Embarrassed by partners go fund me...

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Dp has decided to do an extreme "event" on the other side of the world next year. It's one of those things that rich men with too much money are known to do and usually fail having to end up getting rescued 🙄

Dp has decided that he wants to do this, he's become obsessed and this is all he goes on about (for the last three weeks anyway) before that it was smaller cheaper sports he would do once or twice buy all the kit then never mention it again. (our shed has bikes, sports rackets, golf clubs, air rifle, model cars etc you get the drift)

Only thing with this one is he has set up a go fund me (I knew nothing about it till I seen it on SM) for thousands of pounds to pay for the trip. Of course he's sitting at around 1% of the total he needs.

I honestly can't explain the physical reaction I've had to this I could put my head under my pillow and not come out again I'm so embarrassed that he's sharing this about 5 times a day to try and get people to donate!

I've tried telling him raising this amount of money would usually involve hosting events and getting sponsors from big companies but it falls on deaf ears. He's saying to people any money over what he needs will go to charity but realistically he's asking people to fund his midlife crisis and by the small number of donations everyone knows this.

To make matters worse this is an extreme event and he's fundraising before after starting training for a sport he's never actually tried before. I don't even know why I'm posting I just need to rant somewhere.

What he is planning is bizarre (and stupid) but I really don’t understand the ‘cringing for you hun’ posts?
Are you actually? Do you know him?

My OH did the same....didn't raise enough money and didn't go. He didn't start a go fund me but I just think it's crazy to raise around 5k to do an event, why not just give the 5k directly to a charity instead of getting lost up a mountain? 🙄

He will soon realise that he won’t make anywhere near enough to pay for it. I doubt that his friends will be willing to pay for this.

I've seen this with children from very well off families participating in expensive sports. Absolutely taking the piss when they ask for others to fund their child's trips!

I'd be really ashamed of his behaviour if I were you OP. I don't know if I could stay with someone who behaved in this manner!

I'd be embarrassed too. How self absorbed of him.

Hopefully, he'll come to realise how much of a knob he's being and it'll dissappear and never get mentioned again.

I'm surprised so many people seem to keep coming across this sort of thing, actually. I thought they went out of fashion somewhere in the late 00s.

What a complete prick! Why would he think anyone would want to pay for his holiday?

This is going to be a hard lesson for him. But one he must learn.

It's posts like this that make me glad to be single. He is absolutely shameless.

The road to Everest is lined with dead bodies, so many perfectly healthy and fit people went and failed. I really hope he doesn't get enough money to go if it is Everest.

Very often people are doing these holidays will have it dressed up as fund raising but the first few thousand is towards the trip and it’s only a small amount if they get an excess that goes to the charity

I dunno.

I judge my friends who remain in relationships with self centrered thickos. Presumably he must have some redeeming features but this is a massive ick.

I know you don’t intend to say what it is but my bet is on Marathon Des Sables. Entry fee is about right, it’s full of middle aged middle class white men having crises, and Russ Cook’s recent escapades will have inspired some idiots 😂

Agggghhh, how awful. Can't be of any help but I feel for you.

Begging. It is embarrassing. He is begging for people to fund another mid-life crisis.

Hope most people will tell him to get stuffed.

The question is how on earth can he not see how awful this is? He has no self awareness whatsoever.

Yeah, that's utterly cringe. I mean, GoFundMes, IMO, should be for bettering the world for those in need, providing shelter, clothing, food, medical expenses and the like. No way in fucking hell would I, even if I had loads of money, fund even a very good friend's GoFundMe for a pricey expedition that does not one good thing for the environment, likely damaging it if I am guessing correctly what he's going for. My middle-aged DH went through this very embarrassing remote control car hobby phase. Privileged, middle-aged men's obsession can be very cringe. Maybe it will just burn out if everyone ignores it.

Well, it's better than an affair w/ a 20something, I'll give him that.

It is cringe. He's basically asking people to pay for his holiday, regardless of whether that includes climbing some mountain or other. Complete ego trip on other people's money.

I hope someone donates 1p and tells him to bugger off

I did enjoy the hotel night comparison! <claps>

I'd cringe my socks off too. I fucking hate people fundraising to pay for their own experience of a lifetime bollocks, and it sounds like he could genuinely get hurt or killed, especially with the lack of prep and experience. Sounds like he'll get nowhere near his target - will that stop him?

OMG, that made me laugh! Total cringe! I’m mortified on your behalf.

Mind you I feel like that about all these ‘charity events’ wher you are basically asked to pay for someone’s active holiday. Sod off. If you want me to sponsor you, do something genuinely miserable. Not a walk on a wall in China. Something grim. Like that 100 ( or is 200) mile run up and down a dark, wet one mile unlit tunnel, night and day for one whole weekend. I’ll bung you a tenner if you suffer like that.

Oh that's mortifying. I'd tell him how you feel.

He has no business asking people for money when he has a shed full of expensive unused equipment; and he's obviously not suited to any sort of adventure expedition given he lacks the sense, initiative, discipline, and self-sacrifice to sell his discarded toys to raise the money himself.

Tell him he's a daft twat and he is embarrassing himself and you, keep telling him until it finally sinks in

I’m not a fan of just giving pages in general.

I’d feel exactly the same if someone in my immediate family did this.

If it’s being shared on Facebook, report him for something random and he won’t be able to post for a while, until they investigate. Or hide his page from your timeline so you don’t see it.

Expedition to the North Pole then? Or Antarctica? Or something to do with extreme sailing.

He's saying to people any money over what he needs will go to charity

How long have you been with him OP? This embarrassment shows there are massive differences between you, in values, in what he feels entitled to, what he feels like it's ok to ask for.