I need a good talking to, bring me back down to earth vipers !

[GreenSilks]

I’ve been single for 6 years. Had one 6 month relationship in all that time. I have had approx 150 online coffee dates. I never fancy any of them.

In the 6 years I’ve just concentrated on bringing my 2 kids up, my career and making ends meet. I have a good life really, great family and friends but admittedly have been lonely for adult company. I go on holidays alone or with friends and am out most weekends doing sports or with friends.

All this is relevant as I don’t want anyone to think I’m just grasping at straws as I’m that desperate.

Anyway if I read on a thread on mumsnet what I’m about to post, I’d be rolling my eyes and jumping in with advice.

Here goes, 4 days ago I matched with someone on Tinder, there was an instant connection, and we went straight onto WhatsApp, at my suggestion. First red flag “instant connection” I mean what a load of shit, how can you “connect” with someone online??

We’ve talked on the phone a couple
of times, for 2 hours at a time. We laughed nonstop. It was just amazing.

Ok, second red flag …. He works abroad! I know! I know!! Although it’s 2 months away and 1 month home in the UK.

Third red flag- he’s 13 years younger than me! Tall, good looking and from what I can gather from the job he does, very financially secure. He has 2 young adult kids who he see regularly and an ex who isn’t a psycho.

Look I’m a veteran of on-line dating, and I’ve seen it all, but this guy I feel is 100% genuine! Although … 4th red flag I can’t find him on social media and I can normally find anyone!

Right vipers getting ready for the punchline. He’s home in 10 days and … I’m picking him up from the airport!

WTF! I am so excited, we’re talking about a future together. WE HAVEN’T EVEN MET!

He says he feels the same, he’s not gone as far to declare his undying love but he’s said loads of amazingly sweet things. It doesn’t feel like love bombing. He’s only (so he says) been in 2 relationships.

Wish I could enable voting on the App, but I’m being stupidly naive eh?

Should add, I'm in my 50's

God what an arsehole he turned out to be op. I’m sorry. Why do these men behave like this?

I am so glad you found him out though? Hope you have blocked him and that you didn’t give away too many personal details during your conversations.

I wish there were some official consequences for these fraudsters. I don’t suppose the police would be interested because he hasn’t committed any crimes as yet (apart from sending indecent images to previous contact) ?

Wishing you all the best and hoping it's genuine, but I would be wary in your shoes.

Following with interest because despite being a cynic and very distrustful of many men, I love a bit of romance!

You can’t be following with very much interest, though, or you’d have read ALL the OP’s posts, and would know by now that he’s a dirty scamming wanker.

@Brackishmaaah722 I reported mine to Tinder and Action Fraud but they did bugger all 🙄

Thanks!

duckduckgo can't find it from there though :(

I don't understand married people who I assume want to cheat on the sly being dumb enough to be on a site like tinder

If you type a phone number into google, it will come up with various sites, such as the image below

https://www.google.com/search?q=07700161656

Yes, I know. I always search when I have a missed call from someone I don't know. I just meant I wouldn't have thought to search the number of a man I was dating. It also seems a good idea to search if someone thinks their partner might be cheating!

I use duckduckgo precisely because I don't wish to use google.

When you say you laughed and laughed. It was all sexual tension and innuendo wasn't it ?

So leading up to dirty pics. So much laughing is always sexual.

You need to know what company he works for or where he lives before you let him in your car. If he won't tell you, then he's obviously already in a relationship or worse.

I don't think it's a good idea for her to try and find this out. She needs to carry on as she is.

I'm sorry I'm still a bit confused...so it looks like he's attached and hasn't been truthful about his military background?

You are a talented writer, op .