Can you help with a polite one liner to stop these conversations with SILs?

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I am very close to DBs and very different to SILs in personality but we all get on ok. I have a specific style which I wear day in day out - and have for 35 years. SIL both love shopping, especially for clothes and discuss clothes a lot, I am not involved in these discussions.

The last 3 times I have seen them together they have tried to arrange a "make over" for me. I get it, they think I wear old stuff and need some pizzazz, but it is just not my style. Also make up, which I do not and have never worn. Also, I have MS and mobility issues and what I wear works for me, I am very very busy.

I have smiled and been sort of evasive but now they are offering dates for my big "make over" and they are super excited. What can I say to firmly but politely tell them, thanks but no thanks.

Grey is so tacky

”Thank you, SIL. That’s kind of you to offer, but I don’t want a make-over of any kind as I’m happy with the way I look and feel it’s right for me as an individual”.

The trouble with pushy people is that they wont just leave it, they'll be badgering.

They'll say 'no honestly, you'll love it'

They'll try and contradict the OP

"Thank you I already have clothes, and my face is attactive without make up"

Say no thank you, I love the way I look. It makes me happy. I don't want to change.

I really dislike pushy people like this.

And the cake! How ridiculous! Does she think you are incapable of baking a cake or buying one from a supermarket?

It is actually infantilising of her. You are not able to make ‘proper’ decisions so don’t worry, she will do it for you. She will save you and ensure things are done properly.

I my dreams this is what I might say……..’Oh SIL, I am fine thank you. But I was looking at the outfits you’ve been wearing recently, I can help you look a bit more classy/modern/traditional/interesting if you want some help. Just let me know, it must be so difficult for you when you don’t understand how to chose appropriate clothes.’ But in reality, who can be bothered?!

….”ooh, let’s see who gets the most offended- me because you are criticising how I look or you when I tell you to fuck off.”

This. It sounds like all the "getting on ok" effort is on your side

I love this.

I like grey but then "I" chose it.

Definitely this.

what’s with all the ‘thanks for the offer, I appreciate the thought’ shite - just say no. As pp have said, if your SILs take offence that’s on them.

Don't worry about offending her - she sure as shit isn't worried about offending you. Maybe have a chat with your brother and ask him to have a word - explain she is really insulting you.

" Thank you for the offer, but I already have my Fairy Godmother to help me and a couple of crystal slippers on standby. "

send them this link, rinse ans repeat

We are different people SIL.
I like my style.
It works for me.
I don't want a makeover.
With the greatest respect, please don't mention it again.

I dress totally appropriately for any ocassion. I have good skin I look after and don't think make up adds anything. To a posh restaurant I would wear my copped tapered Kenzo trousers with a cream silk shirt from jigsaw and my black Satin Nike Air Max and my self portrait brocade jacket.

SIL's would wear a much more brightly coloured outfit: tiered maxi dresses are very much the thing at the moment, and heels, lipstick and an evening bag. I only own 1 bag and use it all day every day: a mulberry mini anthony. They each have about 30 bags! It is just a very different idea about everything and I say each to their own but they clearly do not see it this way and think I am drab and need jazzing up 😂

or "Fuck off with your stupid ideas" Either works for me.

sorry about my spelling, my hands are playing up with the cold weather

it sounds like they need the makeover!

How about “Thanks for the kind offer but it’s really not my thing. I’m comfortable with my current style and it’s manageable with my lifestyle which is something I always need to consider. I’d love to do something else with you though - how about tea at x / going for facials / whatever?”

There’s a Miranda scene for every situation in life.

You all sound very well turned out. Not sure what their issue is. Perhaps they just need a hobby and theyve rudely decided you are their hobby.

Vacuous.

“What makes you think I need a makeover?”

And then watch them squirm answering.

I think you assume too much self awareness from them

They wouldnt squirm, they'd probably answer the question, citing a load of flaws (non existent of course)

@MeAgainAndAgain - that Miranda video made me giggle.

@OP - I would just say to them , Nice thought but please don't book in a makeover for me I just don't want to do it.