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As a 41 yo woman, would you date a 62 yo man ?

333 replies

Thekormachameleon · 11/12/2023 12:50

He's good looking, financially comfortable, works full time, funny, fit and healthy

But it just seems such a huge age gap

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dreamingdays · 11/12/2023 12:51

unlikely unless there was a massive good reason to do so. Wouldn't want to end up nursing him within a few years.

Bonjovispjs · 11/12/2023 12:51

Yeah, if I really liked him then I definately would.

mynameiscalypso · 11/12/2023 12:52

Nope. I'm 40 and my FIL is 62. The age gap seems enormous and getting bigger all the time.

TurkeyTrotToXmas · 11/12/2023 12:54

Nope

RecycleThie · 11/12/2023 12:55

I wouldn’t pursue it- 62 can still seem middle aged but it tips v quickly into old age. OTOH if you really like him, I wouldn’t end it.

Nothingbuttheglory · 11/12/2023 12:55

Old enough to be my dad? I know a few men in their early 60s of varying delightfulness, and I'm not attracted to any of them. Sorry, no.

JancisBeguildy · 11/12/2023 12:56

Fuck, no.

Thesearmsofmine · 11/12/2023 12:56

No. I’m 40 and still feel young, 62 is old enough to be my father and a different generation plus I couldn’t see myself with then in 10 years when they are in their 70’s.

Berlinlover · 11/12/2023 12:56

I’m 47 and my partner is 68. We’re together three years and he is the love of my life.

Wolvesart · 11/12/2023 12:56

SIL is 60 and FIL is 80 - they were 34 and 54 when they married. The gap seemed bigger then than now. She was a little bit wild and he calmed her down but in every other sense she’s the bossy one. They are musicians so both still work.

rainpleasestop · 11/12/2023 12:57

Yep

Lovemusic82 · 11/12/2023 12:58

No, I wouldn’t. I am 41 and dated a 55 year old for a bit, I think that’s as old as I would go. He was reasonably fit and didn’t look his age but we were quite different due to the age gap, I can imagine not having much in common with a 62 year old and I can’t imagine having sex with someone that much older 😬 it would give me the ick.

AIstolemylunch · 11/12/2023 12:58

Nursing him n a few years? He's 62 not 82! But still, would be a no for me, especially if you still want to have kids.if not, date maybe but is it a long term prospect?

RainbowZebraWarrior · 11/12/2023 12:59

Wolvesart · 11/12/2023 12:56

SIL is 60 and FIL is 80 - they were 34 and 54 when they married. The gap seemed bigger then than now. She was a little bit wild and he calmed her down but in every other sense she’s the bossy one. They are musicians so both still work.

I'm not feeling myself today, but I just read this as your Sister in Law is married to your Father in Law.

LizziesTwin · 11/12/2023 12:59

No & I’m older than you.

MondayIgotNothingToDo · 11/12/2023 12:59

He's too old. He should date women 58+

itsmyp4rty · 11/12/2023 12:59

I might date him but I wouldn't want to move in together or marry him. It would just be fun and company.

Whyyes · 11/12/2023 12:59

No. He's old enough to be your dad. A completely different generation. I'd be questioning why he's going after women 20 years younger than himself. He can't handle wrinkles or women aging? There are lovely men that are closer in age to yourself.

Sarah2891 · 11/12/2023 13:00

I'm 41 and no I definitely wouldn't. Too much of an age gap and difference in life stage.

InTheStars · 11/12/2023 13:01

I have a friend who is nearly 54 and her husband is 25 years her senior. She seems very happy and he's a good guy, but the coming years are going to be hard for her as she cares for her mother who is in her early eighties and her husband isn't getting any younger. Basically she has two pensioners living with her while holding down a professional job.

ohsotired2022 · 11/12/2023 13:01

@RainbowZebraWarrior
That's how I'm reading it too!

I feel I don't understand what other way ?

ohsotired2022 · 11/12/2023 13:02

And no, I wouldn't date someone that much older.

MondayIgotNothingToDo · 11/12/2023 13:02

Thing is, all those qualities you could find in a man younger (36-48) and closer to your 41.
Unless he is an extraordinary man with no history of cradle robbing and millionaire/billionaire and extremely kind, generous and genuine then no. It just reinforces men's entitlement.

safetyfreak · 11/12/2023 13:03

No way!

Lets be honest, how many good years does he have left before health issues start and you become a carer?

Mabelface · 11/12/2023 13:03

Nope, not at my age of 53 either.