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lonersjargon · 16/07/2024 09:46

That's it really. I'm a loner and will be diarising here - about little things I'm up to. Not sure anyone in the world would be interested. But it is what it is.

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LadyWhistled0wn · 16/07/2024 10:08

What have you been up to this morning?

abracadabra1980 · 16/07/2024 20:42

I'm interested as I can sometimes fantasise about being reclusive. Do you always wish to be away from society?

Serencwtch · 16/07/2024 20:45

Im interested. I'm a deliberate loner.

allaloneandlost · 16/07/2024 21:02

I'm an interested loner, please do.

Shrewsbury247 · 16/07/2024 21:04

I love to know what people get up to, please share your day with us 😍

AlderGirl · 16/07/2024 21:30

I’m married with DC but am a natural loner. I need my alone time, both inside & outside the home. I’d love to know what you get up to,

lonersjargon · 18/07/2024 22:01

Hello all. You must be wondering if I dropped off the earth's edge (assuming the earth is flat). Apologies I've just been detached from my phone and just remembered I made a post 2 days ago!

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lonersjargon · 18/07/2024 22:02

LadyWhistled0wn · 16/07/2024 10:08

What have you been up to this morning?

On Tuesday morning, I was working on a presentation that my colleague will take the glory for because I'm shying away from the spotlight :)
What have you been up to?

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lonersjargon · 18/07/2024 22:07

abracadabra1980 · 16/07/2024 20:42

I'm interested as I can sometimes fantasise about being reclusive. Do you always wish to be away from society?

I'm a functional loner. People think I have friends and families, but I do not. My phone never really rings and I don't have strong social ties.
I do find society overwhelming but I go out and do my performances to pay my bills and hurry back home because I find social interactions mentally draining. When I'm not home, I'm thinking of home.
When I'm around people, I feel disconnected and invisible. I feel that the world can do with or without me. No one would notice.

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lonersjargon · 18/07/2024 22:07

Serencwtch · 16/07/2024 20:45

Im interested. I'm a deliberate loner.

Hi! What's motivated you to be a deliberate loner? I'm curious.

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lonersjargon · 18/07/2024 22:09

AlderGirl · 16/07/2024 21:30

I’m married with DC but am a natural loner. I need my alone time, both inside & outside the home. I’d love to know what you get up to,

Great that you have family. Alone time is still essential regardless.Flowers

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lonersjargon · 18/07/2024 22:13

Today, I've been at work events all-day. That's like a month's human interaction compressed into a day for me. Im now mentally drained and have taken the whole of next week off to recover.
Came back home and saw a letter from HMRC informing me that I might owe them money. I literally said to myself 'this never ends; the world can't just leave me alone'

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frankincenseandoranges · 18/07/2024 22:15

Can I join you? Today I've mostly been recovering from socialising with my family yesterday. Lying on my bed watching Gilmore Girls. I cooked for my partner who has been working all day. This evening I've been doing some hand sewing and eating chocolate on my own.

Nocturna · 18/07/2024 22:35

lonersjargon · 18/07/2024 22:13

Today, I've been at work events all-day. That's like a month's human interaction compressed into a day for me. Im now mentally drained and have taken the whole of next week off to recover.
Came back home and saw a letter from HMRC informing me that I might owe them money. I literally said to myself 'this never ends; the world can't just leave me alone'

What job do you do? I'm surprised you seem to work in a field where you go to events, was that a conscious choice to kind of 'force' yourself to be around people?

lonersjargon · 18/07/2024 22:39

frankincenseandoranges · 18/07/2024 22:15

Can I join you? Today I've mostly been recovering from socialising with my family yesterday. Lying on my bed watching Gilmore Girls. I cooked for my partner who has been working all day. This evening I've been doing some hand sewing and eating chocolate on my own.

Yes please! Sounds like you're having a great time with yourself. Nothing beats chocolate 😊

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lonersjargon · 18/07/2024 22:42

@Nocturna I'm an educator. Ive used to do a job that allowed me work from home permanently, so yes, taking up this job was a conscious decision to make me engage with the world a bit more.

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Serencwtch · 19/07/2024 06:33

lonersjargon · 18/07/2024 22:07

Hi! What's motivated you to be a deliberate loner? I'm curious.

I just feel better in my own company & enjoy things more if I do them on my own. Enjoy the freedom to do what I want.

Mairzydotes · 19/07/2024 06:47

I'm quite the loner too. I'm rarely alone , but I don't have any connections with people outside my household. My life is like a permanent lockdown bubble.

I joined mumsnet so I could release my thoughts into the world because I never get to have conversations with other people.

lonersjargon · 19/07/2024 08:53

Mairzydotes · 19/07/2024 06:47

I'm quite the loner too. I'm rarely alone , but I don't have any connections with people outside my household. My life is like a permanent lockdown bubble.

I joined mumsnet so I could release my thoughts into the world because I never get to have conversations with other people.

I completely relate to you!
MN allows me to be involved in people's lives in the way that I couldn't in real life. I have also been watching certain people's YouTube channels for over a decade now and consider them as my friends who keep me company without demanding anything of me, but of course they don't know me 😊

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allaloneandlost · 19/07/2024 12:29

Same. Other people have controlled me, used and let me down. I've never had a family life or people who just wanted me. It's hard but I can't be bothered to make the effort anymore other than being superficial to keep things pleasant because I know how it's going to go.

lonersjargon · 19/07/2024 15:56

allaloneandlost · 19/07/2024 12:29

Same. Other people have controlled me, used and let me down. I've never had a family life or people who just wanted me. It's hard but I can't be bothered to make the effort anymore other than being superficial to keep things pleasant because I know how it's going to go.

I'm sorry this has been your experience. It's been mine too. I used to be the centre of my family and friends and was really used and hurt and overtime I became withdrawn to choosing to be by myself. Sending you a big hug.🤗

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lonersjargon · 19/07/2024 15:57

Just been to the post office and now heading for a walk in the sunny park. ☀️

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allaloneandlost · 19/07/2024 18:08

@lonersjargon Thanks very much for replying and sorry you've experienced that. Hope you enjoyed your walk. A good book is always good to take! Well done.

EmeraldRoulette · 19/07/2024 18:11

lonersjargon · 19/07/2024 15:56

I'm sorry this has been your experience. It's been mine too. I used to be the centre of my family and friends and was really used and hurt and overtime I became withdrawn to choosing to be by myself. Sending you a big hug.🤗

I think I’m going to have to do this.

please could you say which YouTube channels help you? Thanks. I hope you enjoy your sunny walk.

lonersjargon · 20/07/2024 13:03

allaloneandlost · 19/07/2024 18:08

@lonersjargon Thanks very much for replying and sorry you've experienced that. Hope you enjoyed your walk. A good book is always good to take! Well done.

Thank you. I had a great walk, thank you.
Thanks for the hint. I love reading too.
Hope you have a great Saturday.

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