Things you simply cannot be arsed with anymore

[TheEverlovingFork]

Now I'm in my 40s there's so much I simply can't be arsed with and I don't know if this is normal -I am hitting meno a bit early for medical reasons as confirmed by my doc. Here are a few things I recently threw in the fuck-it bucket:

Fiddly care instructions on clothes: like 'Can only be dry cleaned on a tuesday in the rain by a man whose name begins with S' who has the FUCKING TIME if it isn't easycare it's basically out of my life at this point.

Guilt guilt and more guilt about whatever standard for women I'm failing to hit this week. This is my face/body/newly grey hair piss off.

Over-fawning socialised bs at work or what I call the F-email, you know, where you have to put friendly little exclamation marks and non-confrontational jollity on every damn thing because women can't be to-the-point and factual without being hag bitches. No problem if not!

Most men and whatever they're doing. Do it somewhere over there and be quieter while you're doing it thanks.

Pandering to everyone's different hurt political feelings, I am an adult and can respectfully disagree on an issue. I understand how incredibly emotive a lot of what's going on in the world is, but I no longer have time for 'your opinion upsets me and that makes you a bad human being, actually'

Anyway - gosh yes reading that back I can see why they're talking about HRT 😳

Is this normal for meno? Did you hit 40 and throw half your life in the fuck-it-bucket?

Had my eyes tested yesterday and optician insisted on making small talk all the way through. Just shut up and get on with it, I cba talking to you.

Ooh yeah. Guy l work with asked me to do something for him which l started to do, then he started telling me l was doing it wrong! Soon gave it back to him to do himself and he learnt a new word - mansplaining!

@AnnieSnap
"Could it be the quality of your tea? 😳😂🤣 I didn’t know this either 🤷‍♀️"

It could well be. I definitely cannot be fucked to do the whole 'tray out, tea brewed in a pot, milk decanted into a small jug, biscuits put on a fancy plate and the additional option of a slice of cake served on a small individual side plate for each guest' pile of shite my mother, grandmothers and no doubt countless generations of women before them did unthinkingly and without complaint.

I'm not so uncouth that I don't make my guests tea. But it's made in the mug. And the tea bag and milk might even spend some time together in the mug 😱 at the same time!! And you'll only get a biscuit if I haven't finished the packet I was half way through eating when you arrived.

Vacuous morons who think having lip filler, grey velvet sofas, French bulldog pup and a white Range Rover Evoque somehow bestows them with super special status. I honestly don't give a fuck. Neither do I give a fuck that you think I'm unclassy for swearing, I can swear rather eloquently in three languages one of the many benefits of my private education, I'll have you know. And now I see you're ranting on Facebook whilst bombarding me with tedious but poorly written texts that have comedy spelling and punctuation. We both know you were in the wrong and so I genuinely have no fucks left to give. And for Heaven's sake learn the difference between specifically and pacifically, please.

white Range Rover Evoque

Ha ha there's a new fancy luxury development near me that I walk through on my way to various places. All the flats and houses are v expensive and I swear 90% of the cars parked there are white Evoques! I wondered why!

I've often wondered why they're usually white and then I found out it's because they're usually just leased and white is the cheapest colour.

That I need others to experience the small joys in life! All I need is my dog and dog friendly places to bring them along to :)

This probably sounds terrible but the news. There's always a war, a crisis. I dedicate a lot of time to helping animals, but I struggle to care about a lot of what humans are doing even though I am one!

Shaving armpits, shaving legs.... generally just spending my precious and finite time shaving off hair that will grow back.

I feel the same. I just switch off mentally and literally now. It’s not that I don’t care, I just can’t cope with it all anymore.

People who are Arseholes

People who are Users

I don’t mind the booking but hate the process! You have to type in all your personal details et cetera and only then can you see the dates and times available! WTF??
I want them to change the system, so you can choose the dates first, and then go through the faff of putting in all your personal information…. But the buggers have never asked for feedback, so I haven’t been able to tell them that!!

It’s not the menopause it’s life:
-most men are tossers who don’t get their male privilege, and the impact it has on every aspect of their lives. Eg divorce I got the children, he got his career back; fun time with the the kids; no arguments and the daily grind; he continued with his hobbies.
-periods. Why do teenage girls need them just why? And why is no allowance made for them. I don’t mean the toilet breaks I mean the pain, the misery, the having to have them. Why have we not invented a system where girls just automatically are given the chance to block them full stop. The money, the time, the expense of having periods - fuck it. They serve no purpose why can’t we invent a different system.
-online dating. Men want sex and/or someone to do their reading of children, look after the household- cook them meals to pop around to yours and use your clean sink and house and bathroom. Just no. I look after mine - you do yours.
-teenagers and their attitudes. Agree to give them a lift, they speak to you like dirt, lift withdrawn - they rage about it well tough shit. If you are nice to me I will be nice to you. If you are going to be awful fine - I get that - but no I’m not taking you Horseriding and paying for it. So far here this method works.
-washing clothes, drying them and ironing them. If they don’t need washing, don’t wash them, if you can hang them up/ tumble dry and they are fine, leave them. I have not used my iron (on top of the fridge) since 2020
-emails/ contact from work outside of contracted hours. No I’m no checking them. Pay me if you want me to.
Vacuuming- used to do twice a day, then once and now do twice a week tops and I have dogs and children. I vacuum, within 10 minutes mud everywhere
-people and their own agendas. Particularly family - off you pop. I can’t deal with it. Quiet life.

Does this add value to my life? Do I need to do it? Nope - don’t do it.

Half of the menopause is I think our bodies realising we don’t need to do it anymore. Put more effort into you.

comedy spelling ! Love it !

Omg the work contact out of hours. I was a member of 3 bloody what’s app groups - i straddle several teams. They are supposed to be for business continuity purposes only (and this is also what we were told on set up) but have turned into stupid meme and joke groups or out of hours requests for help. Fuck off - you screwed me on pay even though I politely raised why I was underpaid and ask them to consider, I’m not bloody well going to help you outside my contracted hours!

I also can no longer be arsed with the rat race. In my 30’s it was all about getting to the top and earning the max - now I’d rather earn less and have my time back. No more getting in at 6, leaving past 10 and working weekends/on holiday. Fuck that.

Love your attitude!

Email them and tell them anyway. That's crap user interface design.

I don't see how WhatsApp can be a GDPR-compliant mechanism for workplace communication, given the need for a written contract between your employer (the data controller) and WhatsApp (a data processor) to handle employee personal data.

Provocative, attention deriving headings which are completely misleading
fatuous, banal ‘aibu’
comedy spelling!
programmed shop assistants
anything loud, music in stores, voices, door slamming,
pedestrian crossing bleeping, lorries beeping, yapping dogs,
people in a queue standing too close so you can feel them
breathing on your neck,
PO queue
Sainsbury, Thame
ordering grocerie online, discover half is ‘unavailable’ hour before its delivery
grumpy ride bus drivers, far too many of them (Oxford to Aylesbury)
Farm shops that buy in
Farm shops delivery boxes with fruit ie oranges and bananas
dogdirt on pavements

This is today’s bleat
it isn’t necessarily true that one’s hearing diminishes with age -
if you are noise sensitive, everyday noises can be excruciating,
why people look anxious, with frown lines, it can be exhausting.

There are some great posts on here, thanks

Being polite when people mention my height or fertility status. Fuck off

Spending time with people whose company I don't enjoy. I just... say no. "I can't commit right now, let me come back to you when things look clearer." And voila.

"Awareness" or "Visibility" (etc.) weeks. It's always the something-or-other "week" complete with email at work promoting it and some silly events. Many of the causes are good, even meaningful to me personally, but there are so many of these "weeks" that any meaning is lost.

Cooking. Feckin cooking.

Oh god yes. Meal planning, food shopping and cooking can absolutely do one.

Brilliant thread op! Can relate to so much on here 😁
Makeup - painting my face just feels odd now!
Fake tan - I am the colour I'm supposed to be!
Nail painting
Uncomfortable clothes/ shoes
Ironing
Social chit chat
Anti ageing cream