Can you help with a polite one liner to stop these conversations with SILs?

[User1974]

I am very close to DBs and very different to SILs in personality but we all get on ok. I have a specific style which I wear day in day out - and have for 35 years. SIL both love shopping, especially for clothes and discuss clothes a lot, I am not involved in these discussions.

The last 3 times I have seen them together they have tried to arrange a "make over" for me. I get it, they think I wear old stuff and need some pizzazz, but it is just not my style. Also make up, which I do not and have never worn. Also, I have MS and mobility issues and what I wear works for me, I am very very busy.

I have smiled and been sort of evasive but now they are offering dates for my big "make over" and they are super excited. What can I say to firmly but politely tell them, thanks but no thanks.

That’s soo patronising! Tell them you’re happy the way you are but you could offer them a social skills makeover if they’d oblige?

This is so funny. Do this

Hmm, I was sympathetic up to this point but there's a teeny, tiny, bit of stealth boasting/let's all laugh at my SILs going on now. There was the "look at my sleek, stylish Joseph dress which they wanted to ruin with the hideous fascinator" post and now this. The fascinator is hideous but you knew that and that most posters would agree.

I'm 100 % certain the sisters in law's tastes are stuff I wouldn't touch with a bargepole. I'm also pretty confident that I'm a very stylish dresser, although I've no interest in makeup and never had a manicure.

As another PP said You're very accomplished and successful for someone who can't say no, eh?

Is that the real problem or is this thread just a safe place to have an anonymous go at SIL's tastes?

OP i am truly in awe - you have the most staggering amount of good grace. They are rude,bullying and incredibly thick. How on earth you haven’t told them to get to fuck already I will never know!

Sod them being offended! I would say “you have now repeatedly made it clear that you think I am not well turned out. It is beginning to really upset me. I choose the clothes I like and I choose to have my face and hair how I want it. You are really offending me with your constant badgering. Please stop and let’s draw a line under this now”

I got it on ebay - I get everything on ebay! There is a place that sells new very expensive designer stuff with slight pulls/tears/stains so my dress was £17 instead of £340 because it had a pulled thread at the back - but I have very long hair which covers that so I don't care 😂😂My Kenzo trousers had a small split in the seam but I can sew so no problems! £450 and I got for £37 :)

OP i am truly in awe - you have the most staggering amount of good grace.

I disagree. Good grace would mean not taking glee from criticising and taking the piss out of the style and ‘small-mindedness’ of the SILs whilst basically bragging about the OP’s business and own style to a captive audience. Although I laughed at the OP referring to everyone as “all you lovelies” because she appreciates the snark.

I agree with @IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle
although I wouldn’t be surprised if the OP lived under a bridge

She’s quite rude, isn’t she?

Just ignore them both. You wear a silk dress, you’re winning.

You sound amazing and also stylish. I’m also in awe of you ability to hold back.

More to laugh at their obliviousness that people like different things, they dress beautifully - just not my thing at all.

They are also all much richer than me - DBs very high earners :)

Ah yes, I must learn my place 😂😂

It's bitchiness disguised as wanting to help you.

I bet they're a right pair of Karen's.

'Now look here Doreen and Maureen, I'm not going to have any kind of a make over, I am perfectly happy with my appearance. It's bloody rude of you to suggest I need one especially as the pair of you look like Les Dawson and Deputy Dog!'

Swap Les Dawson and Deputy Dog for anyone that they have a slight resemblance to.

My sister has a friend who suddenly started going on about my sister and I having long hair and it was ageing to have it long. No one asked for her opinion and my sister sniffed at her and said, ' That's a bit rich Janice, considering you look like a Sharpei!'

Our hair was never mentioned again!

SIL2 is not nearly as bad but has said I dress like "a 90 year old woman" on more than one occasion. I replied "that's exactly what I am aiming for"

I hardly think Kenzo trousers are90 year old style. Or if they are, that 90 year old is very stylish. Your clothes and style sound great @User1974

I think OP has every right to laugh at the pair of them.

Jesus

A tiny bit of stealth boasting? Did we read the same thread? Didn’t you read about the weeping staff member? 😂

Omg you sound bloody awesome. Take them on a trip to somewhere like Kings Cross /central saint Martin’s and they will see that you are actually really cool and they are very dated.

Oh god they tell me I need to get my hair cut off ALL THE TIME!!!!! My Aunt is Indian and has waist length hair at 72 so I just say "If it works for her it works for me" and let it fly...... long hair is aging apparently. Nahhhh it's lovely! Flicks hair like the Timotai ad 😂

Moi?

Oh I have no doubt that you totally know your place You’ve made it very clear that you’re a worldly kick-ass businesswoman & inspirational boss, all while being cool, calm and collected in designer clothing you of course got for a staggering bargain.

The more you post, the more I wonder if your rude SILs have felt repeatedly looked down upon and condescended to by you, and if comments about your style are their way of returning the favour.

“You two are great, I love you dearly but I am the wrong audience for your makeover ideas, it’s not my thing and …. How can I put this? ..I’m not doing it and that’s that” Any push back “I ’m serious. Leave me alone, and go back to your Barbie Dolls”

And then tell your brothers that you are serious and if you hear another
‘witticism’ that is rude about your appearance and clothing choices you will lose it.

Oh bless they tried to recruit you to an MLM - ha ha. Hmmm my MIL would get on with your SILs. She went through a stage of buying me different forms of embellishment. She now views me as a lost cause.

What we need to know now is what is that website?!

*Botox has also been suggested to me!
I did shut that down with "You know, I am not keen to paralyse bits of my face, I mean, the MS is going to do that for me soon enough eh"

DB scolded me for being a bitch because she was genuinely being nice and thinks Botox is the bees knees but just STFU eh?😂*

Blimey, I'd have asked him when his Botox is booked in for 😂

@Persus https://www.ebay.co.uk/str/popprifashionauctions here you go :)

We're in rural Lancashire/Yorkshire, mostly boiler suits and wellies round here 😂But I bloody love clothes. I am obsessed with fabrics. Silk, Cashmere, broderie anglaise. I have a lot of pain and issues with my arms/hands and find it so pleasurable to wear lovely things next to my skin. Always loose and a nice relaxed fit. I am desperate for an If Only If nightdress this summer - floating around with my walking stick in that - what a sight!

I think "bless" too. I can tell they pity me. I once overheard a "she'd be so cute if she made more of herself, why won't she try a little lipstick" convo and they really do want to help. But they just don't get that I like being me!