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DH ate all of DS Easter treats (semi-lighthearted)

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 08:51

Ate his whole haul. From DS Easter egg hunt. While he was asleep.

He has form for this. A few years ago I posted that DH hadn't bothered to get a cake for my milestone birthday but he was happy to eat the rest of the chocolate cake (half a cake) my friends surprised me with, in one go while I was at work.

For context, DH is very sporty and always hungry. He also does all the baking at home. And he has bought Easter eggs for DS already for a home egg hunt.

DS noticed the treats were missing as soon as he got up and immediately identified that daddy ate it. Luckily he's not upset.

I'm still pretty mad though!

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Tel12 · 29/03/2024 08:53

You need to send him out for more. That's really greedy.

fieldsofbutterflies · 29/03/2024 08:54

That's horrendous.

Your DH is a greedy bully.

BoudiccaOfSuburbia · 29/03/2024 08:59

That’s not OK

Poor DS.

”Luckily he’s not upset” ? Why isn’t he upset? How was it a treat if it gets taken off him without his permission? And Ds not being upset doesn’t make it an ok thing to do to your child.

Sad.

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SBHon · 29/03/2024 09:00

Essentially someone has something they were given as a gift, they’re excited about that thing, he then takes that thing from them.

How is this in any way lighthearted?

TheHeadOfTheHouse · 29/03/2024 09:01

The problem with this is that your teaching your ds that if he leaves anything then it gets taken.

This will then teach him to eat everything he has, because if he doesn’t he can’t come back to it another time.

if a child learns that if he has something and someone else is going to take it if it’s left, then they will eat it before someone else gets to it. This then leads to over eating, not being able to leave food for another day etc.

it sounds dramatic, but it does happen more than you think.

it will also teach your DS that you can take what isn’t yours. How can you teach your child to not touch things that aren’t theirs if their parent takes things of theirs?

Quartz2208 · 29/03/2024 09:02

If overnight your DH has eaten all of his Easter eggs treats that is a sign of an eating disorder or complete selfishness

does he often binge eat

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 09:02

TheHeadOfTheHouse · 29/03/2024 09:01

The problem with this is that your teaching your ds that if he leaves anything then it gets taken.

This will then teach him to eat everything he has, because if he doesn’t he can’t come back to it another time.

if a child learns that if he has something and someone else is going to take it if it’s left, then they will eat it before someone else gets to it. This then leads to over eating, not being able to leave food for another day etc.

it sounds dramatic, but it does happen more than you think.

it will also teach your DS that you can take what isn’t yours. How can you teach your child to not touch things that aren’t theirs if their parent takes things of theirs?

Good point. I'll tell DH this.

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 09:03

Quartz2208 · 29/03/2024 09:02

If overnight your DH has eaten all of his Easter eggs treats that is a sign of an eating disorder or complete selfishness

does he often binge eat

No, he has a sweet tooth but eats pretty healthily. It's selfishness.

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FairFuming · 29/03/2024 09:03

How do you respond when he does this? My ex did it once (he was a selfish arse at the best of times) and I hit the roof, made him drive a 30 mile round trip at 1am to the nearest 24 hour super market to replace them and he didn't do it again.

yikesanotherbooboo · 29/03/2024 09:04

It's very disrespectful of DS's feelings and a terrible example.

isthewashingdryyet · 29/03/2024 09:04

It’s not lighted hearted at all,

you husband will take things that aren’t his

he will steal from your child

he binge eats

he would be a nightmare to share with, you are teaching your child to be the one who takes everyone else’s food ina student house,

it is not funny at all

colouredball · 29/03/2024 09:05

DS noticed the treats were missing as soon as he got up and immediately identified that daddy ate it. Luckily he's not upset.

I don't believe he is not upset. I believe he isn't communicating that because he has already learned that what Daddy says/does is universally accepted.

NcSpookyPG · 29/03/2024 09:05

Missing the point but whys he already got his Easter treats?

Tootytoot78 · 29/03/2024 09:06

How thoughtless.

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 09:06

FairFuming · 29/03/2024 09:03

How do you respond when he does this? My ex did it once (he was a selfish arse at the best of times) and I hit the roof, made him drive a 30 mile round trip at 1am to the nearest 24 hour super market to replace them and he didn't do it again.

Last time I told him how hurt I was. He responded by making me a chocolate cake.

I told DH he had to make it to him. This morning he gave DS a chocolate rabbit from work that he'd saved for him, so he's made up for it a tiny bit.

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Arrestedmanevolence · 29/03/2024 09:07

What a cunt.

caffelattetogo · 29/03/2024 09:08

He hasn't made it up at all. You are allowing this to happen.

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 09:08

NcSpookyPG · 29/03/2024 09:05

Missing the point but whys he already got his Easter treats?

School Easter egg hunt was on last day of school.

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Snugglemonkey · 29/03/2024 09:09

colouredball · 29/03/2024 09:05

DS noticed the treats were missing as soon as he got up and immediately identified that daddy ate it. Luckily he's not upset.

I don't believe he is not upset. I believe he isn't communicating that because he has already learned that what Daddy says/does is universally accepted.

This is the worrying thing. And daddy is his role model. What kind if a man are you hoping to raise? Entitlement is taught from infanthood.

NcSpookyPG · 29/03/2024 09:09

Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 09:08

School Easter egg hunt was on last day of school.

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Aww that makes it even worse.

He's really mean :(

colouredball · 29/03/2024 09:09

Last time I told him how hurt I was. He responded by making me a chocolate cake.

I told DH he had to make it to him. This morning he gave DS a chocolate rabbit from work that he'd saved for him, so he's made up for it a tiny bit.

Aww bless, a man who does whatever the fuck he wants as long as he 'makes up for it'

Aside from anything else, is their really behaviour you want modelled to your child?

RafaistheKingofClay · 29/03/2024 09:09

I’d be more worried he isn’t upset. If he identified it as soon as he got up he was presumably excited by them. The fact he immediately realised who ate them and wasn’t upset suggests he’s already got an internalised message on this.

Your DH need to go and replace the lot and sit down and make a genuine apology to DS explaining why he was in the wrong. Do not let him ‘promise he won’t do it again’ because you and DS both know that isn’t true.

Octobed · 29/03/2024 09:10

My XH used to do this. Any chocolate or treat food would be eaten while we were asleep. He had imposed a very food budget, I was given £45 in cash for the week, had no debit card and we were always hungry although I prioritised the DCs but it meant that I got no share of the treats and I had to hide the DCs things.
Now he refuses to buy any treats for his home yet will always sneak into my cupboard and stuff as many treats into his mouth and pockets as he can. I can't stand greed and stinginess. Remind your H that he might find himself an XH if he doesn't get them replaced pronto.

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Mamma737363 · 29/03/2024 09:10

caffelattetogo · 29/03/2024 09:08

He hasn't made it up at all. You are allowing this to happen.

What would you like me to do? I told DH last night. I told DH that DS had noticed this morning and he needed to make it up to him.

I could tell DH to go and buy some more but we already have a stash of eggs for two Easter egg hunts (one at home and one at his grandparents).

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Jellycatspyjamas · 29/03/2024 09:10

That’s shit really, he didn’t need to eat all of them - imagine doing the egg hunt and not getting any of the treats. And your minimising your DHs behaviour, a chocolate rabbit from work doesn’t make up for his dad eating all the eggs. I’d be sending him out to get more.