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lonersjargon · 16/07/2024 09:46

That's it really. I'm a loner and will be diarising here - about little things I'm up to. Not sure anyone in the world would be interested. But it is what it is.

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JamSandle · 20/07/2024 13:11

I can be a big loner. I've just left a downstairs party to go upstairs and read. 😆

lonersjargon · 20/07/2024 14:30

JamSandle · 20/07/2024 13:11

I can be a big loner. I've just left a downstairs party to go upstairs and read. 😆

Haha. Hope you're enjoying your alone time upstairs 🤗

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lonersjargon · 20/07/2024 14:32

I've been to a 5k this morning. Met a couple and had a lovely long chat. We parted, saying 'see you around.'

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lonersjargon · 20/07/2024 14:35

I'm going to run myself a bath. I should cook a meal, but I don't want to.
Met a guy on one of the apps yesterday and we had a nice chat. I looking forward to continuing our chat sometime again.

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beergiggles · 20/07/2024 14:37

Greetings fellow reclusive types 🖖🏻👩🏼‍🚀

Cavalierchaos · 20/07/2024 14:42

Fellow loner here. Don't have a single friend to my name. Quite honestly, people scare me and I avoid them as much as possible. I am really shy and find social interactions very awkward.

andjustlikethat1 · 20/07/2024 14:52

Hello, what are you cooking? I need ideas 💡 x

Flumpie59 · 20/07/2024 15:03

Another interested one here!

beachcomber70 · 20/07/2024 15:07

A loner here. I had a family, I had friends, I had marriage/relationships. They made me happy at the time but everyone has moved on usually with partners and I haven't been taken along. Their choice. People I really cared about have died, can't be replaced.
Some people have used me, I've been rejected and I've finally had enough of all that. I did my best.
I don't wish to share my life [ie. face book] or be bothered now by people's dramas/manipulations/agendas or have opinions on my life choices chewed over by those who think they know me but don't. Socialising is a minefield, not comfortable in groups...at all.

I sound miserable, I'm really not. Perfectly content in my life, happy to spend days in my home and garden, reading, walking, my crafts, thinking, good food and appreciating nature and my life. I feel blessed. I have sons and grandchildren, they make me happy, they like me. It's enough and it's great. It's calm, no one interfering. 4 friends I interact with now and then [all well-balanced people, they took some finding!], it works.

The world is too busy, obsessed with money/things, never quiet, people needing constant stimulation and people around them. I like my life of solitude ... now.

Anyway, as you were. Happy to find this thread.

lonersjargon · 20/07/2024 22:28

Cavalierchaos · 20/07/2024 14:42

Fellow loner here. Don't have a single friend to my name. Quite honestly, people scare me and I avoid them as much as possible. I am really shy and find social interactions very awkward.

Hi! I don't have friends too, but I'm now my own best friends. I do not miss my old friends and wish I got rid much earlier than I or they did!

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lonersjargon · 20/07/2024 22:31

andjustlikethat1 · 20/07/2024 14:52

Hello, what are you cooking? I need ideas 💡 x

Hi! I didn't cook. I do not enjoy cooking. I had tea and biscuits today and that's it. I had a bath which was perhaps too relaxing. I've been sleeping ever since.
I'll be off work the entire week, so will try to cook something.

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lonersjargon · 20/07/2024 22:32

beergiggles · 20/07/2024 14:37

Greetings fellow reclusive types 🖖🏻👩🏼‍🚀

Greetings to you too 😊

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lonersjargon · 20/07/2024 22:34

beachcomber70 · 20/07/2024 15:07

A loner here. I had a family, I had friends, I had marriage/relationships. They made me happy at the time but everyone has moved on usually with partners and I haven't been taken along. Their choice. People I really cared about have died, can't be replaced.
Some people have used me, I've been rejected and I've finally had enough of all that. I did my best.
I don't wish to share my life [ie. face book] or be bothered now by people's dramas/manipulations/agendas or have opinions on my life choices chewed over by those who think they know me but don't. Socialising is a minefield, not comfortable in groups...at all.

I sound miserable, I'm really not. Perfectly content in my life, happy to spend days in my home and garden, reading, walking, my crafts, thinking, good food and appreciating nature and my life. I feel blessed. I have sons and grandchildren, they make me happy, they like me. It's enough and it's great. It's calm, no one interfering. 4 friends I interact with now and then [all well-balanced people, they took some finding!], it works.

The world is too busy, obsessed with money/things, never quiet, people needing constant stimulation and people around them. I like my life of solitude ... now.

Anyway, as you were. Happy to find this thread.

On the contrary, you sound happy and content. Doing your own thing appears to be working for you!

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beergiggles · 20/07/2024 23:01

I have long thought that my solitary nature has at least something to do with being an only child. I know that lots of factors will combine to shape personality but does anyone else feel this is a factor for them?

lonersjargon · 21/07/2024 11:36

beergiggles · 20/07/2024 23:01

I have long thought that my solitary nature has at least something to do with being an only child. I know that lots of factors will combine to shape personality but does anyone else feel this is a factor for them?

It's quite possible to be one of the factors.
I'm the only woman in a family of men and that's certainly been a factor.

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lonersjargon · 21/07/2024 13:16

This morning, I painted a birdhouse and hung it in the garden. Unsure how to now attract the birds. Do I need to go and get bird feed or something?
Making salad now. I'm missing Broccoli. My ingredients are never complete 😊

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Gingin2 · 21/07/2024 14:20

Well I've been work as thought rather catch up with my backlog and now sitting with a glass of wine reading numbers

Gingin2 · 21/07/2024 14:22

Mumsnet*

BobbyBiscuits · 21/07/2024 14:24

I like spending most of my time alone. I'm doing what I like to do on any given day.
Lying on my little cheapo couch, drinking cheap pinot grigio and smoking a joint. Had a can of coke for breakfast.
Managed to get food for the next few days, so hoping I'll remain here till I make dinner at about 8pm.
Hope your day is going well.
I've always enjoyed spending time alone. I'm an only child, and don't have much family. There are two others in the house and I like to hang out with them a bit. But mainly I like my space.

Augustus40 · 21/07/2024 15:37

Sometimes it is easier to be our own best friend and not rely on others. Hermit lifestyle can work.

lonersjargon · 23/07/2024 07:57

Sunday was great. I now have some sesame seed for birds in my birdhouse. Looking forward to welcoming my first bird.
Spent yesterday rinsing marble stones and laying them in my garden. Thank goodness it's rained this morning, that would be helpful.

Today, I'll do some studying.
The chap I met on the app hasn't messaged me in 3 days. I was the last to message. Not sure what the social rules are but I'm not keen to chase anyone so I might unmatch.

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lonersjargon · 23/07/2024 13:58

No bird has visited my garden yet.
The sesame seeds are still around the bird house :(

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Cavalierchaos · 23/07/2024 15:44

I tried putting bird seed out for the plants one year. It just went mouldy and I never saw a bird near it!

BellesAndGraces · 23/07/2024 15:49

I’m sure the birds will come, maybe they haven’t spotted the bird feeder yet.

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 23/07/2024 19:46

Loner here too. Been introverted all my life. I live alone, no partner, no kids, some friends who I don't see often, no family, chronic ill health, have a dog and cat and basically live a very simple life. I like to read and often go to the local library. I enjoy cooking when I'm in the mood.

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