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People on their high horse cos they don't post on social media.

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slideawayy · 19/05/2024 16:26

Was reading a post yesterday about whether or not people post holiday photos on their social media, and have seen lots of other similar discussions.

I really get the vibe that people who don't post think they are somehow a step above those who do?

Last night I was at a friends of a friends house, she never ever posts on social media but was gossiping and bitching about what she sees and sniggering at people who always bit photos up of their days out etc.

This is what social media is for?!?! To share photos and thoughts of your own social goings on?! For the love of god if you don't like it don't follow these people. Stop nosying at my bloody stories, if I wanna let y'all know I'm enjoying a pina colada in the sunshine I will!

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earther · 20/05/2024 21:18

I have no SM only MN call & text & email thats it.
I dont think im above anyone else either its my choice.
If you enjoy posting good for you your choice but not all of us want to put our lifes online.
If i did id have nothing to talk about when i see people because they would already know because they would have seen it.
Plus i like to be off social grid know one knows what im doing unless they ask me.
It a choice.

Maybe you have a friend of a friend problem.

Screamingabdabz · 20/05/2024 21:25

If anything I think it’s the other way around. Why do SM people assume that the mundane events of their life are so endlessly interesting to other people? Or God help us, the selfies! Just why?

SquashPenguin · 20/05/2024 21:30

Screamingabdabz · 20/05/2024 21:25

If anything I think it’s the other way around. Why do SM people assume that the mundane events of their life are so endlessly interesting to other people? Or God help us, the selfies! Just why?

I agree with this. Why do people think they are so important that everyone wants to see their boring ass holiday photos 🤣

Mummy2mybear · 20/05/2024 21:38

Screamingabdabz · 20/05/2024 21:25

If anything I think it’s the other way around. Why do SM people assume that the mundane events of their life are so endlessly interesting to other people? Or God help us, the selfies! Just why?

I was thinking the same when I read the post 😂

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 20/05/2024 21:40

I agree with this. Why do people think they are so important that everyone wants to see their boring ass holiday photos 🤣

Since when does sharing photos with your friends online mean you think you're 'so important'? Confused I don't post pictures very often at all, but I like seeing what nice stuff my friends are up to. I'm wondering what you think social media is for then?

BobnLen · 20/05/2024 21:43

It's a modern version of years ago when you had to sit through hours of peoples holiday videos, why do people do this.

Yourethebeerthief · 20/05/2024 21:49

I like seeing my friends and family enjoying their lives.

Some live abroad. There's no time to email each other individually all the time. I send emails to 3 elderly relatives who don't have social media and wouldn't know where to begin with it. I send handwritten letters to another elderly relative who barely knows how her own telly works.

Keeping up with those 4 people is hard work enough. The rest of my close friends and family are easy to keep up with on Facebook.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 20/05/2024 21:57

It's a modern version of years ago when you had to sit through hours of peoples holiday videos, why do people do this.

Except that you're not a captive audience on social media. You can switch off, unfollow or just skim past.

VeraForever · 20/05/2024 22:00

I don't have a social media presence but I use FB for local news . Various people follow me from when I worked, but I don't follow anyone other than a local history page, art page or, as I said, local news.

I mute personal pages but obviously they get through every 30 days.
I'm utterly baffled at a photo of a child at a party with '31+' photos. Who wants to see them other than bored grandparents?
I also don't want to see your new cheek fillers, or your new vase, or your new plant pot.

It's sad people living vicariously.
As to fecking stories and memes 🙄

Dogsbarkingeverywhere · 20/05/2024 22:03

😂Few miserable people. I post every month or so, is that ok?

0hno · 20/05/2024 22:06

I must say I do just wonder about these people. Most people share pictures in WhatsApp groups now, with a target audience rather than 500 people who are not really their friends.
It's a bit showy off and exhibitionist

VenusClapTrap · 20/05/2024 22:08

I like seeing my friends’ holiday pics. Presumably they like seeing mine too because they comment and ask questions.
I have one friend who has travelled to every single country in the world - his photos are especially fascinating because he goes to some really, really unusual places. I’m just as happy to look at someone’s pictures of their day trip to Whitby with their granny though. They all make me smile.

I agree there is a lot of sneering about it on here. I just roll my eyes.

shenandoahvalley · 20/05/2024 22:08

I will readily admit to being a hypocrite: I don't ever post anything on my FB, but I quite enjoy looking at what others post. If people want to broadcast their news, I'll listen or watch and totally judge (selectively; I've blocked a few people over the years). If you want to put yourself out there, you have to be ready to be judged 😁.

In fact, thinking about it, I actually withdraw my admission of hypocrisy. I don't think there's any in-built reciprocity to SM anymore. Not since people started to use it as a platform to advertise themselves. These people want views and likes in return for putting themselves out there. They get what they want - deal done.

mindutopia · 20/05/2024 22:10

But isn't that the point of social media? It's to share media (text/images) with people who follow you. That's literally the whole point. I'm not a big poster on my personal social media, but I do share photos from holidays and other interesting events. I appreciate seeing what friends and family share. Because I live far from most of them and it's nice to feel kept in the loop about what they're up to. Otherwise, what would be the point of following them? If I didn't want to see these things, I wouldn't use social media at all. Personally, I think this sort of attitude probably comes from a place of insecurity, which is the case for most people who outwardly project that they are better than everyone else.

SabreIsMyFave · 20/05/2024 22:12

BobnLen · 20/05/2024 21:43

It's a modern version of years ago when you had to sit through hours of peoples holiday videos, why do people do this.

NOBODY has to look at them though. Confused

Just unfollow the person so your eyes are not offended and outraged by their lovely happy family and friend photos! 🙄

@slideawayy YANBU. I get so sick of people who are so fucking snobby about social media, and act holier than thou because THEY don't post on it. (Facebook receives the most snobbery.) Just unfollow or unfriend if the people posting holiday and party and family pics offend you so much. Fuxake! Hmm

ATribeCalledQuestion · 20/05/2024 22:12

I love social media! I love seeing people's pictures and posting mine.

If people don't like it they don't have to be on it!

Kendodd · 20/05/2024 22:14

I never post such pictures on SM, and I have to admit, I do judge people who post pictures of children. I like seeing pictures of peoples holidays, what they're doing etc. My favourite though, I really do love a round robin at Christmas 😃

LakeTiticaca · 20/05/2024 22:14

Those who don't post their holiday snaps on social media are the wise ones.
If you get burgled while you are on holiday and you have advertised the fact you are away, your insurance may be invalidated

VenusClapTrap · 20/05/2024 22:20

LakeTiticaca · 20/05/2024 22:14

Those who don't post their holiday snaps on social media are the wise ones.
If you get burgled while you are on holiday and you have advertised the fact you are away, your insurance may be invalidated

Well if you’re friends with burglars then yes, fair enough.

Apparationsaythemoment · 20/05/2024 22:20

LakeTiticaca · 20/05/2024 22:14

Those who don't post their holiday snaps on social media are the wise ones.
If you get burgled while you are on holiday and you have advertised the fact you are away, your insurance may be invalidated

You've got crap friends then if they burgle your house when you're away 🙄

Chypre · 20/05/2024 22:24

I do post on SM daily, but my profiles are private, with only family/friends added in. We have moved around quite a bit and to me SM is a great way to stay in touch with loved ones, so much easier to keep relationships afloat.

rinseandrepeat1 · 20/05/2024 22:27

I don't think social media has aged well and I think a lot of people now find it cringey.
I wouldn't unfollow somebody for posting holiday pics but I have unfollowed people for over sharing pictures of their children, which I don't agree with. One particular woman on mine always posts pictures of her children when they are unwell 'oh so and so is so poorly today'. I mean imagine being a kid and unwell and your mums taking pictures of you for the internet.

redapplegreen · 20/05/2024 22:32

I think that when you share things about yourself with others you should do so knowing that there's always a risk involved.
The more people you tell, the harder is is to judge their reaction, so if their opinions are important to you then it's probably better off keeping the number small. If you don't care at all then you can post to the whole world and not care a jot about their thoughts on the matter.

Dogsbarkingeverywhere · 20/05/2024 22:33

I live abroad and most people in my social group post pics, because it’s often so sunny with a lot going on. It doesn’t mean lives are perfect, but it makes for nicer snaps sometimes. I’ve noticed many sneering in the U.K. haven’t posted a lot, but then the last few days when the sun has been out, they’ve posted loads..bit hypocritical tbh. I like seeing peoples pics and videos and don’t feel any bitterness or jealousy

5475878237NC · 20/05/2024 22:33

Chypre · 20/05/2024 22:24

I do post on SM daily, but my profiles are private, with only family/friends added in. We have moved around quite a bit and to me SM is a great way to stay in touch with loved ones, so much easier to keep relationships afloat.

What is happening in your life that is of daily interest to anyone though?