DH ate all of DS Easter treats (semi-lighthearted)

[Mamma737363]

Ate his whole haul. From DS Easter egg hunt. While he was asleep.

He has form for this. A few years ago I posted that DH hadn't bothered to get a cake for my milestone birthday but he was happy to eat the rest of the chocolate cake (half a cake) my friends surprised me with, in one go while I was at work.

For context, DH is very sporty and always hungry. He also does all the baking at home. And he has bought Easter eggs for DS already for a home egg hunt.

DS noticed the treats were missing as soon as he got up and immediately identified that daddy ate it. Luckily he's not upset.

I'm still pretty mad though!

Just for a little bit of balance, I genuinely wouldn't have minded if my dad did this as a kid. I'm not saying he wasn't in the wrong but I would have liked that he had a treat and enjoyed it and that I'd been the source of it. Also would have found it funny. But he never would have eaten all the things maybe just one bit!

My ex used to do this too. One of the reasons I hated him. I think it's not only greed, it's also about resenting anyone in the family having something that the DH doesn't have. Nasty cunt. Not light hearted.

He hasn't made it up to him at all. He's given him a short free gift.

He needs to get down the supermarket, now, and replace it all, and get extra. He then needs to set up an egg hunt for your son and apologise to him. Properly.

He's enjoying watching cartoons.-- the new plate is an interesting diversion. I think the Easter haul is not as a high priority for him. I'm more upset on his behalf that he is.

He had one from work but didn't eat that. Why ?
There was other stuff stashed. He could have taken that having asked.
Replacing the items he stole from you & your son, with stuff you already had doesn't cut it all.
You had made the effort, he stuck 2 fingers up at you.
There us no consequence whatever for his selfish binge eating

(semi-lighthearted) even you don't seem to get how this will impact your child

I don't think any of the updates are painting it in a better light at all.
The fact that your son isn't upset as we all think speaks volumes and shows how often something like this must occur.
I had an ex that would eat any chocolate or sweets if you didn't eat them there and then. He saw it as "fair game" even when explained to he still didn't understand it.
Save to say he's an ex and the chocolate front wasn't the only issue.

That's probably because he just expects it now. He's used to being treated like this. You need to let him know it's not ok

Exactly this! Your child SHOULD be upset.

You are married to a gluttonous thief who has no conscience or shame and loves himself much more than he loves you or his child. What do you think you should do OP?

Thanks, I need a bit of balance! I've made DH feel sufficiently bad already!

The whole weekend is DS centred by the way. DH is driving us to do lots of Easter things.

I don't want DS to see DH martyr himself by going out and buying lots of extra things and grovelling because I don't think it's that healthy either. DH feels bad, replaced the plate, it's not the same no but he's apologised, and DS is not hugely upset, he was just surprised this morning. He would definitely kick off if he was upset. If he's internalising it now then we're all going to pay for it later.

LTB? 😂

I think that’s a shitty thing to do and a poor way to show a child how to behave, it’s utterly disrespectful to the child. Can your husband not control himself or does he just not care? And the fact he had to be told by you compounds it.

Does he often splurge after eating healthily OP and keep his weight in check for the most part

I did. It's hard to say if DS has taken it in. I could keep revisiting it but I still wouldn't be sure it sunk in. I feel like that would be more harmful.

I think MN can sometimes be OTT about eating dc's treats. I've been known to "help" my dc out with their Christmas or Easter treat stashes when they were toddlers who were too young to know what they had and it was way too much anyway.

But what your dh has done is awful! Your ds knew what he had and had won it at school, so it's not the same as an accumulation of eggs that he's been given. And dh ate it all, rather than just having a little bit, which is so unbelievably selfish. Plus there was other chocolate in the house that ds didn't even know about yet so it could just be replaced or not even given (if he's got plenty anyway, wouldn't be the end of the world).

I'd be repulsed by someone who would do that, I don't know how you can be married to him tbh. And this is teaching your ds things that are really going to fuck up his relationship with food and give him trust issues. At best it shows complete selfishness and little regard for your ds's feelings, at worst it shows contempt for your ds and a desire to hurt him.

A child who wakes up excitedly for something and finds Daddy has stolen it (and yes it is theft), WILL be very upset. The fact he's not shown his upset and disappointment is actually quite scary. He is damaging his child emotionally.

I told DH he had to make it to him. This morning he gave DS a chocolate rabbit from work that he'd saved for him, so he's made up for it a tiny bit.
Ahhh... that is a similar thought process to he cheated but brought me flowers to say sorry.

It doesn't make up for it. Not even a tiny bit. Your husband is a horrible man.

I think you've done more than enough. I think there's a bit of overthinking going on with this thread. He saw stuff, he ate it. Thoughtless, but he's apologised. It's done, move on. DS sounds happy and balanced and as long as he usually has a fair amount of attention and his share of prioritisation then he will be fine.

Your DH only feels bad because you reacted. You seem very passive about all this, your DH is a greedy thief and apparently has no qualms about taking his child’s treats, he’s horrible!

This is why I overeat, grew up as one of six kids so if you didn't eat it right then it was gone

Well yes, I would. Maybe you should protect your child from this strange man.

Thank you!

DS has now decorated the table with knife, fork, spoon, and has put his stuffie on the chair to enjoy. Honestly I think he's fine.

I'm just upset for him as they were arranged on a plate and he was so proud and showed it off to me.

This makes it so much worse, your poor little one.

Your partner sounds like a cunt to be honest. What a selfish thing to do when his son was all proud and excited.

You said light hearted but I'm not really sure why? It's horrible.

You're not answering the obvious question OP, if there were other Easter treats stashed in the house that weren't DS' prized finds, why didn't your Husband just eat those instead and replace them, or not, no harm done?

Why did he CHOOSE to take your Son's things when he had other options?

And why didn't your husband eat the eggs you have stashed that his little boy didn't know about, rather than the treats his son had proudly displayed on a plate after winning them by trying hard at something? Have you asked him that?

What a dick he is.