Fuming for a friend reaction to my baby

[Sadtiming]

So long story short
a friend A of few years came to visit by arranging of another friend B. I didn’t mention inviting A this time but B did. So I went along with it we have a new born and she was invited few times and she never got back to me but managed to come now.
Turned up empty-handed( which I wouldn’t care about it but she is the only one out of 50 guests to turn up like that) plus with the grumpiest face on her face, didn’t say congratulations at all
didn’t look at my baby, didn’t do any eye contact small talk with my baby, didn’t compliment nothing !!! Had food and a drink and left !!
I’m literally fuming and angry, I just have never seen anything like that. I have met many babies in my life and I have grown up in a family where you are happy about other people babies and you want to hold them and just congratulate to parents really …. I’m like what had actually just happened …

Aside from OP having a pregnancy loss followed by a healthy live birth they don't seem to have faced problems. This seems to be the problem.

They also think it's ok to say "haha enjoy your maternity leave" to people on here who can't have children. So I would say they are very problematic as a person. Not ideal for raising a child. Hopefully OP will read the thread and gain some insight, but I doubt it.

Oh you misread again…
I congratulated to a mum who said she is on a maternity leave

Sorry, who were you congratulating? Nobody said anything about being on maternity leave before you commented "haha enjoy".

@JustEatTheOneInTheBallPit this is the person I replied to “ enjoy your maternity leave”
not you you @howdoyoudotoo you never mentioned you are on a maternity leave nor that you have infertility problems just from the very beginning you have been very very bitter to every single comment as I noticed that from your first comment I wish you to heal and work through your traumas

@JustEatTheOneInTheBallPit please confirm your comment as I really don’t know what’s wrong with these people here, trying to make up lies when clearly there is a proof

Ah right... no, @JustEatTheOneInTheBallPit was talking about how her maternity leave was far enough in the past that she had forgotten what it was like to have spare time to be annoyed about things like this! She is not on maternity leave now. This may be why people are assuming your "enjoy your maternity leave" comment was sarcastic/aimed at someone else.

Where is this from ?
Are you actually reading the comments or just going through the most interesting few comments for you?
I was being judged for my bad English grammar and I said I’m Italian I’m sorry for my bad English
its that simple 😂

Get over yourself.

Oh I see okey then I hope she enjoyed her maternity leave I corrected myself
I apologise for misunderstanding the comment
thank you @TheOccupier ☺️

OP are there any social or family ties that made her feel obliged to finally accept an invitation? She seems to have delayed it for a while?

Also, I wonder about her age. I never wanted children and by 40, I was absolutely done with trying to interact , play, show interest in my friends' kids. I did it .... but at 47, I find those friends are STILL too busy with their children to see me, so I feel annoyed that I wasted all that time.

I have been told off for not saying hello to babies in recent years. I usually do but my brain generally focuses on the people I actually wanted to see so sometimes I forget.

My boyfriend told me that that woman is never stepping in our house again
she made us so uncomfortable in our own home
if you don’t want to say “hello” to my baby and to the hosts, or even congratulate us, or do a eye contact or speak to me ( one of these things… she was avoiding the hosts all night)simple basic manners as the majority of you have said
I don’t need you to come in my house anymore
it’s that simple why would you even bother to come at first place ? Thank you for your time replying on here ♥️
I feel stronger now to protect my family from negative, toxic and bad wishers X

I reckon maybe A felt awkward by being there as she was invited by B and not you. Maybe she felt she wasn't really welcomed/invited.

But also, she may well be having fertility issues of her own so would no doubt find it hard to be around new mothers and newborns.

I'm so sorry for your loss OP

I understand this as:

OP was in touch with the rude friend trying to arrange her to come over but the rude friend was flakey/unresponsive.

Another friend convinces rude friend to accompany her to visit the OP and the baby (congratulations OP!)

Rude friend arrives without a present but with a face like a smacked arse and actively tried to piss OP off by pretending like the baby doesn't exist

Rude friend eats and drinks to her hearts content, takes her Christmas present and fucks off without saying thanks.

You are not in the wrong @Sadtiming. Trauma or no trauma (she should've stayed at home if she felt too upset to attend), this person is an entitled, attention seeking CF. This would be her last visit/interaction with me or my baby.

Well said @mightymam
I wouldn't have been fuming just extremely disappointed.

I'm confused by your post so I might be misunderstanding, but.... was the person who you think was rude not invited? Might she have seemed rude because she was upset about not being invited?