People on their high horse cos they don't post on social media.

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Was reading a post yesterday about whether or not people post holiday photos on their social media, and have seen lots of other similar discussions.

I really get the vibe that people who don't post think they are somehow a step above those who do?

Last night I was at a friends of a friends house, she never ever posts on social media but was gossiping and bitching about what she sees and sniggering at people who always bit photos up of their days out etc.

This is what social media is for?!?! To share photos and thoughts of your own social goings on?! For the love of god if you don't like it don't follow these people. Stop nosying at my bloody stories, if I wanna let y'all know I'm enjoying a pina colada in the sunshine I will!

The only people I know who post of fb nowadays are miserable and want attention.

It’s also interesting how fake and instagramy all the photos are in comparison to real life. Some of my friends will post lovely looking family photos, but all I get is calls with ‘i am so exhausted and miserable, my DH is a dick, I am skint, i have xyz problems’.

I agree. I like seeing people's photos of holidays etc but when people post every minute aspect of their lives on SM it makes me wonder how on earth they can be so arrogant to think we are all so interested in the daily minutiae of their lives.

But why will you ? Because you need validation from others that you are doing well in life just because you are on holiday. It's all a load of bullshit. I'm not on it unless you consider this to be social medial. I don't look at it and I don't care what anyone else is doing tbh. Busy getting on with my life with my family and my friends.

SM started as a way to rate the females at Harvard uni, so bitching and judging is kinda what is was created for. And now it's to mine your online data to sell to advertising groups, it makes a few at the top very wealthy.

Obviously there needs to be a carrot so hopefully a few of your friends and strangers can be envious of your holiday that should just about cover it.

It really really isn't the happy clappy little share our photos and no one will say a horrible word place you think it should be.

So honestly for me the more people who take the piss out of others hopefully putting them off sharing a bit the better.

I don't think that and I don't post holiday photos

I just don't think anyone cares about my holidays and also I've stopped posting on social media. I use it mostly for parenting pages now

Social media is a heaven for narcissists and people with social pressure to show how marvellous their life is. I feel much better not posting and sometimes feel sorry for people who overkill themselves on it. Those whom lives are shit and are pretending. Naturally people who are private and reserved rather not to post. However, I am older and is not an issue either way. I see there is a lot of pressure for younger people to post.

I also rather enjoyed watching celebrities social media posts rather than the wannabes drinking cocktails on credit 🤣🤣🤣

Why is it that so many people who don't post feel the need to make snide, nasty comments about those who do?

If someone's photos don't interest you then you don't have to look at them 🤷‍♀️ you don't need to show yourself up by sniggering and being unpleasant.

I don't give two shits if someone posts on social media or not, and if I don't like their photos I just...scroll on by.

I think the pp who mentions that some people are not actually enjoying moments. They're just thinking about when to take a picture and how it looks and then once posted, they're eagerly craving the likes. That's the bit I find sad

I’m too lazy to update any SM these days, but I like seeing what people are up to. I’ve even booked a holiday to a place I saw a friend go as it looked so beautiful (and it was!).

Why are people friends with those who they think are self indulgent etc.? That’s the beauty of it, you can just see the updates of the people you like. I think sometimes people like to get annoyed and feel superior.

It might be the introvert in me but I just can’t see why anyone would want to see my photos of what I’ve been up to with my family. I love looking through my photos but I’m not sure why Rita from accounts would want to see them. So I don’t post but I look and like other friends posts.
But I don’t get jealous of other posts - I have a friend who posts everything, and the obligatory holiday photos looking loved up and happy. But when we meet and I ask her about her holiday, it was always awful, with arguments and fighting. I think it’s why I take what I see with a pinch of salt.

Aside from friends lots of people have family on their SM who might want to see pictures. I have friends/family in Australia and America. Both interested in seeing pics of our lives, not everyday but parties/holidays and kids stuff.

Why follow them then?

In my circle of friends you're right OP. I post occasionally on FB as I have relatives and friends who enjoy seeing pictures of the kids but I wouldn't say I'm OTT with it and quite mindful of not being seen to 'brag'. Likewise I enjoy seeing pictures of others. But confused why people feel the need to post 500 photos of their holiday when 10 would tell the story.
A few in my group stopped using SM a few years ago and definitely see those who use it as a bit desperate and themselves as superior in some way. One is convinced that every photo of a child on SM is somehow going to end up on a pedo website and by posting pictures of kids, parents may as well just sell their bodies on the street and have done with it.

I don’t think that.
I just find social media tedious. It’s when a photo would pop up and I would think ‘who is that?’ and realise it was a photo incredibly filtered of someone I knew, that didn’t look even slightly like them. Just, why??

This is quite an interesting topic, OP.

On the one hand, I never post any pictures to social media. Ever. I like my life to remain private.

But - I absolutely love seeing friends holiday/pet photos! It's a nice way to see what people are getting up to.

I don't agree with posting pictures of children but everything else is fab! I certainly don't feel I am 'above' anyone else, I just prefer to keep my own life private.

My autistic DS absolutely loves posting on FB about interesting things he has done, it in fact completely encourages him to get involved in fun activities, sports etc, because he wants to get likes for his photos. I strictly control who can see his profile (family and only very close friends of mine) and he knows not to post a picture until I have edited it and approved it. It's a very good thing in his life and if anyone judges us, well frankly I don't care.

I just miss the days of when someone would phone you or meet up to tell you their latest news (or for a gossip!) and to just have a catch up. People don't do that in the same way nowadays as it's easier to just post on SM so everyone assumes you already know their latest news. I'm not really into SM so am usually that last to find out someone has had a new baby or lost a loved one, started a new job, passed an exam etc. As ironic as it is I feel SM has ruined actual human interaction and the art of conversation.

I enjoy seeing what friends are up to and it makes for good conversation when we meet. But then I only have close friends on sm and they generally only post now and again with interesting information or news not boring every day type stuff.

One friend stands out though as complete overkill with 50plus awful photos of every trip which always include the same poses, a plate of dinner and a wine glass, random room keys from a hotel or a menu cover. It's a bit of a joke now in the group tbh.

It literally has ruined my oldest friendship. I stopped using FB a few years ago and when we met/ spoke she'd say things like I don't know what to talk about as I haven't seen any updates from you... Also I think she took it almost personally, thinking I withdrew from it as to not 'support' her content?! Also called me a 'recluse'... I was going through a difficult time and all I wanted is genuine friendships, not everyone I have ever met snooping online and not bothering messaging 'how are you'...
Anyway. I'm glad I'm not on it. I feel like I can be authentically myself when not constantly bombarded with the latest looks to have, places to be, trends to follow...

I think social media is for :

Boasting! Lying and selling things also.

In the 90’s we would call people like that ‘posers’ and it was cringe to me and feels the same. I don’t want to be sold stuff and deceived so I stay off of it, but I don’t have any issue with people who are on social media. Everyone has a choice.

I just miss the days of when someone would phone you or meet up to tell you their latest news (or for a gossip!) and to just have a catch up.

I still meet up friends for coffee and a catch-up and so do most people I know. We pretty much all use social media as well, but it's not at the expense of real life interactions.

@3luckystars clearly you do have an issue with people who post on social media though as you've just said it's only used for boasting and lying

I removed myself from all social media years ago due to a stalker situation which was SO FUN.

I never went back because I honestly felt completely liberated by getting away from it all. I just have family and friend group chats now to share photos and things.

I don't judge people who post on SM, but I do wonder how many of them know exactly how easy it is for anyone to access everything they post, how much of their data and info they're inadvertently selling to third parties by posting it, how easy it is for undesirables to access their stuff. People with public profiles posting multiple pictures a day of their kids make me worry, for instance.

I appreciate my view is jaded by poor experience but I think social media is the worst (legal) thing we've done with the internet and on average the world would be a better place without it.

No I think a lot of it is boasting and selling, but not my actual friends.
I mean advertisers and celebrities, not the real people that I actually like who are just on it to pass the time.

Sorry about that.