Councils will push back because they don't want to take on more Ukranians even though they have an obligation to.
This really puts hosts in a difficult position - these are people who accepted people into their homes to give aid - the idea of making someone homeless often goes against pretty much everything they value.
Councils won't give help because it suits their interests to phob you off.
You have to tell the council this is when it will end, give them a date and not budge simply because legal obligations don't kick in until the point a guest is actually made homeless. Its cold and rather heartless for all concerned.
The Guilt for hosts is a common theme as a result. And tbh, I think this puts some more vulnerable hosts at risk.
But hosts take on guests for a time limited amount and this has always been the understanding Brits have had. I don't think this is so well understood by Ukrainians. I know a lot of hosts really did go above and beyond and were left bewildered by guests who didn't try to help themselves because hosts expected guests would 'just get out with it'. It wasn't about wanting their guests to be grateful, it was about wanting guests to take responsibility for themselves. Hosts themselves, by their self selecting nature, tended to be people with a 'can do, lets get involved' attitude with many active volunteer types more broadly in life and when matched with someone who didn't have that get up and go to be involved in the community, there was a lot of frustration. It was a cultural difference - not one based on where you live but simply attitude to life more generally and one that we have in this country.
When I was talking to a lot of hosts, the comparison was like taking on extra children, but who were adults. That in itself often led to issues because in pandering to it, guests became more dependent and expected more or in trying to force the issue it led to conflict arising.
There's two families I know who have had particularly good placements and got on well with their families but in both cases despite the host making the point for months that the guests needed to save and look for their own accomodation, both resisted it strongly putting a massive stress on the relationship between guest and host. In both cases, the families stayed over a year with their hosts rather than the six months that both hosts were adament about when I spoke to them at the start. That was a good placement.
To a degree there is a cultural issue here, where if we 'gently suggest' as Brits we are telling someone they need to do something Ukrainians culturally don't pick up on the social cue. It has to be a very blunt, you MUST move out or its understood as optional. Brits feel VERY uncomfortable doing it.
So there are definitely particular issues about asking a guest to move on.
No host should feel guilty about it. Their job has been to give an opportunity, tell their guest what the terms and length of stay are and thats it. Most hosts will do a lot more than that. Ultimately a guest - regardless of whether they are traumatised or not, regardless of whether they are a 'genuine' refugee or an economic migrant or a benefit seeker is an adult and they remain responsible for themselves. Hosts are not responsible for them no matter how much they care. Infantilising refugees doesn't help with their independence. Its not in their interests long term. Hosts just don't have the capacity to care for adults in this way anyway (even with the best will in the world). Nor should they be expected to.