Son eating us out of house and home

[Mumof118]

DS 19 eats everything and anything. He doesn’t leave anything for anyone else and doesn’t replace. He also infuriatingly doesn’t even let you know it’s gone or add it to the Alexa shopping list.

Example: Friday evening I buy 6 pints of milk. I just go to decant a bit to take to work and it’s all gone. Every last drop. I was even at the Supermarket at 3pm and could have bought more if he added it to the Alexa list

Another example, I go to get a cake from a pack of four for dessert. All gone.

A pack of eight wraps. All used up along with the cheese.

Am I being unreasonable getting upset with him. He thinks I am.

*He sounds like a leach.

Excessive electric use as well..?!?
What's all that about?!*

You're going to subsidise him his whole life!

What's the gym for ? He doesn't NEED it!

Only provide him with standard calories!

Self indulgent and unnecessary! And that's the whole 'protein industry '! His fault.

I'd be ashamed!

My 7, 6, 5 year old knows better!

Chuck him out!

He's been out of work for at least 2 weeks!

He's brought up wrong, he's had free reign at the fridge!

Honest to god the dramatics on here.

As a wise poster said earlier - it's a story as old as time.

Roll your eyes OP, give him a straight talk and set some boundaries. It'll be fine.

He's off to uni in 9 months and he might make his fame and fortune from his Streaming Channel in the mean time ( yep some people do and have careers from it shock )
Be thankful he also takes an interest in physical activity.

He looks fine ! Honestly OP he just scarfed the puddings, well, because.

Tell him no more. And remember you do actually like him. ( so much easier when they've left the nest admittedly )

Could a bite from a radioactive spider caused him an increase in appetite?

Haha! That was his idea. I asked if he’d mind me sharing a pic no face, and he said only if it’s the Spider-Man one lol.

Final update.

DS has agreed to add anything he eats to the ‘shopping list’ (I daren’t say it).
Otherwise the consequence is he has to walk to the shop to replace at his expense.

To be honest, now it’s been 24 hours I’m sort of over it, and have let it go. We are just joking about now. What a pp said about looking back and laughing about this one day, struck a cord. There are far worse things.

He knows how I feel and has promised not to keep doing this. It was never about the money or the food, it was just the annoyance of everything being gone on a Sunday afternoon after the shops shut!

I’ve had some great advice here, that has helped me put it into perspective. I need to have high expectations where consideration is concerned, but also remember that it’s still a learning curve. I liked another word a pp used, balance.

Im sure he’ll annoy me with something else soon, so I’ll be back with more complaints :)

It's funny how pregnant women (who are growing an entire new tiny human) and women who are breastfeeding (nourishing said tiny human) don't need to eat that much. I have been drinking a lot of milk recently, but I'm still not getting through six pints in two days, because I can't afford to! (Wish Lidl did six pints, their full fat milk is the nicest.)

I guess it's because growing a small baby isn't as much extra material as growing a large lad

Like an extra cell all around a baby is less cells than an extra cell around the large lad

I have 17 year old Diabetic son i have to feed him four times a day plus snack ,s to make sure his blood sugars are stable honestly it was easier when he wss a baby with feeds!

Had to my a word with my 16 year old. He puts back pasta with say 3 bits in it and doesnt tell me when things are empty too. Also cheese. I buy sliced for this sandwiches and grated for pasta etc and he uses the sliced for pasta. I know I could buy a block but the thought of him grating or slicing cheese. He makes enough mess as it is.

Teenage boys don't 'need' to be eating twice the amount of any other person and thats where its the parents job to stop them

I think they do though. We had 3 at one point. They never stopped eating. They ate because they were hungry not greedy.

This thread is unreal. Anyone with teen boys know they eat non stop.

Well I have a teenage boy who eats like a normal adult human, in fact because he skips breakfast a lot of the time, he eats less than me usually. I keep coming back to how human males in their teenage years managed to develop at all throughout our history as a species. I cannot imagine there was any stage apart from our own where it would have been possible for anything but a tiny minority of wealthy people to have eaten at the level described by some here. Gluttony is an old fashioned word but I would use it to describe some of what is evident here.

A gap year isn't a "sit on your bum and do nothing" year! Why hasn't he got a job? There are literally thousands of jobs out there that an able-bodied adult with no responsibilities can do. He's taking the piss out of you.

I charged my DD board as soon as she left education. It would have been lovely not to need to do that, or to save it for her, but I wasn't in the financial position to do that. Noone should feel bad for making an adult child take some financial responsibility for themselves.

Gluttony would lead to being overweight though.

If said teen isn’t overweight, it’s not gluttony.

Maybe you need to accept that not every teenage is like your own ds. That not all of them have the same level of activity etc…
And that eating when you are hungry isn’t gluttony. There is nothing amazing or praise worthy in eating little.

Well I have a teenage boy who eats like a normal adult human, in fact because he skips breakfast a lot of the time, he eats less than me usually. I keep coming back to how human males in their teenage years managed to develop at all throughout our history as a species. I cannot imagine there was any stage apart from our own where it would have been possible for anything but a tiny minority of wealthy people to have eaten at the level described by some here. Gluttony is an old fashioned word but I would use it to describe some of what is evident here.

Lol fancy some humans being different to others @theleafandnotthetree And not just one, your son the " non glutton" , being a template for all teenage boys.

And there have always been cultures where men eat first.

I don't have teenage girls but do some of them go through the hollow legs stage?

And " evidently gluttony " 😂😂😂🙄

A gap year isn't a "sit on your bum and do nothing" year! Why hasn't he got a job? There are literally thousands of jobs out there that an able-bodied adult with no responsibilities can do. He's taking the piss out of you.

Calm down. It's excellent for young adults to take financial responsibility for themselves.

And OP's son has been without work for a bit over 2 weeks.

*Gluttony would lead to being overweight though.

If said teen isn’t overweight, it’s not gluttony.*

That's just too simple though.

Gluttony😂😂😂

My Dd in his hungry stage was 6ft 4 with a 28” waist. I couldn’t find trousers to fit him. He was ultra skinny.

You're obviously in a position to be able to afford huge amounts of shopping for him, most people arnt lucky enough to be in that position.
Lay the rules down, if he uses it he replaces it. Imo he's just being greedy, no one needs to drink 6 pints of milk in a few hours. Most gap year students have a job or go travelling, it would do him good to get a job and learn about budgeting. I will guarantee as soon as he has to start buying his own food, the excessive eating will stop.
Do a trial for a month where he buys all his own food and doesn't touch any of yours. £70 a month is no where near enough board, it should be that per week!!!

They don't though. I was a teenage girl with three teenage brothers at home and we all lived on three meals a day and a piece of fruit and a snack here or there. It seems the only teenage boys who "need" to eat so much are the ones raised by parents who allow them to over indulge.
My brothers played cricket, football and lived in the ocean (as did I) we were all normal weights and didn't go hungry or waste away because our mother wouldn't let us eat her out of house and home.

They don't though. I was a teenage girl with three teenage brothers at home and we all lived on three meals a day and a piece of fruit and a snack here or there. It seems the only teenage boys who "need" to eat so much are the ones raised by parents who allow them to over indulge.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

To think I've been 'over indulging ' my 4 all this time. LOL

Fancy them not being exactly same metabolism as you and your brothers!

oh my goodness . And to think there are people out there doing it " the correct way ".
And they know I'm doing it wrong, just from across the internet.

Hmmmm, wonder what mine actually did with those 'over indulgent ' calories though?
None of them are over weight at all 🤔🙄😂

What arse.

Now just where are they hiding those extra calories!

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The arrogance of this @ShelleyPercy is just beyond.

No you DON'T know what other people should be eating.

@sunglassesonthetable

i think it’s safe to say everyone knows that OP’s son shouldn’t have drank 6 pints of milk and eaten 4 desserts in less than 2 days leaving nothing for anyone else! End of.

A teenage boy needing loads of calories is not gluttony. But eating four desserts and depriving the rest of the family of any is gluttony. He could have made some toast or a sandwich, but polishing off all the good stuff is greedy and inconsiderate.