Professions you would never date after working with them

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I’ll start - surgeons.

One of them told me his wife was a GP -“because only one of us (him) could have a proper career”

Also - the overriding narrative that every female who complained about their outcome or consultation had “mental health issues”. They just couldn’t conceive that anyone would complain about them.

From personal experience - actor (ex husband) and police (dated one). Liars and cheats, and so were the majority of their friends in the same professions.

To be fair if your job involves holding another human being's heart in your hands you probably have to have a level of self assurance that crosses into arrogance. I'd unlikely marry one but I'd be happy enough for them to operate on me should the situation require it. Meant lightheartedly!

@PleaseBeHappier oh ye, I would expect a level of self assurance in their own job of course. It's when that expands to everyone else's it gets a bit tedious.

Hmm the vast majority of the Consultants (Anaesthetic and Surgical), I know professionally and personally are quite lovely.
Doormen however, a few of my exs have been doormen, never again. Ally cats.

Anyone in the police.. once did date someone in CID.. My gosh what a Narcissistic man he was.

Celebrities and Royals.

Actor - self obsessed to a pathological degree. Also more of them than you would expect are thick as two short planks

I wouldn't want to be with a police officer or someone in the Army - they see too much of the bad side of humanity and life generally.

Anything where they are constantly expected to work silly hours and let their family and friends down for events.

I would worry that the extreme training and 'shaping' that they do in the military machine is with a very specific purpose that works in the military context, but is highly incompatible with normal civilian life.

When you think that every other job includes training around workplace safety and protecting people's lives and health - even boxing has codes and safeguards to prevent very serious injury; but a huge part of the military is being trained to deliberately kill other people, as the primary goal, if deemed necessary.

How can it not have an effect on your 'ordinary' life, when you've been through all that?

Police Officer. My friend was battered to within an inch of her life by Her Police officer Husband of 3 months. She was left with nothing and his bosses wouldn't charge him. When she was in a refuge, 5 of the other women were fleeing Police officer husbands/partners.

Policeman I know four. My Grandfather, my uncle, a ‘friend’ from uni who joined the met and my friend’s husband. They have all beaten their wives, got/get into fights a lot. Vile. All of them.

My uncle was kicked out for almost killing someone (the person hit their head on the edge of a pavement) my friend from uni threw someone down some stone stairs ‘in the line of duty’ causing life altering injuries for the person. My friend’s wife has been beat up by her PO husband.

Social worker.

This is my reason why I’d never be with a teacher. Anyone who has to work at home a fair bit (beyond the odd bit here and there) to do their work the next day.

Why do you need to put an occupation as stereo type? Just because one person you dated was horrible, it doesn't mean everyone in same job are alll the same?

Also any job where I’d become the default parent or him a part time dad. Sorry but just being honest.

It was a pun.

In general the more creative type roles. Think architects, graphic designers/ui/ux,they are very yellow on the HDMI personality test, which means they are driven by their emotions and can lack the logic needed sometimes.

My friend was raped by a police officer. We reported him. The response was "boys will be boys". Nothing happened.

Can I just say, I did enjoy that spate of puns earlier on in the thread : )

Quantity surveyor
organic farmer
hair stylist
vicar

I agree with her; I think it IS stereotyping. Are you always this patronising?

Military and police - Work closely with ex military and police and its not just the stories, its the type of men you meet - there's this weird undercurrent of 'I am an authority figure/i am right' (of varying severity) with all of them so far. And every woman has just the most awful, awful stories.

Oh, and agree with sales too - up at the top, you have to be a certain type of person, and when you've seen them in action 'on'...

This! The surgeon comment was really weird... as though every surgeon is somehow the same?! Bizarre.

Police officer
Armed services

Police. From personal experience. Misogyny and affairs are normalised and rife.