I have fucked up badly

[Shamefullhouse]

Omg I have Been find 400 for for tipping 250 if I pay within 10 days .

This would have been during in my time of struggling badly with my house and the state it was in my bins getting over full and really struggling with everything really badly.

I know I should not have done it but I was struggling. As far as I know they are talking about a couple of bits I took to the communal bins . ( they don't belong to me house) but to the flats behinde me. I couldn't get the bits in the bin. So I left them next to the bin. They would have been bits of wood from a unit i think .

@Shamefullhouse maybe try and leave the thread now and just leave people to judge away ?
It's not helping you to hear some of the comments - you've admitted you were in the wrong, I don't know what more you can do? Or what more they want you to do? x

So why didn't you take it back home to dump by your own bin when it didn't fit in somebody else's then?

Because you know that dumping rubbish outside of bins is wrong, and you thought that if you dumped it by somebody else's bin, it would be assumed to be theirs. Address labels didn't occur to you.

I don't even know why I'm trying 😔

If you're anywhere near Essex, DM me. My partner has a van and we can fill it and run the stuff to the tip for you. Life's too short to let this take over your mind and your mental health.

That's really kind of you . But I'm to embarrassed. It's a really kind offer though thank you so much 💐

So if you were knew it was wrong you would have prevented yourself getting caught? I notice you don't say if you knew it were wrong you wouldn't do it.

Plus you knew it was wrong or you'd have put it next to your own bin. It's all just a bunch of excuses. Loads of people have tough lives - it's not an excuse to do this sort of thing. Sorry but it's just not.

And as for them making the photos look worse, it's a bit like a dog owner leaving their dog's shit on the street and getting fined for 2 shits instead of 1.

But but but my dog only did 1 shit. It's only a little dog and couldn't possibly have done 2 shits. I only left the one by the post box. I didn't even walk by the newsagents. But, but, but...

Excuses, excuses.

Shame on you.

she’s saying she didn’t know it was wrong.

People don’t see putting their rubbish in someone else’s bin, or on their own front garden while they work out what to do with it, as fly tipping and risking a big fine.

I only put it there because their collection was in the morning. Mine another week way .i didn't think card was the end of the world

That's definitely more than an overflowing bin. That's a significant fly tip. It's an eye sore & environmental health risk. -fire risk, vermin etc
I think you need to pay the fine & learn from it. If you are capable enough to organize & pay for the work to be done & stuff delivered you are capable of arranging disposal. No excuse leaving a mess like that.

Why have you ignored what I wrote. I said the few bits what are mine I put my hands up to that. The rest of the stuff I put in the bin. I dud not scatter all over floor as it seens in the photos..

Afford to buy stuff afford to get it taken if only life was that simple.

In my area, the recycling men take extra recycling. A box of card next to the bin would be taken. In my area, you may have been fined for the white chipboard, but not the rest.

I’m really sorry this has bitten you on the bum. I know how hard it is to manage this kind of situation and how all the details pile up on you until you can’t think straight.

If you were my neighbour, I’d take your stuff to the tip for you.

Have you got a local notice board, Facebook group, anything like that? Or any friendship clubs/ coffee drop ins etc? They are good places to go for mutual support. You can build connections there.

Yeah as I said I hold my hands up to what I done. Its the bits that I have not done. And the bit in my own garden that i don't understand.

I'm going to try and contact them tomorrow some how. I get I have to pay the fine. But if there's a massive issue with stuff in my garden whilst I save for a skip or simlar it's going to put me in a really hard situation because I can't afford to do both in a short period of time.

OP, please. You’ve had offers of help. Let us know in which county you are. You’ve already showed photos of how things are. There are many, many of us on here who are not judging, and wants to help. Please, just take the offer. Don’t let pride stand in the way of you and the kids getting a bit of relieved and moving forward. For many of us, it is just a run to the tip, no big deal. For you, at the moment, it is a logistical nightmare that keeps you stuck in a loop of negativity and shame. Just take the help. Let us know an approximate location.

That sounds really sensible. They may be able to help you work out a plan, somehow.

Is your house social housing? They may have taken pictures having traced the address to illustrate that there is more than you dumped so far. When you speak to council ask whether they offer a bulky waste service so that you can clear it quickly. It might cost a fee, but may be subsidised due to your circumstances, then it would resolve the immediate issue and give you a fresh start rather than continue to feel overwhelmed.

Just to illustrate how good LAs can support households that struggle- ours or a flying tip, and a free week.
So once a year there’s a skip in every region. Once a year there a free bulky waste collection.

Those of us able to take stuff at a time convenient to us, do so. Those who can’t wait for or plan around the flying skip or free week!

😭😭😭. I can't shaming myself on line is one thing. In rl is different. I also don't feel safe giving my address out. I don't want people to see me, I'm ashamed of how I look I look like a mess I'm not talking judt Nedd to shower sort hair out etc . I always look a state I never look ok even when I try

I just had a quick check of things to double check. I thought it was 60.00 for 3 items
But im wrong its 60 for a fridge removal its 40.00 for 4 items such as a bed,wardrobe, chair.

I'm really confused because I don't have items like that. Mine is just stuff .or even just general rubbish that I'm going in circles with

Just ask them, I'm sure they would rather it were cleared asap even if not single items. Tell them you would rather use a reputable system than risk a scam disposal bloke. Well done for persisting on this thread too.

What was the white chipboard before you dismantled it? That would count as one item.
When you ring, ask about the kinds of things you have- they may say 2 sacks = an item, or give you a rigid bag to fill.

You aren’t alone- other people have similar situations- it’s ok.

You are wise not to give out your personal details. It’s lovely of people to offer, but a bit quick to actually do it. People do make RL friends here, but you’d usually meet somewhere else first- like hospital cafe if they are offering support to someone dealing with medical issues for example.

Beautifully said ❤️

In future it would be a good idea to save money for a skip/waste removal before spending money on decorating and non-essential purchases.

I understand your embarrassment OP. I think if you speak with the council and tell them what you have said here they will hopefully signpost you to people who can help you get on top of this. Once you are on top of this and your garden and home are clear, you will feel so much better. Hopefully there will be community volunteers locally who can support you with all this, without judgement. It’s more common than you think.

💐 for you OP and to all those on here who are genuinely offering to support you.