How old were you when you lost your virginity?

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And if you have children old enough, how old were they?

I keep hearing about how kids are losing their virginity younger and younger now so I was curious to know how old you were, compared to your children.

I was 17. Dh was 13.

DD is 10 and still at the age where anything sexual grosses her out (thank god). They are currently doing sex education at school at the moment and she comes home horrified every time

How can you say ‘without coercion’ in relation to a ten year old child?

13 here too

17. Guy turned out to be a horrible person and I regretted trusting him.

DH was also 17 but in a better relationship.

I'm not that poster but my puberty, when it belatedly arrived, absolutely battered me with sexual feelings. I went from "can't see what all the fuss is about" to "God, I want sex!" pretty much overnight. I'd been very well sex-educated by both parents and school, so I knew what was happening and resisted the urge to sexually assault random men everywhere - but I wanted to! It was so strong!

FWIW, I got like this at perimenopause, too. Now I couldn't be bothered if George Clooney was doing a strip-tease in my living room 😆 Well, maybe I could get slightly bothered. Him or David Beckham!

15 or 16, I don't remember if before 16th birthday or not. Doesn't matter but I remember wanting more, immediately. Ha ha.

My daughter was 16. I'm very open about it, I arranged for her to go on the pill and I would have no issue in a stable boyfriend staying over.

Sadly, she was a ten year old child eager to 'become a woman' in her eyes. She thought that having achieved that, the twelve year old lad that she pursued would be fixated on her as much as he was on football.
Children having sex with children rarely ends satisfactorily - though some posters here seem to have no complaints.
On reflection, both friends would have preferred to wait longer, but were very happy to get the deed done at the time.

Around 21 . Consensual

At 13-14 I was still a child and mentally acted as one.

Absolutely this. What does it mean? First orgasm? First oral sex? Or first time penis in vagina? Or first time with someone having mutually pleasurable bodily exploration with/without genital touching or what????

24, my first and only (I was terrified of the whole idea of HIV and pregnancy as a teenager). DH was 21 at the time.

Even if she was not directly coerced by the boy something very damaging must have happened to her to affect her perspective on life so deeply. I can’t quite believe that it needs spelling out that a ten year old cannot consent to sex.

13- I was sexually abused

18, shortly after arriving at Uni

I had just turned 21 and also felt embarrassed, like how was I still a virgin at that age! The BF I lost it to (my now DH) was also a year younger and he had lost his at 16. I didn’t tell him until right before we did it 😂 I’m glad I waited though, I’d had opportunities before but it never felt ‘right’.

Now I realise that isn’t very old at all and there was nothing wrong with not losing my virginity until that age. Ideally my children will wait until at least their mid to late teens.

15 years, 10 months and 11 days. I remember the exact date and also recalI thinking it was very underwhelming. 😂

16...didn't even realise or feel anything..i know i know!! Result..pregnant & 1 very angry mum who marched me up the catholic church to get told off by the priest,wedding booked..on way to church my lovely late dad held my hand in the rolls royce and said i didnt have to go thru with it,but it was 1973 and we both knew my mum wouldv'e murdered us both.Anyway had my 1st daughter who's now 51 this yr and she was 16,had my 1st grandson, my 2nd daughter was 15 resulting in my 2nd grandson whos now 29...

19 and DH was 19. Still together and have 3 DCs, 2 not of age to engage, 1 turns 16 soon but still a Virgin - talks to me about absolutely everything and I hope when the time comes DC will tell me.

We've already had talks about it from what was taught at school and the importance of safety and to ensure the person is at least the same age as them no younger than 18.

Its also important to beware of ones that lie about their age! - this happened to my god sister when we were kids, she developed large assets front and back by time she was 13, having started puberty at 9 and lied to a 19yo about being 17. She ended up pregnant at 13 and the poor boy who thought she was older than she was got arrested and deported to a country he had never lived in since he was a young baby which was a massive thing at the time because he was a well known lad, well mannered, had a job and was not the P word he was branded with all because my god sister was not truthful to him about her age.

And women are unduly influenced by men. Also, some of the posters here are not women.

So you were groomed?

25, on my wedding night.

I was 22. I made sure I was on the pill first. I had been going out with the man for two years. After the first time, he always used a condom. I went out with him for nearly 17 years. I was aware he went out with other women. My son, who has Christian beliefs, waited till he got married. My daughter was at university. It does concern me that it seems to be the norm to have set with your boyfriend, even though you might not have known them for long. I didn't have sex with my husband until we were married. That was his choice. I was his first girlfriend. I think he was a bit nervous about it.

Not sure that word existed at that point but no, there was no grooming as such as that seems to imply a building of trust and emotional connection. Not sure what you'd call it tbh.

I’m so sorry. That’s so shit. I think you are really brave - thank you for sharing. There are probably lots of readers here who can’t bring themselves to join this thread and write down their own experiences. I agree with a previous poster that the term ‘losing your virginity’ is outdated and unhelpful. I wish you and others on here who have posted similar experiences healing and recovery. X

Are you really not seeing/getting how horrific this is? Losing your virginity at 13 is bad enough, (as several others have said,) but TEN. The vast VAST majority of girls are several years away from their periods, and puberty at ten. How the HELL can any TEN year old be desperate for sex?

I am really worried and upset for any ten year old girls who needs sex like, RIGHT NOW. And what ten year old girl, wants to 'become a woman?' I have read some outlandish and disturbing stuff in a few threads on here over the years, but this is horrific. Yet you seem to be talking like they just tried their first vindaloo.

They had sex at TEN YEARS OLD. And they WANTED to have sex at TEN YEARS OLD to 'become a woman?!'

Your whole post is supremely disturbing. But these 2 paragraphs stand out horrifically!

Sadly, she was a ten year old child eager to 'become a woman' in her eyes. She thought that having achieved that, the twelve year old lad that she pursued would be fixated on her as much as he was on football.

Children having sex with children rarely ends satisfactorily - though some posters here seem to have no complaints.

What in the everloving fuck?

I teach GCSE and in the last few years kids don't even seem to go out on dates anymore, they just hang around in groups. They seem very uninterested in losing their virginity tbh.

17
I couldn't wait any longer!
I'm guessing DS was 17. DD18 has absolutely no interest in boys or girls and the whole idea of seeing another person's genitals is absolutely abhorrent to her.