Messy house/garden pics

[Shithole101]

So its sort my dump/shithole/trampy house in and out day. I'm gonna sulk for about an hour then get started.

I have a carpet which i was going to use to put on top of my daughters carpet because I thought it might help with sound proofing the floor a bit if she had double carpet. But im not sure? So I Need to think about if I'm still doing that. Or of I'm bining it.

Also in a few weeks or so I was thinking about panelling my hall and stairs. So I would need to remove the end banister I guess I should do that this weekend so it cam go on the bin as well.

I'm really pissed of about that big white unit thing in the garden.

Also I have been a massive prick. I managed to stuff 2 sofas into the shed. Now I'm scared to get them out.

I also need to stop being a prick with the washing and My room . I keep nagging the kids whilst my room is a shit hole and I don't keep it tidy for more than a few days.

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And also you'd have got a hell of a lot more done without being on MN constantly

I think a lot of people are being really helpful on this thread, but I think a lot of people are interfering unnecessarily and being judgmental about someone they know nothing about.

If people don't have something helpful to offer, then why post and be critical?? ........... just move on and read another thread .................?

You're doing well today op.
How about you try and think of the small changes you could make to make keeing on top of things easier for yourself and give you a better quality of life?
Do you have a tumble dryer? There are lots of reasons why they aren't great, but in this case I think it would help you a lot. Washing is something you struggle to keep on top of and if it could come straight out of the washing machine and into the dryer and put away then this would remove a step for you and save having lots of washing hanging around the house.
I also seem to remember that you have to spend a really long time commuting to take your kids to school. This was getting understandably really tiring for you. Instead of spending money on doing your stairs, how about putting it aside for taxi journeys to take you and your kids to school as you don't drive. Even if it's just one way in the morning it could make your life easier, less stressful and give you a little extra time to get around to other things?

I wouldn't take any notice of anyone telling you, you shouldn't be posting photos of your children's bedrooms.

They probably have photos of their actual children on the internet.

One of the things you not understanding is I have (no one) In really life""

I do understand hence me asking MNHQ for their signposting thread to RL support groups (and I said that in my original post in an effort to help) It was genuinely meant to be a helpful post to you. You can take it however you want,

I really don't as they are adults! I sure wouldn't be going to their houses and taking pictures of their bedrooms on the internet.You can see how that would be a huge invasion of privacy.

OP' house is her own but pictures of DCs bedrooms to me is still an invasion of privacy, plus it makes OPs DC identifiable and she has put a lot of personal info all over her threads about herself and has DC who are teens as well as younger. I just don't think it's a good idea, but I will bow out and hopefully MNHQ can do the helpful signposting post I asked for so OP gets better support than on these threads.

Instead of starting numerous threads why don't you just have the same one and keep updating it?

I do have a dryer . But when the electricity/gas bills went up. I got a bit tight 😅. I have not used it for over a year . I have 4 airs. 3 of them will fit in my hot water tank cupboard. And everything drys over night. The 4th one ds mainly uses. Plus I have the washing line outside. I do need to do somthing though. As long as I'm doing regular washes I'm OK. But if I have down days where I feel hopeless and give up and all logic has gone . I get myself into a mess again. So I need to work on that.

Yes the journey to school is long . I'm not doing that though that's 8-12 pound a journey. We are in a good routine with that now really I can't remember why I would have moaned about it. It could have beeb a build up other stuff and it was adding to it . Either way. I leave home 7.35 I get then into school 8.30ish I'm home 9.15/30.

I'm probably missing the point, but I feel uneasy about how the word tramp/ trampy is becoming an insult.

Your house does not look like a 'tramp' house. Homeless people do not have houses.

I'm really sorry . I must have misread/misunderstood. I find long posts quite hard to fully take in. Especially in certain situations. And if I feel misunderstood.

@Readingthedictionary

Dana K White.

Watch her you tubes stay with the container concept. She's a lovely, funny, American woman who is 'real' & will help.

@Shithole101

hello again.

have you watched Dana K White’s you tubes yet??

id say clearly not as you'd be thinking differently & her various concepts would have really helped you out. She'll help you declutter in a 'real' way and isn't a minimalist.

id love to come & sort your house out for you. You're not a hoarder & it looks so simple to sort out as an outsider.

would you even want that if someone offered it? Would you prefer family/friends or a stranger?

I don't want to upset you, but I can't remember everything you've written on all your threads, but have you considered you might have a processing disorder?

@Underthesea5

seriously. How many of what YOU consider to be tramps, do you think are scrolling on MN??

besides, I'd never call a rough sleeper 'a tramp' these days.

I have screen shot your message so I don't forget to watch .

I would never ever let anyone know my house. I'm ashamed of every myself my house everything . But im not gong to go into that...

Prossing disorder... I don't think so . I do have learning difficulties. I did not go to main stream education. So don't know if that's a link .

@Madamlulu

ive been posting about Dana K White like she pays me (she doesn't!! Sadly) but so far the OP seems resistant to listening to her YouTube's. Sadly. I know it would help.

you can only lead a horse to water, even in a hot day, you can't make it drink.

Appreciate this thread OP, I’m struggling very much too at the moment and feel so overwhelmed and alone with it all 🙁 Well done for at least trying to get on top of it, I can’t even do that.

please do keep posting, it’s helping people! And helping you of course which is brilliant.

@hopeishere

not everyone can make their brain work like that.

DKW has a system that works too. You declutter down to your own clutter threshold you know what that is by doing 'a 5 minute pick up' daily. If you can get the house straight in 5 minutes, then you can cope with your level of stuff. If you can't then you need to declutter further.

(you need a week/two of daily 5 minute pick ups to see where you're at)

For years I thought it was as simple as you say, I'm like that myself, but after years of reading & learning about other people, I understand some people are just not wired that way & it's not something you can force.

It does not mean I won't listen , as I said I just screen shotted the last post. I have so much going round in my head that I'm not even sure I would hear the words . At the moment I don't want to hear talking or noise . Every day most of the day I have noise and people in my face demanding or telling at me. When I can I want to be in silence and I don't want to listen to you tube pod casts . That does not mean to say i won't. It just means not now .

I have printed some team tomm things of . And laminated them. So I can tick things of as I go . So I am putting things in place to help

I hope your OK. It can be a shit place to be. MN posters told me a bit at a time . I put the air fryer on earlier it was just on for 10 mins. But that count down allowed me to clean the kitchen. People told me 5/10 mind here and there . Thru were definitely right. I lnlw iys Hard mentally as well though . I hope you feel better soon 💐

Why do people spend time on MN moaning about the state of their house rather than spending say 30 mins cleaning up? Stop browsing the web and just get on with it!

You’re so kind, thank you for your encouragement and lovely words 🥰

What a great idea about the air fryer, I’m going to try this, even 5-10 minutes can achieve a lot, I know from past tidying sessions. It’s definitely hard mentally isn’t it, we just have to keep the goals as small as we can manage for now.

@Shithole101

im sorry the nasty bunch have been out to play this weekend.

my fat fingers didn't help earlier. I meant to type processing disorders. I do think they are part of your issue, part of your learning disorders. It does make things very difficult and why you do so well when someone suggests something practical that you can see yourself doing, like the front garden.

Don't listen to all the negative nasty posters. You have a lot of patience with them, far more than I would.

i cannot see the issue with posting photos of the children's bedrooms, its not as though you do it when there are things in there that would humiliate them. Just ignore the neurotics!!

I do think you should consider sticking to one thread, people who haven't read previous threads don't get your situation or your past & current struggles. But do whatever helps YOU most.

you are doing incredibly well!! 🤗

Yeah I been sitting here all day not a single thing

Yeah mn were telling me 5/10 mins here and there and naturally I will end up doing more . I didn't agree at all I thought they were talking rubbish. Then I done it. I thought o was going to proove a point and say told you it would not work. But I was so wrong . Its definitely helped alot even just one work top I'm the kitchen felt like an achievement.

Thank you . I think I may have misunderstood you maybe took you the wrong way a bit because I feel like i have spent the day defending myself. And it's brought me down a bit . So I probably took it out on your post a bit. There is a reason I do new threads but I don't want to say on here because I don't want to trigger anything.

Ds has come home and asked to clean. The door because he wanted to use the white vinegar 🤣