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Bleach and other been swallowed.

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Intheair24 · 18/04/2024 17:47

Dd on/of boyfriend. Has swallowed bleach. And clothes washing tablets and fabric conditioner. We don't know how much. We know he's gone to hospital. He done it because dd said he can't go on holiday with her because of how nasty he has been to her.

How dangerous could this be dd feels awful

OP posts:

britneyisfree · 18/04/2024 17:49

He'll probably be fine. He might not be, depends. In any case you ought to encourage your daughter to let this be the end of their relationship. It'll never stop if she takes him back. It will just get worse and worse.

TheNumberfaker · 18/04/2024 17:50

It could be fatal, but whatever happens, your DD is not to blame at all. Hospital will do what they can for him.

JustKeepSwimmingJust · 18/04/2024 17:50

It’s very dangerous for her to stay in a relationship with someone who acts like this after minor rejection. don’t let that get lost while he is in hospital.

tinkerbellesslagoon · 18/04/2024 17:50

Poor DD. Hope she’s okay.

LakeTiticaca · 18/04/2024 17:51

Is he definitely in hospital or is he gaslighting your DD? Which ever is true she need to end it with him. He's obviously got issues

SockQueen · 18/04/2024 17:51

It can be very dangerous, unfortunately. It may also be that he gets treatment and is fine.

Whatever happens, your DD needs your support and to know this is NOT her fault, and she needs help to get out of that relationship.

gkdf · 18/04/2024 17:51

She needs to cut contact with him, this is not good at all. She shouldn't feel bad at all, he did this to himself not her.

Geebray · 18/04/2024 17:52

He's a manipulative abuser, OP. Please keep your DD strong, I'm sure you will, and don't let her feel bad.

MermaidEyes · 18/04/2024 17:52

JustKeepSwimmingJust · 18/04/2024 17:50

It’s very dangerous for her to stay in a relationship with someone who acts like this after minor rejection. don’t let that get lost while he is in hospital.

This with bells on.
Jesus Christ.

Singleandproud · 18/04/2024 17:53

Could be very bad, could be fine either way his poor, manipulative actions are not your DDs responsibility.

Can you be with DD? Help her move back home if she lives with him and he is incapacitated right now if appropriate and support her to leave him. If she feels bad and takes him back then his plan worked and this will be the start of potentially a very bad and long relationship as she won't want to end it with him again in case he does worse.

HappyEater · 18/04/2024 17:53

Don’t worry about him, get your DD to cut contact with him immediately.

There’s no dealing with people like this.

itsmylife7 · 18/04/2024 17:54

Possibly not the first time he's done this little "trick " Do whatever it takes to get your daughter away from him.

BaconCozzers · 18/04/2024 17:54

How do you know he's in hospital? Just his word..?

I hope he lives op, other posters will advise on the likelihood. But more importantly, this needs to be the end of dd's dealings with him, he sounds entirely unhinged. How old is she? Poor girly, look after her ❤️

TraitorsGate · 18/04/2024 17:55

How do you know what he took and that he is in hospital, hope your dd is okay and gets the support to leave him.

IncompleteSenten · 18/04/2024 17:55

Hmm. He's swallowed this stuff or he's said he has in an attempt to control, manipulate and guilt trip her?

If he has then he is likely to be very ill. He is also not someone she should be in a relationship with because he needs professional help and she is not in any way equipped to support him.

If he lied then he is dangerously manipulative and a walking red flag in which case he is not someone she should be in a relationship with.

There's no possibility here which leads to any conclusion other than walk away from him

TokyoSushi · 18/04/2024 17:56

He'll most likely be ok but she should really have nothing whatsoever to do with him.

GameOfJones · 18/04/2024 17:58

Your poor DD. If he really has done this, it is not in any way her fault and she needs to walk away from this relationship. It will never improve.

If he hasn't done it, that's almost more of a red flag and she needs to walk away from this relationship, it will never improve.

Either way, he is manipulating and abusing her and needs to be the end of it.

Runnerduck34 · 18/04/2024 17:59

He needs to go to hospital to be checked out. Can his parents take him?
It's a sad situation but not one your DD can fix. He needs love and support from his family.
I would be encouraging your DD to end the relationship , its draining being in a relationship like that and she's still so young.

LostittoBostik · 18/04/2024 18:01

Above all, remind your DD she is not responsible for anybody's behaviour but her own. This is NOT her fault. He's either done it because he's extremely unwell and needs urgent support or because he's a manipulative abuser. Possibly both. She needs to distance herself from him immediately.

LostittoBostik · 18/04/2024 18:02

LakeTiticaca · 18/04/2024 17:51

Is he definitely in hospital or is he gaslighting your DD? Which ever is true she need to end it with him. He's obviously got issues

This is a very good question. If she's in contact with his parents she should call them immediately and inform them.

WithoutACherryOnTheTop · 18/04/2024 18:03

@Intheair24
He done it because dd said he can't go on holiday with her because of how nasty he has been to her.

This is a form of coercive control. 'You haven't behaved in the way I wanted you to behave so see what you have forced me to do. You'd better knuckle down and behave or else.' and also completely ignores (negates in their mind) 'how nasty he has been to her'.

How dangerous could this be dd feels awful

Which is precisely how he wants her to feel. This could be very dangerous indeed for her and I hope you can support her to escape from him now as it will get worse. She will find more and more aspects of her life and behaviour controlled by him and it is pretty common for their self harm to turn into harm towards their partner if that proves a more effective control mechanism.

Runnerduck34 · 18/04/2024 18:03

Did the classic of replying to quickly! - sounds manipulative- DD needs to walk away.
He still needs to get help but is not your DDs responsibility.

WouldYouLikeMeToSpellThatForYou · 18/04/2024 18:04

JustKeepSwimmingJust · 18/04/2024 17:50

It’s very dangerous for her to stay in a relationship with someone who acts like this after minor rejection. don’t let that get lost while he is in hospital.

^
Teenage relationship abuse
Domestic abuse
Plain emotional abuse
She needs rid of him. She isn't to blame for his actions

FloofCloud · 18/04/2024 18:04

Bleach is a pretty bad chemical to choose to swallow - no idea what it'll do though - I'm surprised he's not thrown it straight up!

OP you should do everything you can to get her to walk away from this toxic relationship - he's dangerously manipulative

WeeOrcadian · 18/04/2024 18:05

He is responsible for his own actions, nobody else, especially not DD

Do we think he could be saying that's he's swallowed these things?

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