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DH ate all of DS Easter treats (semi-lighthearted)

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 08:51

Ate his whole haul. From DS Easter egg hunt. While he was asleep.

He has form for this. A few years ago I posted that DH hadn't bothered to get a cake for my milestone birthday but he was happy to eat the rest of the chocolate cake (half a cake) my friends surprised me with, in one go while I was at work.

For context, DH is very sporty and always hungry. He also does all the baking at home. And he has bought Easter eggs for DS already for a home egg hunt.

DS noticed the treats were missing as soon as he got up and immediately identified that daddy ate it. Luckily he's not upset.

I'm still pretty mad though!

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 17:28

gamerchick · 29/03/2024 17:25

You've repeatedly said this, it reminds me of a lass I knew once. She said as long as her bloke owned up and apologised for cheating on her, she forgave him for it. Repeatedly.

Hope you've got through to him. Sounds like a lock box or a hidey hole might be handy if he has poor impulse control.

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Yuck, no absolutely no to cheating. I have boundaries. I call DH out when I think he's wrong, and vice versa.

I just feel like in this case I'm not going to keep hounding him for 2 incidents in 5 years.

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 18:12

housethatbuiltme · 29/03/2024 17:11

The 'advice' is to not put up with this, you are accepting, joking and normalizing it which isn't acceptable... it actually DOES requires an ultimatum to him because he has done this several time and will not change on his own.

You are not advocating for him, you are accepting of what happened to him and making excuses and minimizing it.

Just because you don't 'like' the advice given doesn't make it incorrect. There no other advice because time machines don't exist and even stopping it wouldn't have fixed the main issue.

Your burying your head in the sand and refusing to do anything.

Your can smash a plate then glue it together the next day but that does not make it fixed. Just a making random chocolate eggs isn't a fix for this. Especially not when it could happen again and again because you are REFUSING to deal with the person who is the issue in doing these things.

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I have no problem advocating for DS - because of his high needs I have to do it every day. I don't always agree with DH's parenting, and I will tell him so, and vice versa.

I've already said, twice, it's unacceptable and I was angry with him. What ultimatum would you like me to throw down next?

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 18:19

I feel like the whole issue is resolved now. Talking about it for third time and issuing ultimatums is so unnecessary, especially when DS doesn't seem to care!

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 18:23

Ok, leaving and hiding the thread now. Have a lovely Easter everyone!

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gamerchick · 29/03/2024 21:51

Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 17:28

Yuck, no absolutely no to cheating. I have boundaries. I call DH out when I think he's wrong, and vice versa.

I just feel like in this case I'm not going to keep hounding him for 2 incidents in 5 years.

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It's not the same, it just reminded me.

My point is, this bloke could not resist his impulse. He regretted it, he hated it and all that, but he knew deep down that he just had to face it head on. Take the earache, confess, make it up to her and she would forgive him. She did that for 22 years.

It's clear that your bairn is precious to both of you and either he feels safe enough to let this shit go as unimportant or he's so used to it he doesn't have a choice and rolls with it. Only you know if this is a frequent thing or not.

I would, in your shoes predict the future when this sort of thing happens again and say you look forward to his 'making it up' because he can't help himself obviously.

ClairDeLaLune · 29/03/2024 23:16

That’s theft. It’s taking what doesn’t belong to him. It’s teaching your DS that his feelings don’t matter, and it’s also teaching him to do the same. Your so-called “D”H is a cunt.

LuckySantangelo35 · 30/03/2024 10:09

Crunchymum · 29/03/2024 17:17

11 pages and no-one has mentioned the excess of chocolate for a child ???

School egg hunt, home egg hunt, egg hunt at grandparents, DH making his own Easter eggs??

I am being semi light hearted (and can assure you I'm a fat bastard) but it's a lot for a child isn't it? Doesn't give your DH an excuse to snaffle what isn't his of course but doesn't sound like your DC is going to go without.

** birthday cake situation was inexcusable though. Eating a special cake is very different from eating treats you can easily replace and / or already have spares of in the house.

It is a ridiculous excess you’re right

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