Can you help with a polite one liner to stop these conversations with SILs?

[User1974]

I am very close to DBs and very different to SILs in personality but we all get on ok. I have a specific style which I wear day in day out - and have for 35 years. SIL both love shopping, especially for clothes and discuss clothes a lot, I am not involved in these discussions.

The last 3 times I have seen them together they have tried to arrange a "make over" for me. I get it, they think I wear old stuff and need some pizzazz, but it is just not my style. Also make up, which I do not and have never worn. Also, I have MS and mobility issues and what I wear works for me, I am very very busy.

I have smiled and been sort of evasive but now they are offering dates for my big "make over" and they are super excited. What can I say to firmly but politely tell them, thanks but no thanks.

'What, a makeover to look like you? No thanks lovey'. Politeness is never an option with these sort of people!

Is the idea for them to do the make-over or have it done at a salon?

Yeah, you don’t really understand “polite”, do you?

You wrote "DB scolded me for being a bitch because she was genuinely being nice and thinks Botox is the bees knees but just STFU eh?" @User1974 so my response to that is "Well DB, you're free to get Botox if you feel you need it but I'm quite happy as I am and I don't want or feel that I need Botox, so let's just drop the topic, before we end up falling out over it, ok?"

Or just go with a simple, "Fuck off!"

I think when they suggest you need a makeover it's the time pull out the Mn classic

"Did you mean to sound so rude?"

How fucking dare they keep suggesting you aren't good enough as you are - and worse still get offended when you suggest it.

What can I say to firmly but politely tell them, thanks but no thanks

"SIL(s) - I would rather gouge my own eyes out with a hot teaspoon than have a makeover from you two anyone". That should do it.

Loving this thread - you sound great OP. Keep on doing you.

I'm sure she perfectly understands 'polite' but there are times when it is of no use, in the same way that I am not given to violence but if I am carrying £500+ in coins, church cash, to the bank and someone tries to grab it they would find out how it feels smashed in their face.

If someone is constantly badgering having been given a definitive No many times then they can't expect politeness.

@User1974
"Fuck off" whist smiling obviously to keep it polite
"No really, fuck off" without a smile when they push the point

Oh God, I have serious style envy, OP. I like low-key minimalist style in luxurious fabrics, so I love Joseph - but can rarely afford it. Maybe I need to set up a ‘cottage industry’ to finance it.

Your SILs sound completely nuts. In terms of how to say thanks, but no thanks. I would say just that.

Your style sounds fantastic OP.
In fact, if anyone was handing out style advice it should be you!
I have a feeling the SILs egg each other on, and to be quite frank, they sound like they are bored and in need of something to do.
You clearly have a great and full life as well as a fantastic business.
I know these two could cause offence but they are clearly on a different planet, and genuinely think that dressing you up as a little Love Island dolly would give you the thrill of a lifetime.
Just give them a firm ‘no’ and tell them to leave it. And if you need help with style you will ask your personal shopper as your business is doing so well it’s now in your budget. They can take the strain of seeking out your designer finds well you ace the world of commerce.

I feel your pain. My step sister used to constantly advise me on how I could I improve: loss weight, hair shorter etc. It was relentless.

One day I had enough. And just said "no fucking way, not now, not ever. Don't comment again". She hasn't to be fair.

Thank you, but I'm secure enough in my own skin that I don't need to hide behind make up and I like my clothes I don't need to look like everyone else.
If that doesn't work try the old mums net classic "do you mean to be so rude?"

That's really sneery to those who do wear make up though

'Why do you think I need a makeover?'

To be fair, neither do the SILs, so polite probably isn't going to cut it if OP wants it to stop.

I’d find it tremendously offensive if someone was doing this to me. You can start there.

It was a tongue in cheek, joking comment. Hence grinning face as a tone indicator.

The OP asked for polite one-liners.

Your SIL happiness isn't your responsibility - if she is offended that you are happy with your style and don't want a make over, that's her problem.

You sound like you have the patience of a Saint. Why people feel the need to impose their own thoughts on style on another without invitation is beyond me.

Just like they're being sneery about people who don't, it works both ways.

Well this is good enough for the Royals!! I love wearing old favourites too (and new ones sometimes!)
You sound an incredible person and they are really missing out.....so glad you can rise above it all so well! 😊

If you’re mega successful, stylish, have staff weeping in gratitude over you, then you can probably tell your pushy SILs to shove off and leave you alone.

Say " I'm not doing it. End of".
Leave if they start pushing.

Can’t you just say ‘Thanks but it’s not really my thing’?
A couple of my friends never wear make up-I would never dream of being so rude as to suggest they should be wearing it. If they persist, say It’s not me, not something I’m interested in, turn your attentions to someone who would appreciate it. So what if they’re huffy-they should think before they speak.

"Thanks for trying to be helpful but , honestly , I'm happy as I am , I don't wish to change."