12

frozendaisy · 21/07/2024 17:09

Text ex and say you have broken up

See his response?

Actually no don't text him let it slip in naturally if it comes up

Grazianoscubanheel · 21/07/2024 17:12

FakeMiddleton · 21/07/2024 17:05

The ex is an idiot. Nobody would go through a one night stand's phone number just to text a bf.

Also, is your bf's name saved as "bf" or just like "John"? That could help you.

This.
And whats the answer to that question?

WeKnowFrogsGoShaLaLaLaLa · 21/07/2024 17:13

This is 100% a grey rock situation, your power is in doing absolutely nothing.

Leave him wondering if he ever managed to get to you at all.

User364837 · 21/07/2024 17:13

Sorry if I’ve missed it but how do you think he got your new partner’s number?

Quitelikeit · 21/07/2024 17:15

Don’t feed the dragon.

Mummapenguin20 · 21/07/2024 17:16

I’d have to grey rock it if I was 100% sure it was a ex

BirthdayRainbow · 21/07/2024 17:18

User364837 · 21/07/2024 17:13

Sorry if I’ve missed it but how do you think he got your new partner’s number?

My question too.

Say nothing about it to your ex. That gives him power and he knows he's causing you hurt. In future tell him nothing about why he has to be on stand by for his kids. Aka parenting.

W987654321 · 21/07/2024 17:22

Grazianoscubanheel · 21/07/2024 17:12

This.
And whats the answer to that question?

Bfs name is listed as his full name on my list.

Your right No one would do that.

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W987654321 · 21/07/2024 17:23

User364837 · 21/07/2024 17:13

Sorry if I’ve missed it but how do you think he got your new partner’s number?

This is one of the mysteries we don’t know and annoying me.
Ex used to enter my google mail etc. I did change all my passwords but I will change them again.

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CornishTeaTime · 21/07/2024 17:24

@W987654321 perhaps you cluld say something like...

Could you be on standby again next Friday...Im going away early again met a few new friends on hen do and am meeting up with the...thing is dont want bf knowing Im going after school drop off
Thanks appreciate it

W987654321 · 21/07/2024 17:24

Quitelikeit · 21/07/2024 17:15

Don’t feed the dragon.

Quite right. He’s not a nice person. And whilst I would revel in doing some of the suggestions other posters have given, I really don’t want to dramatise things for the sake of the children (and obviously my current partner and my relationship)

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CornishTeaTime · 21/07/2024 17:25

Are you sure he doesnt have your bf's number in case of emergency...I dont think that's inreasonable