DH ate all of DS Easter treats (semi-lighthearted)

[Mamma737363]

Ate his whole haul. From DS Easter egg hunt. While he was asleep.

He has form for this. A few years ago I posted that DH hadn't bothered to get a cake for my milestone birthday but he was happy to eat the rest of the chocolate cake (half a cake) my friends surprised me with, in one go while I was at work.

For context, DH is very sporty and always hungry. He also does all the baking at home. And he has bought Easter eggs for DS already for a home egg hunt.

DS noticed the treats were missing as soon as he got up and immediately identified that daddy ate it. Luckily he's not upset.

I'm still pretty mad though!

I feel like everyone is slightly overreacting!

So just parents then?

You says that as if it's abnormal to make your child your whole world and make adjustments

For reasons I'm not going to go into, we have to make more adjustments than the average parent. It's not really normal, but it is what it is.

It isn't light hearted at all
He's a selfish, greedy nasty pig and a rubbish dad.
Eating his sons Easter treats from a school Easter egg hunt, while he's asleep? What a loser

So your son is SEN? Are you serious?

Thanks. That's a good point. We share chocolate for Easter and Christmas. We usually ask him first and he is usually happy to share.

Me too. I took on board the suggestions at the start of this thread and I talked it out with DH...who agrees he was wrong and says he won't do it again! Not sure what else everyone is expecting us to do.

Sharing doesn't mean taking things from your child because you are a greedy, disrespectful pig.

Is it ok to make a mistake and apologise for it? I think that's a good lesson for DS too.

Again, not just about how he treats your son. But you too. Because you deserve better and your son needs to see a man model good family behaviour.

What did he do after birthday-cake-gate OP?

Apologise and say he wouldn't do it again?

We're not perfect, but we do admit to our mistakes, apologise and forgive each other. And try to do better. 🤷‍♀️

OP you say you have ''moved on'' from DH eating all child's Easter eggs.
But who does that?
What grown man eats ALL his child's Easter eggs?
Your child may not in fact ''move on'' from this event - unless he himself is about 35 years old perhaps ( you don't say how old he is).
He will always remember it.

OP - you need to talk to DH again - he needs to answer a question, why did he eat those chocolates? As in, if he wanted chocolate, why not binge on the chocolate rabbit that belonged to him, or the chocolates that your ds didn’t know about (so could be replaced before ds even missed them).

Why, when there was several items of chocolate available to him, did he chose the cruel option?

if he says he doesn’t know- don’t accept that as an answer, tell him he has to think carefully about it and work out what the truth is.

I wouldn’t Allow an apology he had to be forced by you to make and a replacement of the treats would cut it.

He made me a new birthday cake and we celebrated the following weekend. It was 5 years ago so I can laugh about it a bit now. There's been nothing in between that was so thoughtless, which is why my mind went to it.

Ok, what is your constructive suggestion here? Keep punishing DH? Teach DS that we must never move on from this moment?

OP, I get that you feel a bit prickled by this but honestly, what did you expect? You posted about a husband who has zero respect for other people's food - ate your birthday cake that couldn't be replaced because, birthday cake from your friends - and you said that he has form for it.

You say that he 'hoovers up leftovers' also. Look at the words that you're actually using. Your husband takes food from other people. Maybe they wanted another bite of it, maybe they didn't, but either way, he is the one who is going to take it.

And today, your son's eggs. You've defended, deflected and asked what else do we expect? It doesn't matter what we random posters expect, it matters what you as a parent expects from the other parent. He has form - and seemingly, until today or last night, you've had a 'lightbulb moment.

It doesn't matter to me what you do, it's your son. It matters to him. So if all the 'he won't do it again' is absolute then great. If it's not then it should matter to you.

He explained - they were lying out on the table after we went to bed. He thought DS was done with it, didn't want to leave it out overnight (because we used to live in a hot climate and used to get a lot of bugs) and he'd come home from a sporting event so he was hungry. I don't think there was much psychology to it - he tends to hoover up leftovers so they aren't wasted.

Teach your DS that he deserves better than a parent who is selfish and thoughtless and who has no respect for his stuff.

He's done this before with your food, got a bollocking and still thought it was acceptable to do it to his child.

Doesn't matter. Your son was going to have that stash plus what he got from the school Easter egg hunt. Your husband has stolen the latter, he needs to replace them.

You shouldn't ever have to explain to a grown man why hurtful behaviour is hurtful.
He knows it's hurtful. He did it anyway.
Let alone having to ask him like you would a 5 year old to make up for his mistakes! Ridiculous!

You say 'he's just selfish'.
That's a pretty big 'just'.
Why are you with a selfish man?
There's very little that would balance the scales if a partner is selfish. Let alone, make him a good partner.

I hate people like this. They exercise so they believe they have the right to anything. He's not called Terry is he? I had a complete cunt of a flat mate who would only buy sawdust cereal for his daily bowl, because he was tight and obsessed with health, but would happily dip into my luxury granola and leave me with virtually nothing on the one or two days a week I'd want to enjoy my decadent cereal. He always seemed to think he had the right because he worked out so much compared to me.

And yet five years after he ate your cake you're still annoyed. Why wouldn't your son have the same feeling? You have no idea how your son is feeling, he can't verbalise it to you both.

He cannot seriously have thought that your DS was "done" with Easter eggs two days before Easter. The explanation simply makes no sense.

If he's hungry after sports it's up to him to make sure he gets something for himself to eat. It's disgraceful just to help himself to other people's treats.

This. I'm sure this is part of my issue with overeating.