People on their high horse cos they don't post on social media.

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Was reading a post yesterday about whether or not people post holiday photos on their social media, and have seen lots of other similar discussions.

I really get the vibe that people who don't post think they are somehow a step above those who do?

Last night I was at a friends of a friends house, she never ever posts on social media but was gossiping and bitching about what she sees and sniggering at people who always bit photos up of their days out etc.

This is what social media is for?!?! To share photos and thoughts of your own social goings on?! For the love of god if you don't like it don't follow these people. Stop nosying at my bloody stories, if I wanna let y'all know I'm enjoying a pina colada in the sunshine I will!

I don’t see many people doing selfies nowadays?

I haven't seen anyone doing an unironic duck face since about 2015!

@NonPlayerCharacter No, still a lot of V signs though, that’s become old

This. ^ You've got to be a special kind of numpty to post all your glossy holiday pics of yourself in Tenerife whilst you're actually there! (And your home is vacant!) As you say, many people have 100s of 'friends' on Facebook and even if you only post the pics for 'friends only,' not only do you risk someone grassing, but also, people talk, and it won't take long for it to get about that LakeTiticaca or SabreIsMyFave is away in Tenerife. (And their home is empty!)

And whilst I don't personally know any really dodgy people (and I'm sure many MNers don't!) it only takes one of your facebook 'friends' to blab to the 'wrong' person, and you could be robbed. And as the pp said, some people are a bit malicious, and will grass, and tell the police that you were away, and it will compromise your insurance claim.

I also agree with other posters that it's ridiculous to carp about people 'bragging' on social media. No-one is forcing you to look. Just unfollow them FFS. Some people on here sound like right miserable jealous feckers! 😆

Really??

Wow, that's 90s!

They're judging you and you're judging them. Both get on with your lives. You can post and love it and they can not post and love it. What's the problem?

I just uploaded some holiday pics to my FB. It is not "forcing" people to be interested (they can scroll on by... it is not like I am forcing them to look through an album on my sofa!).
In a year, it will come up as a memory for me, which will be nice.

But why is it you think others are interested ? Genuine question

Why wouldn't they be? Genuine question. I'm very interested in seeing holiday photos of my friends and family. It's a great pleasure of mine. I also enjoy their family photos, nature photos etc. I realise that not everyone is interested in other people's photos but plenty are.

It's not a genuine question, stop it. We all know why someone might take an interest in another person's life.

But presumably, anyone who isn't interested won't choose to have her content on their feed and go to the platform to check it out. If they do, and they're not interested and hate her content, well, the real question is: why are they so thick?

Are you not interested in the lives of anyone you know?

I don't, because no one cares. Not because I'm on some sort of high horse. No one gives a shit about me or my kids.

I’m not the poster you asked, but will give my perspective.
I haven’t used social media for many years because I’m busy living my own life, and would rather not waste my life staring at other people living their life. I didn’t enjoy seeing other peoples photos pre-social media. Before social media people rarely showed their physical albums unless it was for a very special occasion. Whereas social media seems to attract people who upload every photo they have ever taken.
Its not a high horse thing though, I just find it boring and a waste of time for me personally. If people enjoy it though I don’t think less of them for it.

Well, yes, but that's not the kind of thing that I'm referring to.

People often post a very curated version of things. No different to the bollocks people write on here, really, it's just not anonymous.

I'm aware of that, but that doesn't make them superior, which is what people keep trying to imply when they bang on about how awful Facebook is while posting for hours on MN

I use both so not knocking either, but at least I don't blither on about how shitty everyone on Facebook is.

We don't post holiday pics because we don't want to advertise that the house is empty!

Social media is a brilliant and very effective tool if used well.

I have a huge extended family scattered around the globe plus very dear friends who have emigrated. I’d love to be able to meet them regularly for a coffee and catch up but some of them I’m lucky to see in person once a decade. Facebook helps me remain connected to them. Even with all the will in the world I couldn’t keep up with Skyping them all on the regular. It’d be a full time job.

They are, and it is easy to tell. They make comments etc.
Believe it or not, some people do actually care about what their friends get up to.

Social media keeps people connected because of the propensity to be global. Families aren't close knit anymore, they're scattered. I've always wondered why people move so far away.

This is a perfect example of people who look down their noses at people who use SM.

I don't post but don't judge those who do. I just don't want pics of my children or my personal al info accessible to people I don't know.

I have a friend like this.

I just deleted her and told her I'd done her a favour 😆

We are still best mates but I don't have her sniggering at me any more.

I really like looking at other people’s holiday photos. You do know that if people don’t want to look at them, they can just not look at them don’t you?

I completely understand your perspective and it just proves that everyone's different.

I think social media is an ‘all in’ or an ‘all out’ thing. Having a profile and then being cross others don’t use theirs in the way you want is daft. You can hide, skim, ignore, engage, comment … whatever. But to sneer at the way others use it is unpleasant and reflects badly on you. Of course Tracy your ex-colleague from Mansfield is going to post photos of her kids/dog/dinner/holiday etc. That’s her life. She’s hardly out at the Met Gala and having her photo taken for Vogue. Are you?!

I used to love it when people posted photos of holidays/days out etc. Not much of that these days which is sad. That was the best bit for me.