As a 41 yo woman, would you date a 62 yo man ?

[Thekormachameleon]

He's good looking, financially comfortable, works full time, funny, fit and healthy

But it just seems such a huge age gap

Ooops, I was always a bit rubbish with acronyms - I mean BIl

He's very entitled to even think you'd be a goer

Depends what you’re looking for. Dating would be fine if you enjoy his company but I probably wouldn’t be looking at it as a long term arrangement

A Freudian slip perhaps 😁

Not in a million years!

DH is nearly 60, and whilst I do love him, he can be a right old moaner, and he is always tired, and he has a new ailment every month. He is like Victor Meldrew half the time.

But I am a grumpy mid-late 50s post menopausal woman who loses her temper easily, and can be hard work too. I am like Margaret Meldrew!

We 'match' as we are almost the same age. And for the most part, we get on well.

There is no way in HELL I would have been with someone around 60 years of age, who is like how my DH is now, (when I was just out of my 30s!) Oh the horror!

.

Not in a million years. I am 40 and 60 is old to me (in the romantic sense)

No. Hell no. There are enough caring responsibilities in life without upping the odds unnecessarily.

Easily could have 20 years of good health... its the 21st century not 1900s.

My friend is 60 and her DH 47 and the difference is really biting now because of health disparities.

I'd tread carefully

Hell no

I’m 56 and to be honest would think twice yet alone at your age.

No absolutely not. I would want to be potentially looking after a 70 odd year old when I’m early 50’s.

If I fancied them I’d definitely be up for a fling. Unlikely to want a ltr relationship with that kind of age gap though.

Absolutely not.

Definitely not. Waayyyy too old.

I wouldn't personally, but I'm 40 next Year and my DM is 61.. but no judgement, if he's a good guy and treats you well - go for it!

This is a similar age gap to my Dad and his wife and they started dating around the same age give or take a year or two. My Dad was exactly how you describe the man you know. They have been happy but my Dad is now a very very elderly man with Alzheimer's and my lovely stepmum is still a relatively young woman. I know nobody can tell you what the future holds but I would consider all scenarios.

Fil is 74, step mil is 50, happily together for over ten years but the gap is becoming g more apparent as time goes on. They seem to be very happy though.

Hell no!

My DH is 62 and there has been a lot of going downhill the past year! And it has changed really quickly. I’m 61 so I’m ok with it, but no way I’d deal with this potential at 43.

To everyone saying OP may end up a carer. I’m 47 and was diagnosed with Stage 3 cancer in September. My partner is 68 and caring for me. You never know how life can turn out.

All the women I know who have dated older either become carers or widows. When he is 60+ he gets to date a 40 year old. When you're 60+ you'll likely have to care for an 80+ year old

My theory is that if they could realistically be your parent (and that age gap is not too dissimilar to me and my mother) then it's too big a gap. Age is just a number and all that, but do you really want to be with someone who was young when your dad was? And who may well leave you widowed before your parents pass? Or leaving you in a situation of nursing a sick DH and two sick parents?

My friends have age gap like this it's really up to you

I'm 60 and would think twice about it. Men generally age much quicker, don't look after themselves as much (although younger men are getting better at this), and tend to be more set in their ways.