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As a 41 yo woman, would you date a 62 yo man ?

333 replies

Thekormachameleon · 11/12/2023 12:50

He's good looking, financially comfortable, works full time, funny, fit and healthy

But it just seems such a huge age gap

OP posts:
Firefly2009 · 11/12/2023 15:53

FKATondelayo · 11/12/2023 13:35

I've never met a man in his late 50s/60s who isn't either a) a monologuer or b) completely lacking in social chat. I don't even talk to men casually if they don't ask questions about other people or stop talking about themselves for 1 minute.

This has been my experience as well. So true!!

itsmylife7 · 11/12/2023 15:54

No.

Olika · 11/12/2023 15:59

No.

HollowEgg · 11/12/2023 16:00

For husband no.2 I’m going for old, rich and a dodgy ticker.

Firefly2009 · 11/12/2023 16:07

Reading the responses is very entertaining :-) Lol to some of them.

I had a similar dilemma, same age gap.

I paused for thought when I wanted to go ice skating on a date and he definitely wasn't up for it. Perhaps that's immature of me in my 40s, but I still like to do fun, energetic things occasionally.

QuestionableMouse · 11/12/2023 16:09

No, I'm 38 and dating someone in their 60s feels like an enormous age difference - to me it's different stages of life!

Westfacing · 11/12/2023 16:16

Lots of women date famous and wealthy older men who are film directors, actors, aristos, etc. Just as they would date a short man, if he were rich enough!

Goingsunny · 11/12/2023 16:23

If you connect well and have lots in common I don't see why not to be honest. Some people age long before their time, others are young at heart for years. You're done having kids so no pressure on there, you can keep it relaxed and just have fun together. I would see what happens personally.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 11/12/2023 16:27

Fuck no.Im 43.

Beaniebeemer · 11/12/2023 16:28

I’ve just turned 40. My Dad is 62. So it would be a no from me on that basis alone!

Pigeonqueen · 11/12/2023 16:29

God no. I’m 43 and dh is 35. Someone in their 60s would be like dating my Dad and would make me feel older than I am. If dh and I ever split up I’d be looking for someone in their mid 30s ish. I really don’t fancy men my own age. 🙈😆

BogRollBOGOF · 11/12/2023 16:34

No. That's the age gap between me and my parents. DH is older, but not by nearly that much and there are phases where the age gap opens and closes. He suddenly felt middle-aged when I was 35.

With a 20 year age gap, you can easily spend your last healthy years nursing an elderly spouse, then have to deal with your own old age on your own, rather than growing old together.

FlyingCherub · 11/12/2023 16:34

I'm in my early 50s, DH in his early 60s. It's like living with some hybrid Basil Fawlty/Victor Meldrew only really not as funny.

Just No. In fact, RUN as fast as your legs will carry you.

I've already told our adult DC that they're caring for him as I won't be!

blackheartsgirl · 11/12/2023 16:41

No.
my stepdad was 18 years younger than my mum and he was 47 when they met. He ended up being her carer quite early on and I’m not going to lie it has aged him. They loved each other very much but it’s took years from him, now she’s died and he’s lost. 😢.

helenjerome · 11/12/2023 16:43

No

BlochAroundTheClock · 11/12/2023 16:44

No

TreesWelliesKnees · 11/12/2023 16:47

Not a chance.

NeedWineNow · 11/12/2023 17:17

I'm 61 and my DH has just turned 70. He's still very youthful in appearance and outlook, and we love being together, holidays, trips out, theatre etc.

That said, I do tell him to stop being such an Old Git when he gets on his soapbox about certain things, and I do worry about possibly ending up being his carer. We have had The Chat about life and potential health pitfalls as it were. He's told me if he is ever diagnosed with anything which will put a strain on me or our marriage I'm to take him to Dignitas as he doesn't want to be a burden. Bugger that, I told him I'm going to shoot him and bury him under the patio as it will be cheaper...

BeggyMitchell · 11/12/2023 17:48

Westfacing · 11/12/2023 16:16

Lots of women date famous and wealthy older men who are film directors, actors, aristos, etc. Just as they would date a short man, if he were rich enough!

And plenty more who could never sleep with someone they're not attracted to simply for money or fame.

DisforDarkChocolate · 11/12/2023 17:54

No. It wouldn't even cross my mind. I want to enjoy my middle aged, not spend it as an old man's carer. Odd on that would happen when I was still in my prime.

FKATondelayo · 11/12/2023 22:04

There's a whole galaxy of difference between dating Brad Pitt or Bruce Springsteen and dating Bob from the Rotary Club who's got a part-time job in B&Q.

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Thekormachameleon · 11/12/2023 22:28

FKATondelayo · 11/12/2023 22:04

There's a whole galaxy of difference between dating Brad Pitt or Bruce Springsteen and dating Bob from the Rotary Club who's got a part-time job in B&Q.

He's actually really good looking, I initially thought he was around 48-50 and was shocked when I found out his age

He also has a very good job and works full time

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Peepshowcreepshow · 11/12/2023 22:33

No chance and I'm a decade older than you.

GiraffeInABath · 11/12/2023 22:53

A friend of mine is living with a man 33 years older than her (she’s 28 years old and he’s 61!). Surprisingly, he’s very wealthy and pays for my friend… she works one day a week as a hobby. Would she be with him if he were poor? Probably not. Do they have a wonderful life and he provides her with stability? Yes. Admittedly, my friend is tall, slim, pretty and outgoing.