People on their high horse cos they don't post on social media.

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Was reading a post yesterday about whether or not people post holiday photos on their social media, and have seen lots of other similar discussions.

I really get the vibe that people who don't post think they are somehow a step above those who do?

Last night I was at a friends of a friends house, she never ever posts on social media but was gossiping and bitching about what she sees and sniggering at people who always bit photos up of their days out etc.

This is what social media is for?!?! To share photos and thoughts of your own social goings on?! For the love of god if you don't like it don't follow these people. Stop nosying at my bloody stories, if I wanna let y'all know I'm enjoying a pina colada in the sunshine I will!

I think many of the responses you’ve gotten here make your point perfectly.

This. I just can't stand attention seekers. It's just a personal hatred of mine, but I really can't bear it.

I think you have both proved the OP's point.

Then have a WhatsApp group

Why should they have to restrict themselves? Some people want to share more widely and that's absolutely fine. Anyone who's not smart enough to stay off a platform they hate, or hide content they hate, deserves to see stuff they hate!

There's a weird, somewhat Puritan moralism about this that people should never ever share anything positive from their lives on the main social platforms of the day in case they incur the disapproval of someone who's opted to see it!

I don’t post anything, ever. And I’m firmly of the belief that those who aren’t posting are having a WAY better time in life than those who are.

I’d feel like an utter dick posting pictures of my child’s birthday presents piled up in front of the fireplace or some shit afternoon tea with ‘the girls’. I find it all so cliche now and cringeworthy. One that particularly gets my goat is posting a picture of two drinks on the table. I mean what is the point of that? ‘Oh wait Hannah Jones and Claire Smith from sixth form are out and they’ve just ordered two Pornstar Martinis! Wow! I always knew those girls would do well. I long for the day I could afford such a lavish cocktail!’

Sorry OP, I think I’m exactly the sort of person you’re talking about.

It’s encouraging to see people are finally getting cynical about over sharing on social media, hopefully this is the beginning of the end for the stupidity of it all.

One that particularly gets my goat is posting a picture of two drinks on the table. I mean what is the point of that? ‘Oh wait Hannah Jones and Claire Smith from sixth form are out and they’ve just ordered two Pornstar Martinis! Wow! I always knew those girls would do well. I long for the day I could afford such a lavish cocktail!’

Hehe! I dont get this either. I'm always far more curious about people who dont post on SM- I feel like they are secretly living exciting lives because they're too busy having actual fun to be documenting/photographing every damn thing.

I post on SM and agree with OP.

And the posters scoffing and saying what makes you so interesting.....its all optional. Being on social media at all is optional so if you're not on there you won't know Ive posted pics (I'm an old person and use fb - sometimes I just post about something amusing that happened, without pics) ...or if you are there and not interested you can scroll on past. What's the issue? I'm not demanding anyone engage with the posts

I am on FB because I have to have a business page for marketing purposes and that has to be connected to my personal account.
If it wasn't for that, I wouldnt be on there.

I certainly dont think I am "better" than anyone else lol but I admit I do find people that post every mediocre detail of their lives yawningly tedious.

Holiday photos or major events, family gatherings etc I totally get and thats nice for others to see but daily updates with photos of your cornflakes and the faux mysterious "I'm at the hospital but I dont want to talk about it" posts make my eyes roll into the back of my head. It's just sheer attention seeking and it staggers me that these people think anyone would give a toss what they ate for breakfast or what their random generic thoughts are every day. I have also noticed that they still carry on doing it even when noone likes or comments on them. Its literally tumbleweed and they still keep on 😂

I certainly dont think I am "better" than anyone else lol but I admit I do find people that post every mediocre detail of their lives yawningly tedious.

Do your friends know you think so little of them?

What an unpleasant attitude

Do your friends know you think so little of them?

They arent my "friends"- these are random aquaintances and ex colleagues from work that I know tenuously who kept trying to friend me on FB. I have muted them now so I dont have to see the tedium.

Thankfully, none of my real friends do this- hence why they are my friends 😁

Wow you sound so bitter! Why does it affect you that much seeing a picture of two friends (who clearly aren't your friends so why are you 'friends' with them on SM) out having fun? Why are you looking if it's so beneath you?

That's what I find so interesting, the sneerers who just can't help but look, what's that all about then? There's certainly no integrity or magnanimity there??

Blimey, I just can't imagine being that judgemental over a few photos 🤷‍♀️

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That's what I find so interesting, the sneerers who just can't help but look, what's that all about then?

Yes, lots of posters that obviously are on social media but somehow feel they're too good for it at the same time! Why are they wasting their time looking at it if they despise everything their "friends" who they seem to look down on post..?

I have the same question on interiors threads where people sneer at "anything from B and M or Dunelm" presumably because these shops are too cheap for superior people like them to shop in ....but how do they immediately recognise the items as B and M stuff...? I wouldn't go into a house and recognise something from Heals or Harrods....because I don't shop there! 🤷‍♀️

Baffles me why you'd have ex colleagues or whatever on your SM?

Yes, lots of posters that obviously are on social media but somehow feel they're too good for it at the same time!

Exactly 😂

And if they don't like it when people share XYZ, why are they friends with such boring/narcissistic people anyway? 🙈

I'm not on Facebook or Instagram and never have been but I see the crap that is on there as DH has an account plus the scamming adverts. I use X instead for if I want to complain to companies like BG and Tesco or find out about stuff like power cuts, I don't post socially on there either.

This is a deeply weird post. It is perfectly permissible to post things other than your child's pile of presents or a 'shit afternoon tea with the girls', and it's even odder that you assume the appropriate response to a 'two drinks on a table' post is that you're supposed to admiring the achievements of two people you were at school with...?

I think that's where we're all the same, but express it in different ways. An introvert won't post much, but will accept people they're not keen on to be polite and roll their eyes at posts. An extrovert overshares and is happy to reject people, a much more obvious 'you're not my friend'.

It's nothing like sitting through hours trapped on a sofa.

You scroll, you see an album or photos have been posted, you scroll past in seconds if you're not interested.

People who don't post on social media do feel superior to those who do. "Oh I don't do that" "I'm more private" "I live in the real world"

I dont do Instagram as I don't like it, I don't do twitter as I don't like it. I like Facebook

In the same way I don't like emerdale or coronation street, but I like eastenders

You don't need to look at people's photos or read the posts on SM, you can scroll past, so imo it's harmless. I don't like people who wish their dead relatives happy birthday but it's up to them, I just don't engage. People who are on SM but don't post anything are just nosey and like to snoop I think.

No but the person posting the stuff about themselves is the same mindset as those that used to take videos or slide shows to show relatives and friends, it's just that the unfortunate audience can ignore it more easily now

I would actually say it's the opposite 1 based on my experience anyway.

The people who are most active on my social media are, without question, the introverts - and I include myself in that.

I find socialising in real life incredibly exhausting (I'm also autistic) but posting on social media only takes a minute or two and I can reply whenever I feel up to it rather than right away.

I can also share something with everyone at the same time and they can respond as and when they want. I'm also not fussed if people don't respond because I mostly post for my benefit (memories).

The extroverts have the energy to socialise in person so have no need to share on social media unless it's something major.

No but the person posting the stuff about themselves is the same mindset as those that used to take videos or slide shows to show relatives and friends, it's just that the unfortunate audience can ignore it more easily now

How do you know what their mindset is? Have you asked them all in person?

I upload photos to Facebook as it's a great way for me to remember the good times and I can easily look back at what I was doing in previous years - all for free and in one place.

I couldn't give two shits whether people looked or interacted with any of it 🤷‍♀️