Professions you would never date after working with them

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I’ll start - surgeons.

One of them told me his wife was a GP -“because only one of us (him) could have a proper career”

Also - the overriding narrative that every female who complained about their outcome or consultation had “mental health issues”. They just couldn’t conceive that anyone would complain about them.

Chef. I've never known one without a drink problem or a bad temper.

Anyone who travels a lot for overseas conferences or in international work in high risk environments, because it's the social norm to sleep around in those contexts despite having a partner at home.

I have to say I don't know any police, what's the issue there?

I'd have to agree with Surgeon/Doctors, Cardiologists specifically for me!!! Altho in saying I'd never date one, I'd be the patient of some of the most awful ones as they were good at what the did!!

I agree with this!

Pilot

Teacher- I'm one. Politician or councillor, someone who worked in an abbatoir, someone in a group that gigs- want to be able to do things together at weekend.
Anyone with a high fly career that means they constantly working

Electrician. The spark is just never there

Fireman and soldier

Fuck. No

I had to get a restraining order on the fireman, and a divorce from the soldier

DH is a civil engineer and very normal

Police officers: I'm sure lovely ones exist. I've just met/worked with arseholes who joke about women forced into prostitution and kick 15 year old homeless teenager's doors in (temp flat) because they can't be bothered to fact check before hand.

Military personnel: My dad's squadron nicknamed me "Lolita" when I was 11, his boss liked wrestling with me on my bedroom floor and don't get me started on doing games in gym knickers on an army base as a teenager.

Then the final straw was accidentally dating an RAF pilot for six months because he lied about his job to make sure "it was him, not the uniform I liked" (claimed to be a civilian worker on the base). Stupid thing is, I would have made an exception for him because I did like him if he hadn't reacted so badly to me being unhappy that he'd lied (apparently they all did). We went to an official function, had a lovely time despite me being pissed off initially and then afterwards, when I said I needed time to think because he'd lied, he hurt me. Nowhere obvious which made me think it was deliberate, practised and in a way which as he "helpfully" pointed out afterwards could be framed as "my kink". No one...including my father (ex RAF) and his Wing Commander (family friend who I'd been on holiday with multiple times) could understand why I didn't want to see him again which also put a whole new perspective on my parents problematic marriage. Again, lovely ones may exist but in my experience they protect their own at the expense of women and children.

Thinking about it until I met dh, I had horrendous taste in men.

Why pilot?

Is the shagging around reputation true?

I thought surgeon would be right up there!

With spy, if you know they're a spy, they aren't a very good one and you won't be with them long cos they will either get killed or caught.

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Fucking hell. Me and DH doomed. (Police and surgeon couple- won't say who is who!)

Prison officer, the amount of cheating that goes on between staff is horrific

Answering the question, rather than just who I don’t think I’d have a relationship with. I’d be highly sceptical of starting a relationship with an academic, particularly those working in medical education. Some of the biggest god complexes I’ve ever seen. The cultures which pervade in medicine have a small but not insignificant role to play in the fuckedness of the nhs.

Tennis players.

Love means nothing to them.

One idiot of a surgeon doesn't mean they are all the same, that's prejudiced

Police
politician (probs any but definitely a Tory)
engineer
city stockbroker

Hospital drs esp consultants - they are either very stressed or somewhat arrogant.

ok this one wins!

A Labour politician. They probably wouldn't want to date me either; they don't know what a woman is in the first place.

Any trades people.

Full time musicians (except maybe classical) and artists. Musicians are always busy in the evenings/weekends/for months when on tour. Both of these professions seem to attract people with their head in the clouds. Also, they generally don't make much money and just accept it

That seems a bit harsh - any particular reason?

@MerlinsButler I work in the criminal justice system and we are always referring people on to building/ trades courses. So I (wrongly) associate it with criminals.