Bleach and other been swallowed.

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Dd on/of boyfriend. Has swallowed bleach. And clothes washing tablets and fabric conditioner. We don't know how much. We know he's gone to hospital. He done it because dd said he can't go on holiday with her because of how nasty he has been to her.

How dangerous could this be dd feels awful

How dangerous could this be

Really fucking life threatening dangerous.
For your daughter.
If she remains beholden to this type of behaviour and it escalates.

I'm so angry now... I have just sat here trying to explain. That yes her son is an arsehole . But she has told dd that as well. She has advised her to end the relationship etc etc . Then she says he could really do with a kobd message ... now I take back the things i sa8d regarding her. She can f#*ck off .

It doesn't say that he has done this. It says due to them having an argument about a holiday he has swallowed this. Also says he is autistic. Could well be that he's had an extreme meltdown as a result of the argument and has hurt himself.

All the comments calling him a low life are uncalled for. Without knowing far far more about the situation we do not know if this was a conscious act of manipulation or an autistic meltdown where he's got so overwhelmed that hes hurt himself and landed himself in hospital.

Does this mean this is a healthy relationship with the DD? No absolutely not. The relationship needs to end but there's a lot of posters here ignoring the autism and assuming manipulative abuser when this very well could be extreme emotional disregulation

Call the hospital and find put the truth.

If he's in tell the ward sister what he daid to DD.

If he's not then call the police. Actually, call them anyway. If DD is at school have a word with them. He's a controlling bastard and will use and abuse her for his own fun.

Both things can be true. His autism may have resulted in him having a meltdown/becoming dysregulated in response to rejection. But even if it was unintentional, the resulting behaviour is emotionally abusive towards your daughter.

He may or may not be a bad person. He definitely is an ill person.

Of course I'm making it clear to dd that it's not her fault and this is a form of Dv. But she's still going to feel bad for him. That does not mean it's her fault. Also because he's a prick it does not mean she can't hope he's OK.

I just wanted to give a slightly more optimistic message. I once accidently drank bleach due to a horrific mix up in a pub. It was awful, but I made a full recovery and do not have any long term issues.

Obviously this is a horrific situation for you all, particularly due to the coercive nature of how this happened. I can't imagine what your daughter is going through. Sending a handhold to you all.

This kind of what I was trying to say but I was getting bogged down and it was hard to explain. I think dd does not want him to feel how he does. Definitely does not want him to hurt himself. But she also needs to (fully) understand the relationship can't work. And she and her kids need to safe emotionally and mentally etc.

I doubt hospital will speak to op.

Please keep her away from this unhinged manipulative giant baby if he survives. She should want SO much more in life than this.

He sounds unhinged and dd should break it off. I would be worried about her. He needs to stay away, manipulative twat.

I know a young fella that did similar. Made a suicide attempt to get back at his girlfriend for going on a girls holiday with her friends. He told her he would do it and she called his bluff. He didn't die right away, but he did a few months later from complications as a result of the method he tried. Absolutely selfish, controlling behaviour. These are also the assholes who kill their own children to get back at their exes. If your daughter has any sense, she needs to put her child/children first and protect them from growing up with people like that in their lives.

Your DD and Grandchildren need safeguarding.

DD needs to walk away I'm afraid and let her ex- boyfriend's mum and professionals support him. She needs to stop communicating with him and do the freedom programme. (Google it). Women's aid will believe her if she needs to talk.

This is reminding me of my sister's relationship with an abusive man. When she started seeing the light about his abuse, he realised she was pulling away from him he started making the suicide threats, and he overdosed on something and got hauled into hospital. He ended up absolutely fine with no after-effects. DSis never got completely to the bottom of it all, but it became pretty clear that he had taken nowhere near a fatal overdose and probably didn't need to go into hospital and the whole thing was clearly directed at making DSis feel bad.

His tactic worked for a short time but, happily, DSis finally managed to leave him. For a time it was pretty nasty with him using a friend to stalk DD and sending threats to her, including threats to harm anyone who with her, and she had to go to the police. I think they issued him with a strong warning and that finally made him stop.

For all his moans to DSis about how he wouldn't be able to live without her, he never repeated the so-called suicide attempt. Unfortunately he's probably doing all this again to someone else, but DSis is so much happier now, it's such a relief.

Honestly agree with everyone else, it’s totally not her fault but agree she needs to leave. An ex of mine took whole packet of paracetamol when it was my first day of a new job when before I was a student with lots of free time. Took me a while to leave after that but wish I left sooner as it only got worse.

This.

Did DD witness him doing it? It’s very unlikely he’s managed to drink enough (if any) to have done much damage, it tastes absolutely vile and most people vomit before managing to ingest significant amounts.

Regardless of the outcome your DD needs to get out of this relationship. He’s manipulating her but doing this, he is absolutely not long term relationship material.

Guilt trips and manipulation as a poster has said before. I hope he is OK really as he still sounds young but not good traits to have. Hope your dd gets out of there quickly though she's probably been damaged already tbh.

He doesn’t sound like a positive influence at all and if she was mine I would be doing everything to try to distance her from him. A complete overreaction on his part and so dangerous.

Oh for the love of all that is holy! I've had some nasty autistic meltdowns in my time where I've hurt myself (hitting myself and biting my hands), I used to self harm (cutting) because I suffered depression. I've never drank bleach. Even with the cutting I avoided my wrists because I didn't want to accidentally end up in hospital (or dead). Drinking toxic substances is an idiot move and in this dude's case sounds very much like manipulation. It's not losing control because of feeling overwhelmed. It's a premeditated thing of going to the cupboard or wherever these things are kept, opening a bottle (bleach often has safety caps as well) and taking a drink of something that is going to hurt when you swallow it. Bleach will burn your skin, I can't imagine how much it hurts if you drink it. Depending on the laundry detergent that can cause various types of really nasty damage to your throat as well. The 'safest' thing was the fabric softener.

Your daughter needs to stay away from him.

Your DD should not feel an ounce of guilt. Suicide ploys like this (that are 100% not intended to be fatal) are a disgusting form of abuse and manipulation. She should leave him permanently for these games.

Also, nobody should ever feel responsible for anybody else's completed suicide, for that matter.

It could be very serious but at least he is in hospital. Your DD should not feel guilty at all though and as soon as she finds out how he is should then cut contact, no good can come from this relationship

Tell your daughter that her BF is a coercive piece of excrement. If he's harmed himself, it's his own fault - he's trying to manipulate her.

Haven’t RTFT but absolutely this. It will only get worse from here if she stays. This is a form of control and manipulation she must leave him.

I assumed from your post they are young?

Shouldn’t be like this, should be fun and going out and enjoying each other and life, together and separately, while they don’t have the grind of kids and mortgages etc tying them down (apologies if they do have this and I’ve assumed, also no offence meant for people with kids and mortgages who also can and do have fun interspersed with the responsibilities, just highlighting the OP’s daughter shouldn’t set herself up for a life of this misery)