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I have fucked up badly

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 11:44

Omg I have Been find 400 for for tipping 250 if I pay within 10 days .

This would have been during in my time of struggling badly with my house and the state it was in my bins getting over full and really struggling with everything really badly.

I know I should not have done it but I was struggling. As far as I know they are talking about a couple of bits I took to the communal bins . ( they don't belong to me house) but to the flats behinde me. I couldn't get the bits in the bin. So I left them next to the bin. They would have been bits of wood from a unit i think .

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WavyLines11 · 20/01/2024 20:21

C'mon op, you've come so far, don't give up and let this cause you to spiral. You're human, we all fuck up, it's not that bad!!

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 20:24

WavyLines11 · 20/01/2024 20:21

C'mon op, you've come so far, don't give up and let this cause you to spiral. You're human, we all fuck up, it's not that bad!!

It feels like it.

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WavyLines11 · 20/01/2024 20:26

I know it does, your brain is trying to convince you it is Flowers

You're a good person trying your best in difficult circumstances. Hold on to that.

Tortiemiaw · 20/01/2024 20:31

MacLaine · 20/01/2024 19:39

Why do I feel like this is everyone’s fault but yours, OP?

It is difficult to offer help, when the subject just wants fluffiness and head pats. There has to be some responsibility taken. Lots of people have horrendous and dreadful lives but can take minor criticism and admit when they are in the wrong.

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 20:34

WavyLines11 · 20/01/2024 20:26

I know it does, your brain is trying to convince you it is Flowers

You're a good person trying your best in difficult circumstances. Hold on to that.

My head hurts so much . I can't even eat my jaw is moving oddly when I try to eat. Several tines my kids have asked whats wrong and I have told them my eyes are watering because I had a sharp pain I'm my throat . Over 30 times ds has said I love you mummy. He's probably picking up on something.

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 20:54

Tortiemiaw · 20/01/2024 20:31

It is difficult to offer help, when the subject just wants fluffiness and head pats. There has to be some responsibility taken. Lots of people have horrendous and dreadful lives but can take minor criticism and admit when they are in the wrong.

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It's all my fault. I have said that a millon times, my fault , I fucked up. 90% of posters have told this to. I have told my self this to. Over and over again did you miss it? I will say it again I fucked up . I would fuck up In other areas to because that's what I do fuck up over and over fuck up.my life fuck up my kids fuck up everything. Needs to stop doesn't lt .

Is that clear enough or should I say it again and again Edited

This is a copy and past from one of my other posts. This is me taking responsibility. If you read my op and the title that actually says i fucked up. Did you miss my op. ? Did you miss the other posts whete i said I messed up ?

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OpalOrchid · 20/01/2024 21:01

Honestly OP. Hide this bloody thread for your own sake. Turn off the internet and forget this thread. Go chill in front of the TV.

KinS24 · 20/01/2024 21:01

OP. You sound really in a bad way. I’m sorry. You have just really hit a nerve with people who also have shit going on which is made worse by other people’s selfishness.

I am another one whose anger is massively triggered by fly tippers. I work long hours and have my own stresses but have had to spend my time clearing other people’s rubbish dumped on my property. Several times I have had bin bags on my driveway full of mixed shit dumped for the foxes to scatter. At my work people constantly dump bags full of nappies and random broken furniture by the building bins so we have a shitty messy environment.

One thing at a time. This is not the end of the world. Try and sort a payment plan. I wish you well sorting this and the other things in your life.

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 21:06

KinS24 · 20/01/2024 21:01

OP. You sound really in a bad way. I’m sorry. You have just really hit a nerve with people who also have shit going on which is made worse by other people’s selfishness.

I am another one whose anger is massively triggered by fly tippers. I work long hours and have my own stresses but have had to spend my time clearing other people’s rubbish dumped on my property. Several times I have had bin bags on my driveway full of mixed shit dumped for the foxes to scatter. At my work people constantly dump bags full of nappies and random broken furniture by the building bins so we have a shitty messy environment.

One thing at a time. This is not the end of the world. Try and sort a payment plan. I wish you well sorting this and the other things in your life.

I have not dumped anything on anyones private drive or private property. Why are you saying thubgs that are not even applicable to me. I think you said similar up thread . So why say it again?

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Purplebunnie · 20/01/2024 21:09

Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 21:06

I have not dumped anything on anyones private drive or private property. Why are you saying thubgs that are not even applicable to me. I think you said similar up thread . So why say it again?

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You are not being accused of dumping stuff on private driveway or private property read the post again and then this is meant kindly go away. Delete yourself from Mumsnet for your own sanity, you are not being kind to yourself and you need to be

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 21:10

OpalOrchid · 20/01/2024 21:01

Honestly OP. Hide this bloody thread for your own sake. Turn off the internet and forget this thread. Go chill in front of the TV.

I know your right. I don't even know why I'm replying. I'm a bit scared of doing what you say even though your right. Because then I'm going to have feelings and thoughts going around in my head.

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 21:13

Purplebunnie · 20/01/2024 21:09

You are not being accused of dumping stuff on private driveway or private property read the post again and then this is meant kindly go away. Delete yourself from Mumsnet for your own sanity, you are not being kind to yourself and you need to be

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You have no right to tell me to delete myself from mn. Mn I (normally) the only support I have. I have absolutely no one is rl and there's you telling me to delete myself

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OpalOrchid · 20/01/2024 21:13

Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 21:10

I know your right. I don't even know why I'm replying. I'm a bit scared of doing what you say even though your right. Because then I'm going to have feelings and thoughts going around in my head.

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Find something funny to watch. There's nothing you can do until Monday so no point going over and over it in your head. This thread is only adding to your bad thoughts. So stop reading it.

JaneAustensHeroine · 20/01/2024 21:15

whiteboardking · 20/01/2024 19:28

@candaby653 in our area families of 5 or more can ask for extra bins

Same here. Family across the road has two bins arranged through the council. Not sure how much extra they pay but it’s going to be worth it.

Purplebunnie · 20/01/2024 21:15

Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 21:13

You have no right to tell me to delete myself from mn. Mn I (normally) the only support I have. I have absolutely no one is rl and there's you telling me to delete myself

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I am not telling you, I am suggesting, kindly that you are not doing yourself any good constantly coming back to this thread, witness your attack on me. I'm going now as there doesn't seem to be any reasoning with you

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 21:20

Purplebunnie · 20/01/2024 21:15

I am not telling you, I am suggesting, kindly that you are not doing yourself any good constantly coming back to this thread, witness your attack on me. I'm going now as there doesn't seem to be any reasoning with you

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I'm sorry you felt thst I attacked you in.my reply . I did not meant to do that. But that's also how I felt with the reply you sent me. I'm sorry if I got that wrong. And I'm sorry for how I replied.

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MacLaine · 20/01/2024 21:33

This is all slightly jumping the shark now…

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 21:40

MacLaine · 20/01/2024 21:33

This is all slightly jumping the shark now…

I don't know what that means

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ilovemyspace · 20/01/2024 21:54

@Shamefullhouse OP please don't undo all the real progress you've been making! You've come so far and done so much to make things better.

Ok, you've fucked up :) (show me one person on here who's never made a mistake!) But people piling on to you on this thread is making you feel FAR worse about yourself that you actually should!!

The simple truth is ........... you made a miscalculation and have been fined for it. You will pay the fine even though paying it is going to make things harder for you for a while.

Ignore people on here who are making you feel worse - you don't deserve to feel so bad!! You haven't murdered someone or beaten them up or robbed a bank! You put rubbish where you shouldn't have put it - not just tossed all over the place, but disposed of as carefully as you could.

Now go and make yourself a cup of tea and give your DS a huge hug and tell him you love him too. And ask MN to delete this thread and come back on one of your other threads where you can get proper support xx

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 22:02

ilovemyspace · 20/01/2024 21:54

@Shamefullhouse OP please don't undo all the real progress you've been making! You've come so far and done so much to make things better.

Ok, you've fucked up :) (show me one person on here who's never made a mistake!) But people piling on to you on this thread is making you feel FAR worse about yourself that you actually should!!

The simple truth is ........... you made a miscalculation and have been fined for it. You will pay the fine even though paying it is going to make things harder for you for a while.

Ignore people on here who are making you feel worse - you don't deserve to feel so bad!! You haven't murdered someone or beaten them up or robbed a bank! You put rubbish where you shouldn't have put it - not just tossed all over the place, but disposed of as carefully as you could.

Now go and make yourself a cup of tea and give your DS a huge hug and tell him you love him too. And ask MN to delete this thread and come back on one of your other threads where you can get proper support xx

Thank you . I will probably trigger them threads to become negative as well.

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ilovemyspace · 20/01/2024 22:09

@Shamefullhouse Thank you . I will probably trigger them threads to become negative as well.

They're such a good reminder of all the good work you've done! Look back over the photos and comments and remember all the good support - MN at its best :)

Get your tin helmet and bulletproof vest on! (not sure that sounds right! - but you know what I mean)
You've done it before and you will do it again ........... even though it's bloody hard at the minute.
Don't throw away all the progress you've made! x

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 22:15

ilovemyspace · 20/01/2024 22:09

@Shamefullhouse Thank you . I will probably trigger them threads to become negative as well.

They're such a good reminder of all the good work you've done! Look back over the photos and comments and remember all the good support - MN at its best :)

Get your tin helmet and bulletproof vest on! (not sure that sounds right! - but you know what I mean)
You've done it before and you will do it again ........... even though it's bloody hard at the minute.
Don't throw away all the progress you've made! x

Everyone has been lovely on them threads they really have. But i think some people will now see them and have a go because I sorted the kids bedroom instead of getting a skip.

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greengreengrass25 · 20/01/2024 22:17

We all make mistakes OP

Please don't be too hard on yourself

ilovemyspace · 20/01/2024 22:22

@Shamefullhouse and there are enough people on those threads who have your back!

People on this thread don't know you, don't know your circumstances, don't know your background and all just piled on! Even though you took full responsibility and weren't trying to wriggle out of it / make excuses. That's one thing you've never done!

It's just one of those Saturdays on MN! 🙄 x

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Shamefullhouse · 20/01/2024 22:30

ilovemyspace · 20/01/2024 22:22

@Shamefullhouse and there are enough people on those threads who have your back!

People on this thread don't know you, don't know your circumstances, don't know your background and all just piled on! Even though you took full responsibility and weren't trying to wriggle out of it / make excuses. That's one thing you've never done!

It's just one of those Saturdays on MN! 🙄 x

I did try abs explain though. But it Came across as an excuse. I was justctryinh ti explain why I got into that position in the first place . But I messed it all up .

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