DH ate all of DS Easter treats (semi-lighthearted)

[Mamma737363]

Ate his whole haul. From DS Easter egg hunt. While he was asleep.

He has form for this. A few years ago I posted that DH hadn't bothered to get a cake for my milestone birthday but he was happy to eat the rest of the chocolate cake (half a cake) my friends surprised me with, in one go while I was at work.

For context, DH is very sporty and always hungry. He also does all the baking at home. And he has bought Easter eggs for DS already for a home egg hunt.

DS noticed the treats were missing as soon as he got up and immediately identified that daddy ate it. Luckily he's not upset.

I'm still pretty mad though!

Whatever he does now, or however many chocolate treats he buys to make up to your DS, it will never replace his haul he got at the school Easter Egg hunt.
It’s just not the same is it.

He’s using the things you got? So not really a lot of effort on his part is it.

Wow
Your poor child is living with a man who believes his needs are the only thing that matters.
How terrible that this poor child already knows how little he matters to his father that a grown man can't control himself to not eat his own child's treats .
I remember how excited our dc were over egg hunts etc and it's so sad your poor boy has missed out on the rewards he hunted for.
Replacing them is fine but they aren't what he collected and so they won't have the same value to a small child.
Saying this is lighthearted makes me wonder what else his father does to you both that you don't see how awful this is.
It's not about the chocolate- it's about the respect each family member deserves from the other members of their family.

No, he has a sweet tooth but eats pretty healthily. It's selfishness

If he's eaten Easter eggs (plural) he doesn't eat healthily. How many in the 'haul' and what size?

Poor DS. Learning that he can't have anything of his own because DF grabs it.

Agreed. The main thing that will be remembered from it won’t be the fun hunt but the fact the DH then took it from him.

So all DH has done so far to make it up to his son is give him a chocolate rabbit that he got (presumably free and without any effort) from work and putting some Easter eggs that were already hidden away ready for your son (and no doubt purchased by someone other than DH) in a bowl (or whatever)? No effort or expense on his part. You should make him take your son out to the shops and buy him whatever he wants - not chocolate, anything. For once DH actually needs to make an effort.

Sorry but this doesn’t seem light hearted at all.

Thats a horrible thing for a parent to do to their child. Your ‘D’H doesn’t seem to have shown any remorse, or given any indication that he won’t do it again. Worse still, your DS seems to just accept this behaviour from his dad as normal.

I wonder if he would so happily take a (male) friend’s or perhaps his manager’s at work’s chocolate?

Does he do the same to treats you have as well as the cake, OP? I bet he does.

A small chocolate bunny lollipop, haribo, skittles, part of a hot cross bun, 2 marshmallow ducks and some orange slices DS added to it himself.

DS would have eaten the bunny, bun and orange slices. I'm just upset for him as they were arranged on a plate and he was so proud and showed it off to me.

I cannot tell you how horrible it is as a child to have your dad take things that belong to you.

My dad used to take my toys and books and give them away or burn them. My mum minimised his behaviour too. It doesn't matter what the object is or its value, your son is having HIS things taken.

It takes every ounce of will.pwer I have not to have an eating disorder or be a hoarder. It has a huge impact.

It’s an absolutely shitty thing to do. You can’t replace eggs found on an Easter egg hunt. Your ds is “not upset” and said “ok” to the crappy apology because he has already learned that his dad doesn’t like him very much, he isn’t important to him and there is nothing he can do about it. Just like you did when he scoffed the cake you were given as a gift by your friends. You minimise that too because the alternative is horrifying. Your ds knows, as you do, that not every broken thing can be fixed. You can’t pile chocolate on a kid to make up for his dad not liking him.

This would make me so angry.

Ask yourself who he wouldn't do this to? And there you have it: the people he has respect for vs the people he doesn't respect.

What an arsehole.

I'm guessing you were the one that did all the Easter planning too and made the day nice for DS?

It's also the fact that you 'd'h has had to be told/ prompted to try to rectify his shitty behaviour. It shouldn't need explanation!

This. It's an awful awful lesson

Your DH is awful. This is actually quite upsetting to read. Yes to DH it's easily replacable but to your DS they were His.

Why didn't he eat the chocolate that your son didn't know about? Then he could have replaced it before Sunday.

Does he get a kick out of it?

I agree

Hang on - do you actually had other chocolate or whatever in the house? And he just ate your son’s? And didn’t bother to ask you if, say, you had any that he could have last night? That’s really dreadful. At best, assuming he didn’t set out deliberately to hurt DS, it shows really poor impulse control.

Luckily he's not upset. why isn't he upset? Does it happen so often he just expects it?

That's bad. I'm a sugar addict but wouldn't touch treats I bought my kids or others had bought them.

I was thinking that this makes it worse. DC so proud of what he'd done and then DF goes and scoffs it. Not looking for the other chocolate that's around, but his son's. Talk about marking your territory to show who's in charge and can do as he likes.

So DH has remade the plate as much as he could with chocolate and other favourite snacks. DS is pleased, so much that he cleared his play table and put a "table cloth" down to showcase the plate.

He asked why his daddy did this (made the plate) and we explained that what daddy did was wrong and he wanted to say sorry by making a new plate.

For the record, it doesn't happen all the time. We will finish off any of DS leftovers though - this is probably what DH thought he was doing and probably what DS thinks too, hence he is not as upset as you'd expect.

I'm not minimising - I was pretty clear how I upset I was with him last night and this morning. I'm just trying to paint a clearer picture of what's going on.

I remember your previous post. I don't know what you want from this forum. Everyone always agrees that it's absolutely disgusting behaviour and then you downplay it a bit. Are you waiting fir someone to say it's OK so that you feel slightly better about staying with a man who behaves like this?

“A small chocolate bunny lollipop, haribo, skittles, part of a hot cross bun, 2 marshmallow ducks and some orange slices DS added to it himself.”

Even if every single item was faithfully replicated, it still won’t be the small chocolate bunny lollipop that your DS raced to get to before Little Jimmy. It still won’t be the 2 marshmallow ducks he found before Araminta spied them!
All these were his because he “won” them in the thrill of the hunt, that’s the whole point of it isn’t it?! The excitement of the whole event cannot be replaced. Ever.

Gah!