People using the wrong words for things - does it drive anyone else up the wall?

[LanisHouseLot]

I was recently staying with relatives and one kept offering and making Welsh rarebit. Lovely! Except that it was just cheese on toast. I like cheese on toast too but it is definitely not Welsh rarebit. I had to bite my tongue from saying anything because despite feeling enraged i have no desire to make anyone feel stupid or corrected. But it was bubbling up inside nonetheless!

Today I saw a 'High Tea' event advertised. Little sandwiches and cakes, cups and saucers etc - clearly afternoon tea rather than high tea. Why does it bug me so much that I'm still thinking about it and wanting to tell the organiser, and all the women looking forward to their high tea, that they've made a terrible mistake and that high tea isn't what they think it is?! Does anyone else find it unbearable?

I am similar about apostrophe misuse and spelling mistakes (despite not seeing my own mistakes half the time ). These errors are even more infuriating because it is entirely the wrong thing being described.

I’ve just seen on another thread a poster write ‘pouring over’ rather ‘than ‘poring’ 😩

I'm keen on correct grammar but more in myself than anyone else.
Wrong words for things don't bother me much, except for two examples-

1. People saying rob/robbed instead of steal/stole/stolen.
2. I stayed with a friend overnight and she showed me to my "suite" and kept mentioning my suite to me. Is your suite OK? Is your suite warm enough? It was just a normal room, not a suite. It was getting on my bloody nerves!

One adult female human is not a women.

I think most of the time when people say they hate it when someone make mistakes like this, it’s obvious that they actually love it. Why not just say straight out “I love it when other people make a mistake. It me feel superior and it gives me such pleasure to sneer at them”.

Speak for yourself, @mynewhouse . I find it sad that the mistakes occur so frequently.

@LorettyTen I'm a bit confused now about rob/ steal verbs. Can you explain? I would think the difference is the preposition? I robbed him, he was robbed by me... but I stole from him, his item was stolen by me. Am I wrong?

@Dontlletmedownbruce , I thought @LorettyTen meant something like:

"I robbed a carrot from the supermarket.", which should be "I stole a carrot from the supermarket."

The carrot was stolen, but the supermarket was robbed.

@PedantScorner Ah yes I get you! I suspect i may have gotten that one wrong occasionally.

A similar one that annoys me is itch and scratch. 'Don't itch that spot or it will hurt'.

@PedantScorner yes that's what I meant. People say "I think someone robbed my purse" or "He robbed that pen" when they should use stole.

@Dontlletmedownbruce people use rob instead of steal.
For example, "don't rob that pen". It should be "don't steal that pen".

@mynewhouse , I find greengrocer's apostrophes charming, and something like 'Cherry's only £1 a bag' or 'Spinige' would probably compel me to buy some.

Does that make me a bad pedant?

Isn't robbery theft with violence?

Yes, legally.

Oh that I'm sick of seeing.

@Words Often people write que for queue rather than cue. They've been standing in the que

Que the use of que.
Que?

Here, here to express agreement!