Things you simply cannot be arsed with anymore

[TheEverlovingFork]

Now I'm in my 40s there's so much I simply can't be arsed with and I don't know if this is normal -I am hitting meno a bit early for medical reasons as confirmed by my doc. Here are a few things I recently threw in the fuck-it bucket:

Fiddly care instructions on clothes: like 'Can only be dry cleaned on a tuesday in the rain by a man whose name begins with S' who has the FUCKING TIME if it isn't easycare it's basically out of my life at this point.

Guilt guilt and more guilt about whatever standard for women I'm failing to hit this week. This is my face/body/newly grey hair piss off.

Over-fawning socialised bs at work or what I call the F-email, you know, where you have to put friendly little exclamation marks and non-confrontational jollity on every damn thing because women can't be to-the-point and factual without being hag bitches. No problem if not!

Most men and whatever they're doing. Do it somewhere over there and be quieter while you're doing it thanks.

Pandering to everyone's different hurt political feelings, I am an adult and can respectfully disagree on an issue. I understand how incredibly emotive a lot of what's going on in the world is, but I no longer have time for 'your opinion upsets me and that makes you a bad human being, actually'

Anyway - gosh yes reading that back I can see why they're talking about HRT 😳

Is this normal for meno? Did you hit 40 and throw half your life in the fuck-it-bucket?

A lot of things go with age.

I don't bother a lot of time with make up beyond moisturiser with spf. I also don't constantly buy new clothes and worry about how others perceive me. Comfort over appearance now.

I don't worry about trivial things like minor inconveniences I would have got worked up about when younger. Makes life so much less stressful.

I am happier to lose friends who don't make an effort or are hard work.

I am happy to do things alone whereas when younger I would have worried people would think I was friendless if in pub/restaurant alone.

A lot of household tasks like ironing I don't bother with. My house and clothes are clean but I don't aim for spotless or immaculate any more.

I don't worry about appearing selfish by putting myself first now rather than accommodating others all the time.

Sex. I miss it once every few months or so, and ok I’d be up for it if some lovely, hot, vanilla and genuinely respectful middle-aged man happened along (and he was into me too which makes that even less likely).

But I’ve been separated and a single mum and had no time for sex or dating for 7 years now. And getting into my big double bed to read, scroll or sleep when I choose, on my own, without feeling bad about not feeling like sex, still hasn’t got old. I bloody love it.

Great thread. Being in my fifties, I have realised that my oestrogen blinded me to so many men’s absolute bullshit. Simply wouldn’t put up with it now.

Having said that, HRT keeps the body ticking over!

I seen a mug the other day, it said something like

"I used to be wild and fun, now i pray someone else cancels"

Thats me to a tee

Wearing anything uncomfortable.

Lots of makeup.

Seeing people I don't want to see.

Making effort for people who don't make it back.

This! ^^

Relationships/men
Living with a partner ever again(see above)
Unnecessary social events
Poltical correctness
People pleasing
Going out after 7pm
Returning after 8pm
Eyeshadow, foundation, eyeliner
Uncomfortable knickers
Ironing
Facebook
Shopping for ‘fun’
Having a home ‘tidy for visitors’
Wearing perfume

Commuting to a workplace
High heels

People who explain wars being caused by 'complex cultural issues' and not 'men' . I've found that if you replace anything men say with that nonsense saxophone solo from 'we no speak americano' everything makes a lot more sense

Yes.

Witt re k socialising. I have enough friends and my personal time is too precious

Work appraisals and all that shit. I know my stuff, I'm bloody hood at my job and if you don't think so, just fire me. I have a brilliant employment lawyer in my contacts, so just bring it.

Rude people. I have absolutely no time for them and call them out nearly every time. That's joyful

Aggressive male drivers. I drive a 'typical' small pretty woman's car and they seem to feel compelled to drive like wankers when they see me. In my 40 years of driving I've had zero points and zero accidents (touch wood) so know I can drive.

Gender bullocks definitely.

Hollywood misogyny. So few women in films and if they are in them they have to be naked or semi naked in at least 1 scene. Heard a star that for every woman in a film there are 24 men. Twenty four! So I avoid Hollywood films now if I can because they give me the rage.

So many typos but on the app so can't correct them.

Sorry

Just had to check I hadn't name changed and posted this and a few others on here.

Great, innit?

Facebook.
People.
Work.
Social events.
Office politics.
Hen Do's.
Weddings.

Yeah, excellent advice, I’m practised at this 😃

Threads like this are exactly why I love Mumsnet. You've cheered me up reading these and yes can agree with the vast majority- work appraisal bullshite yawn, mind you I've always felt that way about any box ticking shite.

Men- why oh why are they so noisy and disgusting- a sneeze has to sound like an erupting volcano, a jogger has to breathe so noisily. I just can't cope with the majority of men anymore. My intolerance of the male species is definitely getting worse with age.

Men- why oh why are they so noisy and disgusting- a sneeze has to sound like an erupting volcano, a jogger has to breathe so noisily. I just can't cope with the majority of men anymore. My intolerance of the male species is definitely getting worse with age.

100% this.

There’s a cunt in my yoga class who breathes and sighs so loudly you can’t hear the fucking teacher. Twat.

Here for this one too. I got a First for my English degree and I refuse to dumb down my vocabulary in order to appear more approachable, so if you don't understand the words I use then go and fucking look them up. Finally, I honestly couldn't care less what your preferred pronouns are, except for the handy way they warn me you're an irritating little shit with an inflated sense of your own importance.

I don't buy clothes that need ironing.
I don't iron bedding either. Pointless.

I like my job, but the whole team building/personal development/appraisal side of it just leaves me cold - I've worked for 30 years and I actually don't care what profile I am

So much this. I give no fucks about training days or progression or buzz words and I'm certainly not doing any of it on my own time. I just want to do my job then fuck off home to switch off.

Comfy clothes, shoes and underwear are all I own now.

Can't be arsed with social media or just people in general really.

Way to go you amazing lot !
I have been like this for about 5 years and I feel free and I like it alot.
I give not one single chuff for anything that doesnt affect me personally. I love and care deeply for what I do love and what matters to me but that list is very small but I protect it. I please me first,always. I am done with being the woman who puts everyone else first, who is called upon to sort everyone else out,to please people who dont deserve it, to sort out problems cause some bugger else forgot,to bear the whole load of responsibility for everything,nope sorry its not happening.You are mad at me cause you fucked up and I knew and you expected it to be ok cause good old me will smooth it out and pick up the pieces oops no not happening.When things are demanded of me it happens if I feel like it not cause you demand it and think its my responsibility. The sheer defiance I feel to disregard everything but my happiness has been ages in the making but it feels great. I will not be talked down to or brow beated by guilt that is not mine to shoulder is so liberating. I am calm and I am happy and I have accepted me and I am ok with that. I have changed with age and I am greatful for that but more to the point I am joyous seeing how everyone else is dealing with me, it makes me giggle sometimes but had they been decent,right and respectful in the first place as I think I always have been and fair,fairness is an alien concept that gets my back up then they like so many other things have found themselves right at the bottom of my fuck it bucket and there they will stay with all the other crap that I refuse to deal with anymore quite happily with no apologies from me!

Oh yes. Reminded me about weddings. Ugh

I've told DH I'm only going to 1 wedding per year now, purely due to lack of time, money and sheer can't be arsed-ness. So his side has 2 this year. I'm only going to the summer one. Just who gets married on a Sunday in March?

And other unnecessary get togethers. No, I don't want to go for Xmas drinkies. I don't drink and I don't socialise with people I barely like, especially as I got ignored last time I went.

All those people who want to reach out to me. I say f* off.

Since I moved out as a teen I've only ever done 1 wash even if it says hand wash only, never cared. Everything goes in on a 30 min wash I only use the 1 function and don't care if the clothing is completely different colours. Never ruined anything. Also never iron anything.

Holidays are another thing I can’t be arsed with. I used to love going on holiday - would spend hours looking at places to rent, package deals, routes, things to do when we go there and so on. Now I hand it over to DH and just pitch up on the day.

I'm 39 this year and I feel this so much.

Comfy clothes. Always feel like a trussed up turkey when I have to put on make-up and 'going out clothes' so tend to try not to.

I don't care if I'm not fashionable or whatever. Piss off.

Bullshitters. Don't have the time or inclination to deal with it. I'll call you right out and block you.

Mindless fake niceties on social media can piss off too.

My health is declining, I'm my mother's full time carer. If you aren't in my close inner circle at this point I might see you to talk to occasionally but you ain't getting any full time commitment or support off me. Don't got it to give. Oh, and it works both ways. You wanna take but not give you can feck off

Everything the OP said. See also hen do's and also weddings unless close family to be honest. Gender reveals and bridal showers. They can all get to fuck!
Being polite to mansplaining men.