People using the wrong words for things - does it drive anyone else up the wall?

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I was recently staying with relatives and one kept offering and making Welsh rarebit. Lovely! Except that it was just cheese on toast. I like cheese on toast too but it is definitely not Welsh rarebit. I had to bite my tongue from saying anything because despite feeling enraged i have no desire to make anyone feel stupid or corrected. But it was bubbling up inside nonetheless!

Today I saw a 'High Tea' event advertised. Little sandwiches and cakes, cups and saucers etc - clearly afternoon tea rather than high tea. Why does it bug me so much that I'm still thinking about it and wanting to tell the organiser, and all the women looking forward to their high tea, that they've made a terrible mistake and that high tea isn't what they think it is?! Does anyone else find it unbearable?

I am similar about apostrophe misuse and spelling mistakes (despite not seeing my own mistakes half the time ). These errors are even more infuriating because it is entirely the wrong thing being described.

@QueenOfTheEntireFuckingUniverse , you omitted the extra-virgin olive oil? Good grief! (It's bruschetta not bruscetta BTW)

‘Disinterested’ rather than uninterested.

Doesn't need oil! Thanks for the spelling lesson. Despite knowing what it is, I don't write it very often!

I was brought up thinking " high tea " was tea, sandwiches and cake plus extras. Maybe something on toast etc It would be substantial enough to be considered a bit of a meal. .

It would never have been an actual cooked meal as referred to here.

Ooo, see, my grandparents and mother were all Welsh and there were no eggs in our Welsh rarebit. I sense a whole other thread coming

I have a similar irritant!

Influencers on instagram videos "Hi guys, UMMMM and then I UMMMM, UMMM SO"

I wish people would practice saying nothing at all rather than this filler word.

I give you 'mac 'n' cheese'

I'll leave it there.

@splatmouse , an acronym is an abbreviation that you say as a word. USA isn't an acronym because it is usually said as 'U. S. A.', not 'usa'.

Radar, Nato, Scuba are abbreviations of "Radio Detection and Ranging", "North Atlantic Treaty Organization" and "Self Contained Underwater Breathing Apparatus" and are acronyms.

Why? Why are you right? Your version is incorrect to me, and plenty of other people on this thread.

High tea is cakes and sandwiches, salad, and maybe sausage rolls or pork pie. It’s a mainly cold meal.

I did not know what Welsh rarebit was, and I did not know the difference betwwen Afternoon Tea and High Tea.
Now I do! Thank you, OP.

Diversity doesn't mean making up your own definitions of words, although I wonder if you are actually very cleverly making the point by using that word incorrectly

If so, well played

You're right @QueenOfTheEntireFuckingUniverse , toast doesn't need oil. I was joking pretending to be your 'friend'.
It wasn't meant to be a spelling lesson. I only pointed it out because it affects the pronunciation.

Im not responsible for the difference in definition of high tea and afternoon tea I just know what it is

You could take it up with the dictionary I guess

No, I really wasn’t.

I constantly hear people saying “generally” when they mean “genuinely” and it gives me the rage!

For example “I’m generally upset”.

There isn't any egg in a Welsh rarebit. You can put a poached egg on top to make a buck rarebit.

*Diversity doesn't mean making up your own definitions of words, although I wonder if you are actually very cleverly making the point by using that word incorrectly

If so, well played*

Tbh it's not that deep.

It's what I know and what I have been brought up knowing.

There is a diversity of meaning and tradition around many things particularly food.

Hence the jam and cream debate of which goes first.

Friends in Bristol refer to speed bumps as sleeping policeman. Never heard them called that before! Was a tad confused when a friend called them that.

I see there is some discussion as to whether Welsh rarebit should contain eggs or not. I didn’t know there was the possibility of eggs in it.

Toasted sliced bread, Hovis or otherwise, with cooked tomatoes on top, would have been tomatoes on toast in my childhood.

Im not responsible for the difference in definition of high tea and afternoon tea I just know what it i

Good on you.

It might change over time. And it probably already has from the original definition. But stick with it.

@splatmouse , whatever Ofsted is, it isn’t Ofstead, which was the point.

A lot of MNers ARE generally upset.

@TigerRag , that's what we used to call them and I'm not from Bristol.

That’s not localised, my parents called them that in Scotland in the 1980s.

I'm from Birmingham and we call speed bumps sleeping policemen.