People on their high horse cos they don't post on social media.

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Was reading a post yesterday about whether or not people post holiday photos on their social media, and have seen lots of other similar discussions.

I really get the vibe that people who don't post think they are somehow a step above those who do?

Last night I was at a friends of a friends house, she never ever posts on social media but was gossiping and bitching about what she sees and sniggering at people who always bit photos up of their days out etc.

This is what social media is for?!?! To share photos and thoughts of your own social goings on?! For the love of god if you don't like it don't follow these people. Stop nosying at my bloody stories, if I wanna let y'all know I'm enjoying a pina colada in the sunshine I will!

What always strikes me on Mn is how much sadness, anger, jealousy, feelings of envy, or exclusion or FOMO etc etc etc seems to emerge from stuff to do with encountering other people’s SM. It seems like it eats your time and seems to cause no end of bad feeling. So I’d say my feelings about not using it are more ‘bullet dodged’.

My neighbour puts about 50-60 holiday pics a day on while she is away! So boring. I scroll on!

@5475878237NC my angelfish have laid eggs today. Eggs to fry progression is fascinating.

Also, I had a friend years ago whilst her dcs were small, who used to really sneer about people posting, saying they have no life etc. Now, she’s out all the time, jetting off to places and has a great life and literally posts every week. She admitted she felt like that as her life was so hard at the time and she never did anything. I can see both sides tbh

I very rarely post photos on social media. This probably reflects the kind of person I am in real life - which is someone who likes to keep a low profile! I don't mind seeing other people's photos, but I did unfollow a couple of my nieces when they were in their mid teens as I was finding myself swearing under my breath at the seemingly endless parade of duck faced selfies. Most of them weren't even of my nieces😆 They probably didn't notice my absence since they had eleventy billion other 'friends' anyway. My SIL posts loads of photos and I usually love to see them, but at the minute I'm struggling with depression since my mum died last year and people doing happy stuff makes me feel a bit curmudgeonly.

Scoff if you will but its true

I've had a baby 5 weeks ago and I'm yet to make a announcement 😂 although this is second baby so no one would care anyway. Oh well .

That's really spiteful. I love knowing what my friends and family are up to because, funnily enough they're my friends and family 🤨

Seriously? It's a complete trope

Yeah, this. ^ What a really silly ignorant thing to do - to scoff at your comment. It's a well documented fact that some insurance companies are refusing to pay out on the home contents policies if someone is robbed - (when they've advertised on Facebook that they're away.)

You don't have to have a Facebook friends list full of thugs and criminals and thieves and robbers. If you've got a few hundred people on there, it only takes a couple of people to mention to someone else - who will mention to someone else - that you're away, and it soon gets about. Then the wrong person will hear that you're away. Bingo, you're robbed and you're not covered.

I can't believe anybody is so clueless and naïve that they refuse to believe that posting pics on Facebook (showing they are away,) won't result in a robbery, and them not being covered by their insurance! Yes of course, the chance of it happening is fairly small, but it CAN happen, and it HAS happened. And THAT is why some insurance companies are now saying they won't pay out for people who are robbed, if they have posted pics on social media, informing people that they are away, and their house is empty!

Get a clue FFS!

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I used to like FB. I then realised I was judging every post made and then became a bit embarrassed for people posting a lot. I now have taken my judgy arse off FB and let them get on without my silent eye rolling.

I’m not on a high horse, I’m not snobby, I’m not judgmental of those who frequently post on social media.

I am by nature quite sensitive - I found myself becoming overly anxious when I did post myself. I had a number of friends who seemed increasingly unavailable for ‘real life’ conversation but posted a lot online.
I discovered that in some cases our interests became incompatible. (One particular memory of a formerly close friend who spent a day with me but was focussed on constantly messaging and updating an online friend. I was hurt and later discovered she had never met this person in real life). We are no longer in contact which saddened me at first but I respect that her priorities are different to mine.

Anyway I made the decision that was correct for me and came off Facebook around 8 years ago. My only regret is the time I wasted on it. Other people seem to have a more healthy relationship with it - good for them.

I am on social media but I keep my accounts anonymous. I mostly follow celebrities and groups I'm in. The only photos I'm interested in seeing are when my DSD posts pics of DGD or when my sister posts pics of my nephews. Everything else bores me.

I dont post but people do post, why does it matter either way? this 'OMG I am sooooo being judged because someone has said something I do it bad' or whatever makes people sound about 12, no offense to real 12 year olds

I dont care if what I do is considered by anyone else as good or bad as it works for me and I am an actual grown up

Go on then, how will the insurance company ever know that I posted a few pics of me in Spain on my FB?

If I'm meeting Granny in Hyde Park does that count too or just holidays, how long does the holiday have to be to warrant being uninsured? I'm genuinely curious

Totally grates me too. People on high horses who never posts, yet constantly stalks and judge others for posting. Like why? So they feel better about themselves? If they don't like what they see, then why go looking for it?

It’s funny everyone asking why people care etc. it’s because nowadays we see people for so little time/ so little/not at all that it’s nice that people can see what’s happening in our daily lives. My sil posts all the time and I love that I know all the ins and outs of their days (I only realised it when she stopped for a time and I missed it). Same with db who I don’t see enough

I have private fb and insta accounts, neither with my real name and neither of them with pictures of my family or I. I think the 1st problem that many people have is the fakeness of it all. None of these people live in worlds where the sun always shines and their children always smile and look immaculate, but somehow make the rest of us believe that they do. The second problem is the smugness. The need to convey a ‘my life is better than yours’ attitude. One insta person I know (who has recently ditched a load of followers and made her account private, so I can only assume someone told her to stop being so smug) would completely trash some types of parenting but then say ‘but obviously if you do x it’s cool beans and you don’t need my approval’ (and yes, she actually said ‘cool beans’).

That’s a new level of smug.

I can't imagine judging someone for generic pics of their life, just scroll past. I do judge people that post pictures/details about their DC, EXs, neighbours, overly personal details eg a photo of a letter from CMS, details on public pages that identify others eg giving someone's address, people that use drones with no regard for the privacy of others ect ect. I think some people can be incredibly stupid and selfish when it comes to their online presence.

Exactly! People think they are superior because they have social media but choose not to use it (other than to stalk and judge other people). I like seeing people's photos.

Glad you're not my 'friend'. Maybe get off social media? Clue's in the name.

There is some evidence that social media is damaging to the mental health of young women, isn’t there? Stuff around feeling like everyone else is leading these amazing lives with loving family and fabby holidays and huge hauls of birthday presents, whilst looking sexy and having lots of mad but supportive friends. Most people know it’s curated, but for the vulnerable, it’s still a constant suggestion that their own lives aren’t really measuring up.

The other issue I have is a concern that there’s a growing trend for people to experience life events at a slight remove because they are recording them at the same time as experiencing them. I don’t mean holiday photos - you can take a quick photo and then get back to it - but things like recording your child blowing out their birthday candles and opening Christmas presents or recording at a concert or other event. When the recording for social media becomes as important or more important than throwing yourself wholeheartedly into the occasion, I think that’s dangerous.

Personally I think the best candidates for social media posts are things that are a little out of the ordinary. Not 20 duck face selfies or the contents of your toilet bowl... but rather things like parties, hiking, a beautiful sunset, your latest DIY or knitting project, a Northern Lights display over Basingstoke, that sort of stuff. Travel and holidays absolutely fall into the "interesting" category.

I do however think less is generally more, and 3 curated and interesting photos are better than 20 duck face selfies / contents of toilet bowl (but in Corfu).

Of course it's up to the individual how they want to use social media, and the snooze function exists for a reason.

Hahah this is my point! If everyone on there never posted anything then it would be completely pointless!

Fair enough to those who don't follow personal accounts and follow local history or hobbies etc, but if you follow people and then moan like majority of people on these threads then just stop ? Get off there?

We have various family and friends that are abroad so I post on SM occasionally - maybe 1 or 2 pics every couple of months, just for them really. They do the same for us. It’s the easiest way of keeping up a tiny bit with what’s going on in each others lives when we’re all so busy. All my accounts are private and I only follow friends and family. I also tend to post after the fact, so I wouldn’t post pics while we’re on holiday or whatever, but may post a pic a couple of weeks later.

The only thing that pisses me off are the ones that constantly post overly personal information. Custody drama, badmouthing the other parent, pics of kids in school uniform, pics of naked kids in the bath/paddling pool etc 🙄 Or the ones who post their dinner every day!