Partner says I'm "ignorant" for going out today -when his family are coming over-am I?

[louisejaynn]

We live together.
Back in October I said why don't you invite sister and niece over Boxing Day-I will do food and we can play games etc
He said no-they have their own life etc
I asked a few times in December and kept telling just to ask them.
He said no.
So Boxing Day (today ) I arranged to meet a friend for lunch and do some sales shopping
Partner was watching racing /football anyway so didn't think twice.
Last night he said "oh sister text she's coming over tomorrow "
I asked what time and he said "she didn't say"
I asked him to ask or at least say can you come after 4 and I can prepare food.
He said no I can't do that ,they will have things to do
This morning she texts him saying il be over at 1
I said well I won't be in.
He said I'm ignorant for going out when his family are going over ....but I had already made plans and gave him plenty of options to invite them.
Am I ignorant ?
He is texting now saying -try and get back I'm embarrassed you have chose shopping over my family and that they have a gift for me
I'm sat in a cafe with friend-she's gone to pop to boots so now I feel so bad for not being home
Am I in the wrong ?

There isn’t any logic.
First of all he doesn’t know what ignorant means, so he’s the ignorant one.

You repeatedly asked him to invite them and he wouldn’t, so you assumed they weren’t coming. Anyone would have assumed the same.

You make other arrangements.

He then says they’re coming after all, but he won’t ask them when. Then he suddenly tells you when they’re coming and expects you to jump.

Please be careful. This is not a good relationship and he isn’t treating you well. This isn’t going anywhere good.

He sounds like a pig of a man.

You repeatedly ask if he wants to invite them, he repeatedly says no, you make other plans, then he springs on you at the last minute that they're coming and he expects his house slave to be there to serve them.

Fuck him.

Oh and he doesn't know what "ignorant" means, either.

That's not why he was using the word though, was it? He told her she was ignorant for going out rather than staying at home and playing hostess. That is not the correct use of the word at all.

Its a colloquial usage. Not worth fighting over.

Only because his ignorance and misuse of the word are the least of his issues.

Partner is an oaf. You asked him well before if he’d like to invite his sister and niece over on Boxing Day several times and he dismissed the idea every time.
Why the heck wouldn’t you have made other plans? You made the ideal suggestion of asking him if he could say to his sister, “come over after 4,” which is perfectly reasonable and he wouldn’t.
Partner has no right to whinge and needs to be told in a Detective John Kimble voice and accent, “stop whining!”

PS your partner sounds like Michael Jackson/Mr Jefferson in that South Park episode where he’s saying everything is, “ignorant.” What a div!