As a 41 yo woman, would you date a 62 yo man ?

[Thekormachameleon]

He's good looking, financially comfortable, works full time, funny, fit and healthy

But it just seems such a huge age gap

Yes… if he was as fit and handsome as Tom Cruise. Not if he was an average looking guy in his sixties though.

Just to answer some points
I'm done having children, my only child is now an adult and away at uni

He's never dated anyone younger than him so not some sleaze who chases young women

The care issue - I'm the one with medical problems, he's a lot fitter and healthier than I am

I have never ever considered dating anyone this much older but we just get along so well and have so much in common

41, 62.
50, 71.
60, 81.
70, 91.

If it's a short-term, light-hearted dating-for-fun you're thinking of, then yes I would.

But - I could not regard this as likely to become a serious relationship. I would be far too wary of becoming his carer.

Nooooo!

No. I'm 41 and my in-laws are in their early to mid sixties.

I personally wouldn't. To near my dad's age.

He sounds fine for dating. Enjoy yourselves!

If either of you were considering a long-term, live-in relationship, you would have to realistically weigh up the pros and cons. You would still be fit and frisky in your fifties, he might not be in his seventies. We cannot predict how someone will be in years to come.

Good luck.

It depends what I (we both) wanted from the relationship?

Some fun and compaionship for dates and days out etc? The odd break away? Something light and friendly and fun that might end amicably or lead to a non-romantic friendship. Yes, sure.

Something deeper that I was hoping would become a long term romantic partnership? No. That seems like a one-way ticket to pain with such an age gap at such a time in life.

No. I'm 16 years younger than my husband and he's now 70 - and suddenly become old in his attitudes. I do love him but his "old man persona" is becoming irritating.

No way, 40s and 60s are poles apart imo.

Noooooo

I'm 41 and DH is about to turn 60. He's in great health I'm disabled and in poor health and we are very happy together despite life being very difficult at the moment. Together 17 years married almost 14.

No chance. If I was 41, 55 would be my absolute maximum, and then he'd have to be really special!

I think I would go for it if they are as fit as you describe op! It’s largely about mindset anyway!

I know some shockingly unfit 30 year olds at work who I can easily beat running upstairs and I’m twice their age,

There was a large age gap between my parents though and I have to say it only really showed up after my dad turned eighty. He had always been slightly frail though.

Sorry that’s not much help but I wish you happiness op!

True but statistically it is more likely for the younger party to end up the carer. Can't predict cancer very well/widely yet but we do know age only goes up.

It’s the same gap between me and my dad. I’m ten years older than you, but I still couldn’t see this working long term. He will be in his mid-80s, and have been retired for 20 years, by the time you get to stop working! What would your life together look like? Unfortunately, caring responsibilities always fall disproportionately on women, so I think you’re in for a tough and unrewarding time if you pursue this.

If I was attracted to him and liked everything about him, then yes. However, I have never seen a man that age that I've been attracted to, so the chances of me meeting someone that age and wanting to date them would be slim.

Transpose your medical conditions on to him. What is the impact on his life, how well does he manage, what's his resilience, what coping strategies are needed. The body is very different in its 60s to its 40s. Age is not the only factor in health & resilience but it's a darn big one!

No I wouldn't, while a man that age might be charming, I am not attracted to men that much older than me and I doubt many, if any women are. At 62 he is only a few years away from old age and being elderly. I know people that age and its not appealing to me as a partner at all.

The ex-footballer Roy Keane is 52 while he is still attractive and rich he also seems much older than me, I might date him but even he is pushing it!

Yeah, I’ve been googling 61 year old male celebrities. Jon Stewart is 61 and I fancy him so would definitely be up for that, but if it’s Dave down the pub then it’s not so appealing.

No. Next question.

Hell No.
That kind of security comes at a price.
Happily support yourself instead, financially and emotionally, you don't need to be stuck with a much older man, who inevitably will suffer health issues long before you.

This. It would be like my DB dating my MIL

Just all kinds of no.

Not in a million years