DH ate all of DS Easter treats (semi-lighthearted)

[Mamma737363]

Ate his whole haul. From DS Easter egg hunt. While he was asleep.

He has form for this. A few years ago I posted that DH hadn't bothered to get a cake for my milestone birthday but he was happy to eat the rest of the chocolate cake (half a cake) my friends surprised me with, in one go while I was at work.

For context, DH is very sporty and always hungry. He also does all the baking at home. And he has bought Easter eggs for DS already for a home egg hunt.

DS noticed the treats were missing as soon as he got up and immediately identified that daddy ate it. Luckily he's not upset.

I'm still pretty mad though!

What a pig.

Yes good point, I'll tell DH he needs to explain and apologise.

He needs to apologise to both of you, replace what he ate and promise to never do something like this again.

It makes me sad that your DS isn't sad because it implies he's used to his dad behaving like this.

I could tell DH to go and buy some more but we already have a stash of eggs for two Easter egg hunts (one at home and one at his grandparents).

Presumably your son doesn’t know that though, all he knows just now is that his dad ate all his treats.

You get him to replace it before your son wakes up, however much if a nuisance it might be to go and do that overnight.
He's clearly learnt nothing from doing this previously, because each time he gets away with it.

You should absolutely tell him to go and replace them.

Your DS was due to have the haul from 3 fun hunts. He shouldn’t be missing his school ones just because your DH has been selfish and greedy.

Its also an example to your DS that if you steal someone else’s stuff - and that’s what his dad has done - you absolutely will be expected to replace it!

You don’t need to do a hunt for these ones. In fact it’s probably more important not too. It’s the act of replacing what was taken. So put them wherever the other ones were that were taken.

This is lighthearted exactly how??

That's a good idea.

What will happen to your sons first wages, will his dad see the cash lying around and just take it ?

it is the same thing isn’t it.

and I agree the other PP have it right that your son has learned not to be upset with his thieving dad, your son doesn’t think he is important enough to keep things he has earned for himself

would your husband take the bosses eggs ? Thought not

"I could tell DH to go and buy some more but we already have a stash of eggs for two Easter egg hunts (one at home and one at his grandparents)."

So why did he not eat any of these (that presumably your DS doesn't know about) rather than the ones your DS had already "won" at school?
He could have eaten these and then replaced them, all without your DS knowing, yet he chose to eat "his whole haul".

None of it is OK OP.
Your DS has more self control (and dignity) than his father.

Your DH is stealing your child’s treats. Unless your child agreed to share them with him then he should replace them despite if he has more eggs elsewhere and at your house.

For the record I've made DH feel sufficiently bad about taking the treats and he's apologised to DS, who said 'ok'. I'll see if we can replace the plate of treats now.

If he just wanted some choc why didn’t he eat the work rabbit instead of his son’s hard earned egg hunt eggs? That’s proper fucked up tbh. And eating the birthday cake your friends got you. He might as well just piss on you and your treats to mark his territory.

You can't replace eggs that a child found in a school hunt. That's his haul! It's (usually) important when they are young.

Our teenagers found the one (small cream egg) at his sports class this week. Even still it was the story of, really you found the only one where was it, that started conversations, just like you might have said to your son, so which one did you find first, which egg was hidden best, etc. All those conversations are taken away if "dad" just eats them.

Your son doesn't get the pride of sharing them with you guys, when does the get to bring in sweet loot, not very often. Your 'D'H has taken away so much more than a few chocolate eggs.

Egg hunts at home/grandparents are not the same, they know they will get them all.

Your DH is an adult he could have just gone out and got some chocolate if he needed.

I would hit the roof and make him feel so very very guilty because he is.

I don’t really wish to open the usual MN can of worms, but is he like this with stuff other than food too?

There's probably a long complicated answer...
but the short simple one is that your DH is a cunt.

If your DH had a chocolate rabbit from work why didn’t he eat that rather than his sons @Mamma737363 ?

send him out to replace exactly what was taken, the more inconvenient for him the better.

that behaviour would give me the ‘ick’

@Mamma737363 Please don't minimise this.

I agree, he had lots of chocolate in his possession that his son didn’t know about, but still chose to eat his son’s chocolate that he did know about.

I think in addition to the apology, DH should give DS the money for the treats, then take him to buy whatever he wants - maybe he’ll want to replace the treats, maybe he’ll want something else.
And perhaps DS needs to be bought his own special box for his own chocolate, that nobody else is allowed to open, so he can feel his belongings are safe.

A selfish, ignorant cunt.
What an awful father figure he is to your son.

DH is now remaking the arrangement of DS' treats now with Easter eggs I had stashed away.

So no effort at all and DS still loses out overall? Stop making it so easy for him to be selfish

If your DH had a chocolate rabbit from work why didn’t he eat that rather than his sons

This is a really good question.

If he had that, plus there was the stash in for the other two hunts, why did he choose instead to eat his child’s school hunt treats?

Another failing to see what's lighthearted here?

If you had other treats stashed in the house that DS didn't yet know about then why didn't your Husband (he doesn't deserve 'Dear') eat and replace those if he fancied a greedy binge?

Choosing your Son's haul from school instead and eating all of it is the very deliberate act of a nasty bully.

Your poor DS, so desensitised to it that he says he's not bothered.